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Days out, wanky names, and whining kids

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Tonightsthenight91 · 04/09/2023 21:40

I know ibu and this is a light hearted ish thread. Feeling riled after yesterdays and todays outings.

yesterday went out to a popular attraction with my DC. Very busy with it being last day of summer holidays for most. Today to a local park, some schools have gone back near us and some haven’t.

Both times - EVERYWHERE there were kids crying, whining, parents flustered, kids having tantrums and/or injuring themselves. Sometimes I take a step back and observe scenes like these and think WHY do we do it to ourselves? It seems the vast majority of parents are stressed up to their eyeballs on days out with kids that can’t seem to be pleased. Watching parents struggle whilst sun cream gets slapped on, soggy picnic sarnies, ice creams attracting wasps.

Then there’s the insta mum brigade trying to keep everyone picture perfect for photo shoots getting worked up when their kids aren’t Co-operating shouting at their oh-so-uniquely-named kids to pose/keep clean/don’t go in the mud/hug their sibling. Ugghhh it’s draining to even overhear never mind be in it!

every time kids are around I’m silently cringing at the “unique” name trend some parents seem to be on. Do people not realise the more unique they try to sound they ironically appear more common in the try hard to be different group?! Some that stood out to me were “kitch” 3 siblings called “blue beaux and B” “winter” “Adonis” and the best of all “darling dolce” 🙃

I know iabu I’m just grumpy after a long 6 weeks and sick of having to do child friendly stuff every day. Roll on Wednesday when my DC are back 😂

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ColonelPine · 05/09/2023 00:18

Were they pronouncing the x in Beaux?

sezzer87 · 05/09/2023 00:48

100% agree! I'm sooo glad I had my last 10 Years ago before the wankiness really ramped up, before colostrum harvesting and surname first names and gender reveal parties etc.
nobody cares you've had a kid. You're just a normal human who's plopped out a child..end off. The trouble is with instagram is everyone thinks they're a little bit famous and that everybody cares and that they have to be 'unique'. We all bleed the same and just cause your sons called Valentino-Bleu and you have fake grass and a French bulldog doesn't make you special or your kid special, your shit still stinks and you still get crusty eye bogeys like the rest of us.

sezzer87 · 05/09/2023 00:49

lightisnotwhite · 04/09/2023 23:51

Feel your pain.
I work in supermarket and both the kids and parents are so loud these days. I don’t mind the kids tearing round but it’s the terrible endless shit parents talk to their kids at maximum volume. Why not talk in a normal voice or even better, quietly so you don’t annoy everyone with your faux attempts to sound interested whatever the kids want in the yogurt aisle.

Also so many of them have kids munching on packets of stuff they pick of the shelves and shove in their gobs ( parents as well as kids). I had a guy in Sunday, young, black, quite cool, pushing his daughter and he has been the ONLY person in 11 months I have ever heard say “ we can’t open it, we need to pay for it first”. I wanted to give him a sticker or something.

That's because these days both parents have to work so the kids are used to running riot in crèches and the parents don't know how to control them cause most of their lives are spent apart. Sad really

TawnyLarue · 05/09/2023 00:54

I keep coming across kids called Woody.

Woody is a terrible name. Fucking Woody.

Ponoka7 · 05/09/2023 00:56

@sezzer87 surnames as first names have been traditional is some parts of the UK for centuries eg Robson green, Ryan is a surname that became a first name. It isn't new.

Stitch9191 · 05/09/2023 01:07

IDoughnutKnow · 04/09/2023 22:26

Those kinds of names are frightful. So is putting photos of your children on social media, though. I'd just avoid those people.

National Trust properties are the best bet if you want to avoid common people.

Wow you'd hate me. I'm common AND have national trust membership

GreyhpundGirl · 05/09/2023 03:00

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 22:00

I think I might not quite believe the names.

I'm a teacher. I can.

Skintymcskint · 05/09/2023 03:25

sheworemellowyellow · 04/09/2023 23:10

National Trust properties are the best bet if you want to avoid common people.

Why are you bothering with other people’s estates? Just stay on your own? I’m sure you haven’t had to open it to the great unwashed (yet).

JFC, some people are RIDICULOUS 🙄

I'm common AF and even I have a NT pass.
My kids even have names the baby name section would rip apart and I'm northern and shock horror, working class and in receipt of UC.

The horror and audacity of me, next time I'll stick in my own lane and just take my kids to sit in the wetherspoons outdoor area and let them share a fruit shoot 😁

MiddleParking · 05/09/2023 04:17

There are some very strange lies on this thread.

veggie50 · 05/09/2023 04:53

I find all the newly emerged names refreshing if anything. In many eastern cultures, names are literally all made up of words that the parents fancy...
I don't know why our schools still have long summer holidays (I believe the original purpose was to release children from school to help with harvest / other summer chores in a farming society)? 6 weeks is far too long as a continuous holiday specially during the longest days of the year. The school holiday schedule needs a total overhaul, that would save a lot of frazzled nerves!

PleaseSendNoodles · 05/09/2023 04:54

@Skintymcskint ’share a fruit shoot’ killed me off 🤣🤣🤣

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 05/09/2023 04:58

YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer · 04/09/2023 23:15

Autumn and Summer are perfectly normal names, so why not Winter. I think it's very pretty.

@Guiltridden12345 you say you dont like "made up" names...you do realize that ALL names are made up 😁

When I see a kid called Spring, I'll accept the other three seasons as valid names for humans.

Hufflemuff · 05/09/2023 05:04

I feel like I'd be more weirded out nowadays if I heard a mum calling her kids Kevin, Phil or Brian.

Songbird74 · 05/09/2023 05:08

You are totally NBU!

MiddleParking · 05/09/2023 05:10

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 05/09/2023 04:58

When I see a kid called Spring, I'll accept the other three seasons as valid names for humans.

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What would possess you to think anyone cares what names you ‘accept’?

Surgarblossom · 05/09/2023 05:14

Hilarious post, but so true 🤣🤣

PurposefulBear · 05/09/2023 05:28

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Double standards much?

Imagine if someone said this the other way around and called the black girl trashy or that a name was only fantastic for a white girl, there would be uproar.

What makes it ok for you to call a white girl trashy at all?

Sugarfree23 · 05/09/2023 05:34

veggie50 · 05/09/2023 04:53

I find all the newly emerged names refreshing if anything. In many eastern cultures, names are literally all made up of words that the parents fancy...
I don't know why our schools still have long summer holidays (I believe the original purpose was to release children from school to help with harvest / other summer chores in a farming society)? 6 weeks is far too long as a continuous holiday specially during the longest days of the year. The school holiday schedule needs a total overhaul, that would save a lot of frazzled nerves!

School summer holidays in UK are actually very short compared to other countries.

Make them shorter and it will push the price of holidays even higher.

It will make it harder for parents to get time off work with kids. Some people already struggle to get 2 weeks off in summer, due to employers insisting that only 1 out of 3 or 4 people can be off at a time.

Spreading holidays around would be a PITA especially in days of cold weather it's more expensive to entertain kids in winter than in summer. Winter it's ££ for a couple hours softplay, summer it's free for all day in a park.

EarringsandLipstick · 05/09/2023 05:35

That's because these days both parents have to work so the kids are used to running riot in crèches and the parents don't know how to control them cause most of their lives are spent apart. Sad really

What judgy nonsense 🤦🏻‍♀️

Kids don't run riot in crèches - they usual learn order & how to behave very quickly there.

Parents who work still spend plenty of time with their kids, and if they wish to do so, are well able to 'control' them (rather, be effective parents).

Not 'sad really' at all.

PurposefulBear · 05/09/2023 05:37

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You’re saying… there are two girls called Winter.

One is fantastic because she’s black. The other is trashy because she’s white.

I’m sorry this can’t just be let go.

EarringsandLipstick · 05/09/2023 05:38

School summer holidays in UK are actually very short compared to other countries.

Yes!
Some parents would faint at Irish school holidays! Primary schools finish at the end of June & start back at the of August, so 2 full months.

Secondary schools finish at the end of May - end August. And earlier for exam years, and transition years.

Lots of giving out about them here - and I certainly find them long, as a working single parent but also feel the kids need that complete break too.

mathanxiety · 05/09/2023 05:43

The summer holidays in many US states start at the end of May and go on for three months, until the last week of August.

JohnFinlaysNewTeeth · 05/09/2023 05:48

I find all the newly emerged names refreshing if anything.

Same. This idea of try hard names will die with this generation. It’s a such a westernised and xenophobic way of thinking but our Little Britainers will be proud of that.

PurpleChrayne · 05/09/2023 05:59

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RestingMurderousFace · 05/09/2023 06:05

sezzer87 · 05/09/2023 00:48

100% agree! I'm sooo glad I had my last 10 Years ago before the wankiness really ramped up, before colostrum harvesting and surname first names and gender reveal parties etc.
nobody cares you've had a kid. You're just a normal human who's plopped out a child..end off. The trouble is with instagram is everyone thinks they're a little bit famous and that everybody cares and that they have to be 'unique'. We all bleed the same and just cause your sons called Valentino-Bleu and you have fake grass and a French bulldog doesn't make you special or your kid special, your shit still stinks and you still get crusty eye bogeys like the rest of us.

Nailed it. I mentally refer to these types as ‘gold stars’ because they seem to think pushing out a kid and maintaining a vaguely ‘Insta’ worthy lifestyle makes them special. 🙄