to think dp can cook dinner at 8:30pm vs a ready meal?

[Henrietta89]

i work until 10:30pm and he finishes at 8pm. I have asked if he can make something for us for when I get home and he says he is happy to have dinner on the table for when I get in but it will be a ready meal with extras basically, he has done a tomato pasta ready meal with say added chicken or sausages/cheese and garlic bread or a sausages and mash one with added vegetables and extra gravy, stuff like that. I just don't see why he can't make the mash or cook pasta and make a sauce up etc, it doesnt take very long and really changes the meal, he says he just doesnt want to be doing that + the clear up at that time. I do think it's a bit lazy and means we only get actual cooked food at the weekend when I do it, he isn't assed for it and says he doesnt expect me to do it either and would be happy with these ready meals + extras every day of the week... I really find it silly. AIBU? To think surely some days a normal home cooked meal isn't too much to ask for?

Thing is too some posters talk about batch cooking rather than ready meals as if it's the holy grail in the same sniffy way they talk about 'rented' . I've had many a home cooked meal at peoples houses who simply are rotten cooks and I would rather have had a high level ready meal each time

YABU

He's willing to have you a dinner on the table at 10.30pm,!?

I'd be in bed and you'd be fending for yourself I'm afraid , and you're complaining it's not made from scratch,!

Cook your own from scratch if that's what you want .

Have some cereal in the evening and a larger breakfast

Imagine the responses you would be getting if you said husband wants me to make him a home cooked meal at 10.30 because he’s not happy with the part ready meal part home cooked option I am dishing up. I think your quite lucky he is going to any effort to serve you food at 10.30 at night. Why not compromise and accept gratefully that he is having food prepared and ready for you a couple of nights a week and then a couple of days pop something in the slow cooker before you head for work, or part prepare somet he can pop in the oven. No way I would be making home cooked meals every night at that time and I quite enjoy cooking and have several quick/easy go to recipes that I can knock up in 20 mins

Cant you just eat at work? I do 2-10:30pm shifts, eat before i go then eat on my break either a ready meal or something I've prepped & can just heat at work. If you want to eat at home then tbh i think you get what your given to a certain extent, its cheeky to expect someone else to cook full meals for you at that time, especially when they have also been to work.

I think you’re being really unreasonable. You both work later than the usual time frame for work. Just because yours is later doesn’t mean you should expect someone to daily become Mary Berry. If you’re so concerned about what you want for dinner, perhaps you should be pulling your weight and preparing something in advance that can be heated up. I certainly wouldn’t want to start boiling and mashing potatoes at 8.30pm as soon as I’ve finished work. The first thing you want to do when you finish work is sit down and gather yourself for a bit- why do you think your partner should spring into action to make sure your dinner is on the table as soon as he’s home? I actually think he’s been very considerate and trying to ensure you do have something to eat even if it isn’t to your standards. I don’t think I’d wait until your extremely late finish time to eat either. I think you sound like an ungrateful cow to be honest.

You must spend a fortune on ready meals is all I can say, they aren't cheap compared to making from scratch and they are so bland and boring too!

If he is cooking chicken to put with ready made pasta, it really wouldn't be that hard to cook the pasta itself too at the same time.

If he really won't budge maybe you could batch cook and freeze some things, ie when I make lasagna, I make enough mince mix to make 2 lasagnas and 2 portions of spaghetti Bolognese, then I add a bit of chilli and beans to the last bit for one or two portions of chilli con carne, we either freeze the extra portions for a later date (lasagna is the metal takeaway trays so can go straight in the oven) or keep for a day or two in the fridge. It would limit your ready meals to 3 out of 5 work days. But could do the same for stew, maybe make a pie from some of it? Batch cook cottage pie? Pasta bakes could be done ahead so he can just bung in the oven.

Really he needs to not be so lazy but this could be a work around if he wont budge

No doubt they are more expensive but ready meals do not need to be bland or boring. There are so many great options

While there are heathier options many/most ready meals are primarily made up of processed foods well known to be linked with causing poor health, heart disease, cancer etc.

That said the OP is being unreasonable - he's offering to cook to a standard he and millions of others are happy with. If she wants a different standard of food the onus is on her, I'd say.

While there are heathier options many/most ready meals are primarily made up of processed foods well known to be linked with causing poor health, heart disease, cancer etc.

That said the OP is being unreasonable - he's offering to cook to a standard he and millions of others are happy with. If she wants a different standard of food the onus is on her, I'd say.

No, at the time I was upset because I was working and he wasn't.

He used to cook from scratch earlier in our marriage, occasionally, always MJ curry. So why did he not do it when he could?

I had loads of cookbooks at the time, all sorts, including Delia. He could have followed any recipe from any one of them, and I'd have been pleased.

Why did he cook meals which he knew I hated? And the veg was revolting.

Batch cook and freeze on a weekend if you're that bothered ! yabu expecting him to cook a meal from scratch at 8:30pm everynight ! Making pasta sauce from scratch is not quick neither is making mash by the time you have peeled the potato's ,cut them and waited for them to boil that's at least 40 mins meaning he's then cooking until almost 10pm after a day at work I think your utterly ridiculous expecting this tbh

Well why don't you just peel and mash some spuds yourself at 10.30pm?

I had a goan fish curry the other night (can't remember if it was waitrose or M&S) put it with some cauliflower rice- was totally delicious and I love good food and cook a lot. Cheap ready meals are often horrible- but there are plenty of good ones too- I'm just selective.