to tell DH he can't keep eating that

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Every day after work DH buys a share bag of some kind of chocolate, twirl bites, buttons, whatever and eats the whole bag. AIBU to think it is too much to have daily? This isn't me caring about weight gain, this is me caring that it's unhealthy.

Eating chocolate doesn't cause diabetes...

Maybe they mean from weight gain? You're at increased risk of type 2 diabetes if you're overweight and have a poor diet.

I don’t have faux concern over anyone’s health. I don’t give a shit what other people put in their bodies. But I wouldn’t put all that in mine, especially every single day.

Your casual accusation of people who don’t eat bags of chocolate every day as having ‘eating disorders’ is really inappropriate, too.

Well quite it's up to you what you do with your body. Its not weird for people to for themselves not want to eat over 600 calories and a tonne of oil and sugar though!

You sound like his mum.

You can tell him, but he's a grown man so he can make his own choices. I stop at McDonald's every day on my way home from work & get cheeseburgers. If my husband told me I wasn't allowed, I'd tell him to mind his own business

@WeetabixTowels I think it’s incredibly rich of you to berate others for being unhealthy when you have wine most days. I’m not judging you for the wine but I’m surprised you’re judging others for the chocolate

I am not berating anyone for being unhealthy.

I am berating people for taking the pud’s out of people for stating the fact that it isn’t healthy to eat a share bag of chocolate every single day.

I am not judging anyone for choosing to eat chi Larry, that’s their choice. I am judging people for making tedious MN jokes making out that anyone who states a simple fact -it’s less than healthy- is a competitive under eater, probably has an eating disorder, eats and breathes a cliched massive salad blah blah blah.

Some bizarre typos in there. Oh well.

I really do think it must be a defensive thing.

I truly don’t care what posters on here want to eat, they can mainline treacle for all I care, but I wouldn’t want to eat that. I’d feel like shit. That doesn’t make me a competitive undereater and the insinuation by a certain poster that it means I have an eating disorder is wildly ignorant at best.

A bag of chocolate is really not the end of the world. There are husbands with addictions, no jobs, alcohol dependant etc yet posters on here are acting like it's the extremely bad for you.
As long as he's not sat on his arse all day then I wouldn't see it as an issue

Fancying chocolate now. Share bags are pretty small really. Sounds like it's a daily treat for him after work. Wouldn't bother me as long as he was generally healthy

@WhatFlavourIsIt

do you really?? Every day?! Why??

Really? I can think of far worse qualities than enjoying chocolate.

God this is why I put on weight fast when I have a week long binge, I can down several of those bags at once.
I'm slim, don't smoke, drink, drugs but I'm a binge eater, one day I should actually calculate the calories of one of my daily feasts. It would shock me

LTB🤣

It's not just his body. It's a lot of packaging, a lot of frequent consumption of stuff creating landfill.

It’s all about how you say it. I don’t think you meant to say “You can’t eat this.” literally? If you’re partnered up with someone it’s an obligation to look after them and respect them, vice versa. What’s the point of being partners if that isn’t true? Have a grown up conversation with him. Don’t be rude. Just say you read the ingredients and noticed it’s a habit, and you’re worried about long term effects. No judgement, just pointing out a risky behavior he might not realize. That’s really all you can do, raise your concern. Anything else would be controlling. Maybe make it part of a larger conversation about healthy choices that include both of you, which is a good thing to have in place anyway. If it’s a normal conversation and it’s focused equally, not just on him, he won’t be offended and it won’t turn into a fight. You just really have to watch how you say it. Also consider how you would feel if the tables were turned. If it’s not actually going to be helpful I wouldn’t say anything. I just don’t see how an otherwise healthy relationship couldn’t handle this entirely appropriate subject.

"Don’t be rude. Just say you read the ingredients and noticed it’s a habit, and you’re worried about long term effects."

Again, as if talking to a child. As if he needs protecting from himself.
He can read. He is already making an informed decision. He doesn't care about the ingredients. No one scoffing a bag of chocolate does.

Really £1:25 in Morrisons, perhaps if literally every penny counted but isn't that the price of Newspaper, less than a takeaway coffee.

I agree we all have unhealthy habits, I eat far too much chocolate but I don’t drink alcohol or smoke and eat lots of fruit and vegetables. I don’t exercise as much as I should but I do get plenty of sleep. As long as it isn’t part of an overall unhealthy diet it doesn’t matter

Nailed it on the first page.

Brilliant, balanced answer - summed it up perfectly @SuperCallieFragilistic.

Eating the equivalent of two Mars Bars per day isn't the healthiest thing to do but it's part of a wider picture, and we all have our vices (whether people will admit to it on MN or not!) Eating a bit too much chocolate isn't the worst thing taken in isolation.

You can take bags like that, crisp packets, film etc to the Co-op or Tesco to recycle!