Hosting loud teenager parties in gardens in residential streets

[RudsyFarmer]

Is this reasonable?

Next door neighbour has given us (and the street) a few days notice of a party that will go on until 12am with loud music and lots of cars arriving /departing. Not enough time to get a room somewhere unfortunately.

I have two primary aged kids and early plans on Sunday morning. Honestly would never be so selfish and would always hire a hall, but I have a feeling I’m in the minority.

AIBU to feel peevish?

@LetMeEnfoldYou Please see my previous post.

I agree with this. It's one night and it's Saturday.

Her children don't play in the garden except for specifically that one time that she had to ask the neighbours to stop swearing cos her child was....in the garden

Also if you huff and puff you can then never have a party yourself!

I agree with you, OP. This thread is also full of people desperately trying to prove how 'hip' they are - it's embarrassing.

A gathering in someone's garden wouldn't bother me as a one-off, but loud music in gardens is never ok in my opinion. I wouldn't even do this during the daytime.

We had some friends to our house during covid - quiet background music and all inside at 9pm. None of my neighbours have small children either, but they're retired/elderly and I figured that when you're the person hosting, you don't realise how far voices carry outdoors.

Oh yawn! I mean you used 'hip' which is the first worry. 😄 If you really think that posters being ok with the occasional party on a Saturday night are trying to be 'hip' then you're clearly as uptight as the OP.

I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't want one. Couldn't think of anything worse 😩

Oh please. No one is trying to be hip at all.
Most people like to socialise in their homes, most people do so with consideration and not that often.
If people can't cope with other people living in close proximity they really need to live where there aren't any.

I'm nearly 40 and been going to very drunken house parties since i was a teen!! Nobody hired a hall beyond 16 years.
I still have one once a year myself too. i do send my immediate neighbours notes but i don't do it every weekend so i don't actually care if they moan.

I love hearing parties - it means people are having fun!! I grew up with parents that taught us to sleep through anything - they never turned down music for us to sleep, and often vacuumed and stuff when we were in bed. They were never precious over things that might wake us because they couldn't control other peoples noise.

You may not want a party but your teens in the future might!

When your kids are teenagers they will want to have or go to house parties.

@AllesAusLiebe
I mean you lost me at ‘we had some friends to ours during Covid…all inside by 9pm….’

whete to begin 👏👏👏

I remember being pissed off as a relatively new mum that a bunch of kids had decided to have a wee mini rave in the park across from my house. I was so worried they'd wake and upset my then 5 and 3 year olds. Except when I went into check on them they were both standing in front of the window dancing and having a fab time! My youngest asked if she could go and join in 🤣. I was tempted!! Surely one way to break up a teen party is for a middle-aged mammy to rock up with her toddlers and start dancing.

What is your point here? The pubs were shut but people were able to mix in groups of 6 in our area.

Would you be one of the folks peeping through your curtains and reporting your neighbours for gathering when it was perfectly legal, yet pretending on the internet that you're cool and easy going enough to rave along with a garden party at 1am?

Some people on this thread are being deliberately difficult.

@AllesAusLiebe
no I shall leave you to peep through your curtains and report teens for enjoying a party who by the way also suffered tremendously during Covid and weren’t allowed to mix or go to school…. Deary me - you’re so entitled it’s unbelievable.
Also why do you presume they’re raving until 1am - says more about you actually. Just admit - you got this one wrong…

YABU. You should count yourself lucky they even told you in advance!

I asked you what the point you were making actually was.

I don't believe you've answered this.

@AllesAusLiebe excuse me? Are you this righteous in everyday life or is the heat getting to you?
My point is those in glass houses. A lot of people disagreed with indoor mingling during Covid (rightly or wrongly and not something that needs to be discussed now) but you felt it your right - presumably because you wanted some much needed social interaction with your friends and why not? But, I find it more than mildly amusing that you did that and yet you have an issue with teenagers basically wanting to do the same with their friends. Until the party has actually happened nobody even knows if they’ll be ‘raving until 1am’ or not. You had to go indoors at 9pm because of your neighbours so were you raving?

@snowmanshoes Incorrect. I didn't 'need' to go inside at 9pm, I chose to out of consideration for my neighbours. It really is a straightforward matter of reading my post, where I stated that voices carry outdoors, particularly at nighttime, therefore I felt it was neighbourly to bring the gathering inside.

I don't believe that a garden party that lasts until midnight is considerate, irrespective of whether a note has been put through the doors of those living nearby. You are clearly much more relaxed and down with the kids than I am, and that's fine. Let's leave it there.

The struggle is real. 😂

@AllesAusLiebe
I’m not claiming to be down with the kids or cool by the way lol but yes fair enough let’s leave it be. Enjoy the rest of your evening (no agenda in that statement lol)

Is it a weekly event? A one off party then 🙄

Teenagers these days can't use fake ids & go to clubs!

Why is it assumed that every teenager will want to do this? Mine never have and they are 19 and 17 now. They also don't go to parties like that because we are fairly quiet people and don't like to disturb others as it's not fair.

I think it’s not unreasonable if it’s a once/twice a year situation. We have done it and so have our neighbours. With warning and a slice of cake to soften the blow!

our garden is an extension of our home. I didn’t put all our money into a home with a decent size garden not for us and more specifically our children to enjoy.

my kids are very guilty of bouncing balls, kicking balls, throwing balls and hitting balls throughout the day!

our home and garden are safe and secure and that’s why they do these things at home.

Op, i had three years of an unregulated hmo next to me with lodgers sometimes kipping for one night. All cash in hand to the landlord.

No regulations, no tenancy agreements.

Eh, the council all did nothing, we had groups of 15 and more each night like they were having a party and the most selfish unpleasant people I've ever met. I used to beg them to keep the noise to certain hours and they laughed at me.
Even when my baby was ill and desperately high temp i was begging them in a heatwave to move away with tons of smoke and keep noise down and they said "it's not our fault your baby is ill"

Op.

I would be profusely thanking your neighbours for this warning, profusely showering them in gratitude and wishing their teens a good party.