Waiting for police to remove abusive partner.

[Cinnamongirlinthesand]

Just that, dog and I locked in bedroom.Neighbours aware. He's a functioning alcoholic.Have asked him to leave, repeatedly.My home and I pay for everything.I believe in MNs terms he's a cock lodger.Have so had enough. I have to tell him to shower, brush his teeth etc. The loo is left in a disgusting state, shit and wee everywhere yet I'm the unreasonable one. Just want to see the back of him.

I hope your daughter is with you soon for real life support. I’ve been in similar situations and ex took up stalking after I got rid of him in person. Be strong- well done

I'm watching and hoping the police come soon. There's a hand here if you want one 🤝

Well done 👏! You are so brave. You are doing the right thing. You are brilliant.

echo above. Make sure you make it clear to police you are / have been locked in your room and you have a disability.

Does he work op? How much does he drink a day? Im so glad you’re getting free! At least no complications of getting divorced etc to work through!

Daughter has taken dog out for a much needed wee /poo.
He has no recollection of last night and if anything did happen it was all my fault anyway.
Think I'll let him have car, pack all his stuff and end of.

No!! Don't let him have the car. It's your car. He will only drink drive in it anyway. You're better off keeping it as 1)it's yours and 2)he could kill someone with it.

Well done for taking back control of your life . Now raise the bar . Good luck OP.

Don't give him your car. He is in no position to negotiate, it's just hard for you to see that right now.

He needs to go, he has no power to refuse/ stay. Either he is deluded or just manipulating you.

It will be much easier to fully get rid of him (him giving up) if you stand very firm and show that he is not getting anything from you from this point on. He may see the giving of the car as a foot in the door to get more/ return at a later point.

I wouldn't give him your car. If he's drink driving then he could kill someone innocent.

Why the fuck would you let him have your car? Please don’t do this - it just enables his behaviour. Also, if he is an alcoholic, surely there is a much stronger chance of him drink driving?

But, also well done for kicking him out!

smoke him out - no booze, fags or food available to him so he leaves to get some. Lock doors and windows behind him.

Then bag up all of his stuff and leave outside front of house. leave £50 in cash with his stuff so he can get a taxi with everything. He will be thinking short term and will "storm off" and will show you "how much you need him" by his absence.

Obviously you don't need to give him money but it will get him and all of his belongings away.

Don't give him your car; you've given him enough over the last two years.

Stay strong and get him out however you can. Please don't give him your car though, he may still be over the limit from last night if he's a heavy drinker and the risk to other people is so high.
Hope you and ddog get the peace you deserve very soon

Don't give him the car!!! For a start he's not insured so it's illegal for him to drive it.

Please don't give him your car, OP. He could kill someone with it and leave you without means of transport.

I am really sorry he has been so vile to you. Getting him out of your life is the best thing you can do. You will be so much happier without him!

Please don’t he won’t fill in the register owner form and then when he crashes because he is drink driving again it will end up coming back to you and being another hassle to sort out.

why would you let him have your car hes drunk-just tell him to go get something from the shop and lock it behind him

did you tel the police hes abusive and youre locked in a room because youre scared

Another no to giving him the car. Stay strong there is light at the end of the tunnel. Almost there.

A drunk shouldn't have a car

Bloody hell don't give him your car!

Hope he's gone asap.

Give him fuck all!

When something goes wrong with the car he will blame you.

Let him have your car? So REWARD him for abusing you? Seriously, wtf is wrong with you? Just STOP.

Don't let him have the car.

You've done so, so well so far. Do not abandon yourself on this point now. Stay true to yourself.

If you give it to him, he's uninsured; he drinks and drives and could kill someone; and he does not deserve it. Don't feel sorry for him. Remind yourself what he is capable of. Keep the vehicle for yourself.