To be upset that my boyfriend left my bathroom like this

[Mummaof1boyx]

After a face shave and chest shave

This is the worst part. Youd expect gosh im sorry i hadnt realised it left such a mess.

what youre getting is that he is dirty or expects you to be the one cleaning.

when youre dating, watch what they do.

There are long hairs mixed in on the shower floor though....does he have long hair?

Shoulder length

If he thinks you are being unreasonable to ask him to clean up after himself, who does he think should be cleaning up after him🤔

No. No. No. No
Disgusting.
If he doesn't even see it, then he's a lost cause.

I assume you say your bathroom, because he doesn't live with you.
Keep it that way. You'll end up living like that, or cleaning it yourself.
And I don't think you want either of those things to happen.

I hesitate to ask this but did he cut his toenails as well during this grooming session?

Leave him, he will never clean anything of the mess he makes without you having to ask and him making a song and dance about it.
He is a disgusting ( filithy fucking hairy ) arse, you don't need someone like that around, no one does.

What does his own bathroom look like? Should give you an indication of how grubby he is! No way could any reasonable person have left that like that!

"Leave him, he will never clean anything of the mess he makes without you having to ask and him making a song and dance about it."

I wish I'd followed this advise instead of taking on the mental load for the whole household.

She shouldn't have to tell him to clean it up. She's not his mother and he's not a child. He's a grown ass man and should take responsibility to clean up his own mess.

lost count of the amount of my wife’s hair I’ve dredged out of shower and sink traps over the years. grimmer than this.

Disgusting- needs to clean up after himself.

Good point from a PP.

Who the hell SHOULD be cleaning up if not him? And if he doesnt think anyone should be cleaning it up then he is a filthy pig who is happy to live in squalor. Either way......dealbreaker.

You're definitely not being unreasonable here! Does he expect someone to clean up his mess? Why can't he learn to do it? After all the rest of us (women) have had to learn! What else will he expect you to be doing instead of him doing it?

He has implied I am over reacting and has shut the bathroom door and is begrudgingly cleaning it

Tells you all you need to know.

Kind of man you want to spend your life with?

Nope...

I find the fact that he shaves his chest bloody weird 🤢

Why begrudgingly? Does he think (a) it shouldn’t be cleaned, or (b) that you should do it? Neither of these are good OP.

Oh the joys of living with a man 😂

Cheerfully ignore his misogynistic grumpiness and let him sulk and huff like a 3 year old…This is what men do and many women stupidly give in because they don’t like to ‘upset them’ and feel misplaced guilt. Men know exactly what they’re fucking doing. No self respecting woman should be clearing up a man’s detritus in the bathroom.

Please tell me you don’t have children with this grubby oaf?

Leaving that there for you to clean just shows his contempt.

I dredge so much hair out of the shower, I'm sometimes amazed I have any left on my head!

but that has nowt to do with leaving someone's bathroom sink in that state.

If he genuinely can't see it, you've got the hassle of training or cleaning. Is it worth it?

This!

How gross

Happens in my house. It’s horrible. Sometimes I feel like I might as well let the place slide into oblivion… With a dirty man & a messy toddler. I have to tell them both. At least one’s a baby!

1. You can buy a grid that fits over the drain hole to stop the hairs from going down.
2. You can use drain unclogger to dissolve hair in the trap, you don't have to fish it out.
3. The only way your wife can stop her hair from falling out of her scalp in the shower is by shaving it off or cutting it very short, which isn't a reasonable thing to expect her to do. The OP's BF can be reasonably expected to clean his own shavings up.