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Days out, wanky names, and whining kids

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Tonightsthenight91 · 04/09/2023 21:40

I know ibu and this is a light hearted ish thread. Feeling riled after yesterdays and todays outings.

yesterday went out to a popular attraction with my DC. Very busy with it being last day of summer holidays for most. Today to a local park, some schools have gone back near us and some haven’t.

Both times - EVERYWHERE there were kids crying, whining, parents flustered, kids having tantrums and/or injuring themselves. Sometimes I take a step back and observe scenes like these and think WHY do we do it to ourselves? It seems the vast majority of parents are stressed up to their eyeballs on days out with kids that can’t seem to be pleased. Watching parents struggle whilst sun cream gets slapped on, soggy picnic sarnies, ice creams attracting wasps.

Then there’s the insta mum brigade trying to keep everyone picture perfect for photo shoots getting worked up when their kids aren’t Co-operating shouting at their oh-so-uniquely-named kids to pose/keep clean/don’t go in the mud/hug their sibling. Ugghhh it’s draining to even overhear never mind be in it!

every time kids are around I’m silently cringing at the “unique” name trend some parents seem to be on. Do people not realise the more unique they try to sound they ironically appear more common in the try hard to be different group?! Some that stood out to me were “kitch” 3 siblings called “blue beaux and B” “winter” “Adonis” and the best of all “darling dolce” 🙃

I know iabu I’m just grumpy after a long 6 weeks and sick of having to do child friendly stuff every day. Roll on Wednesday when my DC are back 😂

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Theroom · 04/09/2023 22:55

I like Winter. It's the 266th most popular name for 2021, only slightly less popular than names like Rebecca.

Are you sure they didn't say Dulcie? I think that's cute too.

Maybe the kids were playing up due to the heat?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/09/2023 22:56

I don’t mind Winter as a name. It’s quite nice.

We haven’t done any “days out” type days this summer. I’ve had two and a half weeks off with the kids (because that’s how much leave I had to take). Apart from a holiday - which was admittedly very lovely - and a family occasion at the beginning of my time, we haven’t done much!

edenhills · 04/09/2023 22:59

Love the name Winter.

JamSandle · 04/09/2023 23:05

Winter is a beautiful name.

Ilovepugs2017 · 04/09/2023 23:06

I hear you 😂
This 6 weeks has been too long, had a couple of glasses of red wine tonight to celebrate the fact I’ve survived it even tho they don’t go back til Wednesday. 😂

Guiltridden12345 · 04/09/2023 23:08

I love the name winter for a girl but wouldn’t use myself as I wanted names that would appear professional on a CV, so traditional not modern/made up. But I like it, and similar names like Harlow. I think they sound exotic! Have no idea why winter shouldn’t be on a white girl though, that’s both weird and racist? You wouldn’t say ‘you can’t call a black girl Charlotte (or whatever)’ would you?

I am often mildly amused at the People shouting Chablis or Jameson or tallulah-Belle at the park. Poor kids will hate their parents when they grow up. Where do they get these name ideas from and do they not realise that their baby will at some point be an adult. Called Chablis.

but on your point, my kids are older and I’m genuinely on the edge of my patience. 6 weeks of 100 per cent shared time is HARD. I’m not surprised everyone was losing it. Add in some heat and the obligatory suncream application and it’s an emotional molotov cocktail waiting to go off. Roll on Wednesday…

sheworemellowyellow · 04/09/2023 23:10

National Trust properties are the best bet if you want to avoid common people.

Why are you bothering with other people’s estates? Just stay on your own? I’m sure you haven’t had to open it to the great unwashed (yet).

JFC, some people are RIDICULOUS 🙄

YesIReallyDoLikeRootBeer · 04/09/2023 23:15

Autumn and Summer are perfectly normal names, so why not Winter. I think it's very pretty.

@Guiltridden12345 you say you dont like "made up" names...you do realize that ALL names are made up 😁

IMuchPreferTheDog · 04/09/2023 23:15

IDoughnutKnow · 04/09/2023 22:26

Those kinds of names are frightful. So is putting photos of your children on social media, though. I'd just avoid those people.

National Trust properties are the best bet if you want to avoid common people.

@IDoughnutKnow

I’m not sure if this is sarcasm or not 🤣

Define ‘common’ I live locally to quite a few National Trust attractions, and I can confirm that the behaviour from members of the public astounds me, these being owners of Audis and expensive campervan type people- are they what you would class as common? 🤣

unvillage · 04/09/2023 23:17

How on earth could you discern that the children were called Beaux and B through their mother speaking to them? I'd love to have that superpower!

Guiltridden12345 · 04/09/2023 23:17

You know what I mean - non traditional Uk names. Such as Chablis.

Ozgirl75 · 04/09/2023 23:18

We were at a National Trust place recently and I heard a child called what I was sure was “Embryo” but on reflection I think was probably “Ember” or “Umbria” maybe?

Palindrone · 04/09/2023 23:18

I agree, OP.

We visited a popular tourist attraction over the school holidays and overheard (I jest not) parents calling for their little darlings by the names of Halloumi and Jettison. 😳

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 04/09/2023 23:19

'Light hearted' to mock and berate childrens names and turn your nose up at them? OK... Hmm

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 04/09/2023 23:21

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 04/09/2023 22:00

I think I might not quite believe the names.

This. ^

HectorSalamanca · 04/09/2023 23:24

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Wtf? So what is trashy for a white person is fantastic for a black person.

Seriously???? That's effed up.

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 04/09/2023 23:26

HectorSalamanca · 04/09/2023 23:24

Wtf? So what is trashy for a white person is fantastic for a black person.

Seriously???? That's effed up.

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I know right... Imagine if it had been the other way around..... Hmm

Palindrone · 04/09/2023 23:32

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 04/09/2023 23:19

'Light hearted' to mock and berate childrens names and turn your nose up at them? OK... Hmm

I took it more as cringing at the try-hard parents and the disparity between the staged "perfect" lifestyle they wish to portray on Instagram and the reality of kids wanting to be kids, getting muddy and having fun.

Unusual names will of course stand out, but not always for the right reasons. I feel sorry for the poor kids saddled with a name they will forever have to explain.

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 04/09/2023 23:33

Probably Ember. My niece is an Ember.

Palindrone · 04/09/2023 23:33

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 04/09/2023 23:33

Probably Ember. My niece is an Ember.

Ember is a beautiful name.

Swingoutsistersledge2 · 04/09/2023 23:37

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Totally agree !!

anonymousamy · 04/09/2023 23:42

Palindrone · 04/09/2023 23:33

Ember is a beautiful name.

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😂

lightisnotwhite · 04/09/2023 23:51

Feel your pain.
I work in supermarket and both the kids and parents are so loud these days. I don’t mind the kids tearing round but it’s the terrible endless shit parents talk to their kids at maximum volume. Why not talk in a normal voice or even better, quietly so you don’t annoy everyone with your faux attempts to sound interested whatever the kids want in the yogurt aisle.

Also so many of them have kids munching on packets of stuff they pick of the shelves and shove in their gobs ( parents as well as kids). I had a guy in Sunday, young, black, quite cool, pushing his daughter and he has been the ONLY person in 11 months I have ever heard say “ we can’t open it, we need to pay for it first”. I wanted to give him a sticker or something.

PyongyangKipperbang · 05/09/2023 00:08

lightisnotwhite · 04/09/2023 23:51

Feel your pain.
I work in supermarket and both the kids and parents are so loud these days. I don’t mind the kids tearing round but it’s the terrible endless shit parents talk to their kids at maximum volume. Why not talk in a normal voice or even better, quietly so you don’t annoy everyone with your faux attempts to sound interested whatever the kids want in the yogurt aisle.

Also so many of them have kids munching on packets of stuff they pick of the shelves and shove in their gobs ( parents as well as kids). I had a guy in Sunday, young, black, quite cool, pushing his daughter and he has been the ONLY person in 11 months I have ever heard say “ we can’t open it, we need to pay for it first”. I wanted to give him a sticker or something.

I had a mother at work last Thursday. Son would have been about 4 I think and a toddler girl in the buggy. Son was being a right little shit. I was expecting her to do what most do which is give in to his demands of the toy AND the sweets. Most of them look utterly defeated by the time they get to the till that they just pay for it and give up. I sympathise, been there, done that! But she didnt. She told him "its one or the other and you have X amount of time (I think it was time in the queue until she had to pay) to decide" and he wasnt having it. Screaming, shouting, kicking......so she took both off him, apologised to me and said that she wasnt buying either. He went BARMY. She said "its because his dad never says no". Could hear him still going crazy in the car park. She was obviously struggling but she stood her ground. Never mind a sticker, I wanted to give her a G&T and a weekend off.