Hosting loud teenager parties in gardens in residential streets

[RudsyFarmer]

Is this reasonable?

Next door neighbour has given us (and the street) a few days notice of a party that will go on until 12am with loud music and lots of cars arriving /departing. Not enough time to get a room somewhere unfortunately.

I have two primary aged kids and early plans on Sunday morning. Honestly would never be so selfish and would always hire a hall, but I have a feeling I’m in the minority.

AIBU to feel peevish?

And how is me venting online impacting any of my neighbours whatsoever?

When DS and DD had their 16th parties - they were held at home (no hall would agree! - this is normal as a) they are worried it would get messy and b) if they have a bar attached they won't make much money as they're not supposed to drink!)
So I made my DC go round the neighbours beforehand to tell them

I've listened to teens (and adults) have house and garden parties over the years. Yes, it can be a bit annoying when you are in your garden/house and can hear it.

But it's just one of the issues of living in a residential area where there are lots of houses.

To be fair it's no more annoying than hearing someone mowing their lawn or strumming a hedge at 9am in a Sunday, or hearing squealing younger children playing in gardens, bouncing balls or bouncing on trampolines.

The killjoy comment actually wasn’t mine, but it’s just your attitude towards it OP. Winging about people entertaining in their own homes doesn’t really give off fun loving, easy going, “life of the party” vibes does it?

Their kids also swear loudly and bounce balls regularly but I guess that also makes me intolerant to find that antisocial.

I also have them and they have get togethers in our garden that end at 11pm. I would also not kick off when someone has warned me that a party is going ahead until 12pm as a one off.

I don’t understand why warning people is considered to make it better.

Are they meant to move out that night? If not, how does it help?

People having a BBQ or a lunch party is massively different to a nighttime gathering of pissed teens. We all know that.

12am even🤘

It's a one off and a midnight finish on a Saturday really isn't that late.
They've been decent enough to let you know. Get a grip. Or move to somewhere without any neighbours.

Ffs

It's a little courtesy, goes down well with us regular folk
Response is usually "ah thanks for letting us know, have a great time"
Then they do, and the story ends.

Were you never an older teen op? Did you honestly never go to a house party?

I agree. Instead of going where's that bloody music coming from - you say oh such and suchfrom 2 doors down is having a good time at their party, let's get Classic FM on!

Are you serious op? It’s ending at midnight and they’ve given you notice. Ffs some people - get a grip - I’m glad this is all you have to worry about…,

Perhaps, but these were your words “I’m tired of people houses being the hub of all activity. Covid started it off, I’m guessing COL has exacerbated it. Just constant house renovations and garden noise”.

So you’d probably still be winging about it if it was a lunchtime bbq!

Plus, it totally depends on your lifestyle and this is why neighbours just accept a certain level of disruption. When DH and I first bought our house with no dog/kids/responsibilities, it would have disturbed our sleep a lot more if we had neighbours with kids playing loudly in the garden in the morning than the house next door having a party until midnight. That was just our lifestyle then!

Just because you have young children so would prefer early nights and early mornings doesn’t mean that everybody does. We all put up with some disruption because we all appreciate that our neighbours probably have some irritations with us as well on occasion!

Now that post hits pretty much the whole bingo card.

@RudsyFarmer honestly take a minute

No you’re just annoying. Honestly. This has annoyed me no end

They do but most 18 year olds are in 6th form.
So a lot of their friends are under 18 and therefore may not get into piba or clubs which these days are really strict.
You have all this to look forward to OP when your little angels hit their teens.

no one is as quiet as they think they are, especially with kids. House parties aren’t some new invention, that’s all I did every weekend as a teen. Maybe have a few drinks yourself at the weekend and enjoy yourself?

Snowman you might have frostbite to get your knickers in a twist about but i think it’s inconsiderate and putting notes through people’s doors to warn them
of your impeding inconsideration doesn’t make it anymore palatable!

If our neighbours knocked and said they were having a teen party at the weekend that would finish at midnight I'd wish them a happy birthday and have a nice time but I'd still be lying there at 1am on the saturday because it will inevitably overrun totally seething about not being able to get to sleep.

People are allowed to be pissed off about stuff it doesn't mean they arnt good neighbours or going to go and pull the plug out the speakers at 12am on the dot.

It was me who used the word killjoy and I guess you specifically aren't actually saying anything to your neighbours but lots of people agreeing with you are suggesting you ruin their fun which is the very definition of a killjoy.

It's just mean spirited. Let them have their fun. It's ONE night.

What’s annoyed you no end?