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To be upset that my boyfriend left my bathroom like this

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Mummaof1boyx · 03/09/2023 22:59

After a face shave and chest shave

To be upset that my boyfriend left my bathroom like this
To be upset that my boyfriend left my bathroom like this
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tempuseradsm · 04/09/2023 04:41

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isthismylifenow · 04/09/2023 05:04

Next time he's due to shave the chest, slap a wax strip on him.

littleblackcat27 · 04/09/2023 05:16

Christ alive - I've got such low standards.

This shit (and other stuff - a lot worse) has been happening in my bathroom for many many years.

It honestly would never occur to me to take a picture and get people to comment.

I must have been brainwashed and de-sensitised for so long. Urggghhh

yep - it is disgusting.

tempuseradsm · 04/09/2023 05:18

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mathanxiety · 04/09/2023 05:42

suburbophobe · 03/09/2023 23:41

He has implied I am over reacting and has shut the bathroom door and is begrudgingly cleaning it

Tells you all you need to know.

Kind of man you want to spend your life with?

Nope...

This ^

Bin him.

Zanatdy · 04/09/2023 06:11

I think you’re massively over reacting. He can rinse the sink though, even my 19yr old does that. I normally have to go over it, but he at least gets a cup of water and tries to wash it down the drain

CurlewKate · 04/09/2023 06:16

"even my 19yr old does that. I normally have to go over it,"

At 19?? Bloody hell-seriously?

Sux2buthen · 04/09/2023 06:20

NeunundneunzigHorseBallonz · 04/09/2023 03:18

Gross! How dare he minimize this and attempt to make it your problem. This is gaslighting at it’s best.

It's really, really not
At all

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/09/2023 06:22

Zanatdy · 04/09/2023 06:11

I think you’re massively over reacting. He can rinse the sink though, even my 19yr old does that. I normally have to go over it, but he at least gets a cup of water and tries to wash it down the drain

Why can’t a 19 year old do that? Parents and caregivers should be teaching their children to leave a place as they found it.

Autieangel · 04/09/2023 06:23

Not a good sign op. Firstly that he didn't clean up after himself and secondly that he got irritated that you asked him to. If you move in you will be his full time cleaner.

YouJustDoYou · 04/09/2023 06:32

My dh does this, I just tell him he's left his beard hairs everywhere again, can he clean them up. You should sweep them all up op and leave it on his side of the bed. See how he feels about it then.

Zanatdy · 04/09/2023 06:39

CurlewKate · 04/09/2023 06:16

"even my 19yr old does that. I normally have to go over it,"

At 19?? Bloody hell-seriously?

I mean he doesn’t wash down every single hair, he does clean up. Sorry I forgot on here I need to spell that out as someone will jump on it. He doesn’t just have a shave and not attempt to wash it away. He’s also perfectly capable of cleaning and cooking, studying and working before someone assumes he’s some dead beat who goes around leaving sinks with a couple of hairs

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/09/2023 06:39

YouJustDoYou · 04/09/2023 06:32

My dh does this, I just tell him he's left his beard hairs everywhere again, can he clean them up. You should sweep them all up op and leave it on his side of the bed. See how he feels about it then.

What a good idea… but that would involve op clearing it up again as it would be on her sheets in her house. Would need to be personal to him.

Autumntimeagain · 04/09/2023 06:42

If he ever does something similar again, I'd suggest 'accidentally' knocking over a tub of loose face powder or talk, all over his car dashboard or any place HE wants to look clean/cared for ! Prick ! Then binning him.

GCAcademic · 04/09/2023 06:45

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I seriously hope she didn’t shave her vagina.

That would have been physically pretty difficult and resulted in carnage.

TicTacNicNak · 04/09/2023 06:46

Those saying they wouldn't even notice this....🤮

I feel sick just thinking he was ok with standing in this in the shower with that all around his feet.

Worldgonecrazy · 04/09/2023 06:46

It’s not the hair, it’s the massive disrespect he is demonstrating by his actions. Definitely not a keeper. Give him ‘my wife left me because I left a dirty cup by the sink’ to read. If he takes it on board, he may be redeemable.

LovingMyLiver · 04/09/2023 06:46

A sign of things to come. Fucking disgusting.

Tell him to sort himself out, get some self respect and clean up his mess or fuck off home. Permanently.

CurlewKate · 04/09/2023 06:47

@Zanatdy If you can "wash down every single hair" then so can he.

Twiglets1 · 04/09/2023 06:52

My husband does this sometimes and I ask him to clean it up. Wouldn't think to start a thread on Mumsnet about it tbh. Just keep communicating with your bf and letting him know your boundaries.

littlepeas · 04/09/2023 06:55

Yes, it's very grim, but a shaved chest would give me the ick before this did tbh. My dh leaves hair when he trims his beard - every time - he does eventually clean it up but it's never straightaway. I had to have a word with him about skid marks too 🤢 and he does now clean those off. He is otherwise a decent human (who doesn't shave his chest) so it's only a minor irritation compared to what some women have to put up with.

billy1966 · 04/09/2023 07:12

Mummaof1boyx · 03/09/2023 23:07

He got irritated when I asked if he could clean up

This is who he is.

Take a long hard look at his reaction.

He should have apologised, cleaned it up and not do it again.

Instead, he chose to be irritated at you asking him to clean up HIS mess.

You can't say it hasn't been pointed out to you, this is likely who he is and how he will behave if you were silly enough to move in with him.

My teens know better than this.....because they have been taught better than to leave a grim mess for others.

Ick.

Naunet · 04/09/2023 07:26

thistimelastweek · 03/09/2023 23:03

In between taking photos did you tell him to clean it up?
If not, you are being unreasonable.

Because grown adult men need a woman to tell them to clean up the mess they made and couldn’t possibly be expected to know off their own backs?

Globules · 04/09/2023 07:28

It honestly would never occur to me to take a picture and get people to comment.

Agreed @littleblackcat27

I'd just get them back in there to clean it up. Why the desire to post a picture for others to comment?

Naunet · 04/09/2023 07:32

Zanatdy · 04/09/2023 06:11

I think you’re massively over reacting. He can rinse the sink though, even my 19yr old does that. I normally have to go over it, but he at least gets a cup of water and tries to wash it down the drain

Wow, what a hero you’ve raised, and then prepping women to expect to take over from you in being his doormat.🙄

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