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Truemilk · 30/08/2023 10:02

How would you feel if he told you you shouldn't eat something?

jannier · 30/08/2023 10:05

More about discussion on the health worry what's his diet like and why he feels the need is it emotional?

43ontherocksporfavor · 30/08/2023 10:07

Caring about your partner’s health is a good thing. Ordering someone to do something is not. It’s all about how you approach it op.

TibetanTerrah · 30/08/2023 10:07

determinedtomakethiswork · 30/08/2023 09:07

With the state of British dentistry the way it is at the moment he really shouldn't be doing that.

Yep. I picked a random pack (Twirls) and the whole bag is almost 70% of a man's RDA for sugar.

That's the concern, more than the calories. It's also 2/3rds of his saturated fat RDA, for his health more than his appearance and waistline.

dikwad · 30/08/2023 10:16

Why not let your husband crack on being a grown up and eating whatever he likes, you know because he's allowed to?

zingally · 30/08/2023 10:40

No, it's not healthy. But I guess we all have our vices.

SleepingStandingUp · 30/08/2023 10:43

Of course, you're married now so what he eats is your job to police. Similarly, he should also control your diet.

Or perhaps just poke his podge and pinch his love handles whilst tutting.

GorillaInBikini · 30/08/2023 10:44

Yeah that is grim and I would worry too!

Sugarcoatt · 30/08/2023 10:46

DH is an adult and he can eat what he wants. But I’ve told him I won’t be having sex with a fat person and I won’t be planning meals around a diabetic. He will have to deal with the consequences of his choices by himself.

Beezknees · 30/08/2023 11:07

Well, no you can't tell him what he can and can't eat. The consequences to his health will be of his own doing.

Honestly as a fat woman who got that way through overeating and currently trying to change my mindset, I would have just gone on the defensive if someone tried to lecture me about my eating habits. It was something I had to change on my own.

HarrietJet · 30/08/2023 11:25

Jesus, this thread 😂. Eating chocolate is so unattractive... ffs!

Hibiscrubbed · 30/08/2023 12:10

That is a huge amount. Does he do anything active? How’s the rest of his diet?

FoodFann · 30/08/2023 12:24

Sugarcoatt · 30/08/2023 10:46

DH is an adult and he can eat what he wants. But I’ve told him I won’t be having sex with a fat person and I won’t be planning meals around a diabetic. He will have to deal with the consequences of his choices by himself.

😂😂😂 @Sugarcoatt you definitely did not sugarcoat that! Problem is, what do you define as fat? My DH is creeping up the scales, and at some point he’s going to be fat and neither of us would have noticed 🤷🏼‍♀️

babysharkdoodoodedoodedoo · 30/08/2023 12:30

YANBU! Even a regular bar of chocolate per day is too much sugar. It’s addictive and unhealthy and I’d not want my kids to see it and think it was normal.

EinyLinky · 30/08/2023 12:34

Can't say I'd be fussed tbh, I can definitely be guilty of this sometimes and admit my diet isn't necessarily great but I still lost 16 stone having chocolate daily 😳 ik it's more about the health aspect that weight but I'd honestly say that's completely up to him, surely? I wouldn't be a fan if a partner dictated what I could and couldn't eat

AuntieMarys · 30/08/2023 12:43

When I met dh 10 years ago he took 3 bars of chocolate to work every day and had sugar in his tea.
Not any more 😀
He walks about 12 miles a day but its the amount of sugar I was concerned about.
We rarely have chocolate...maybe once a month if that.

Objectrelations · 30/08/2023 12:50

Cazzovuoi · 30/08/2023 08:25

The posters who are telling you it’s fine if the person does XYZ are clearly carb addicts themselves and don’t want to admit it.

Its not normal, it sounds like carb addiction. You can tell him OP but he won’t do anything about it until he’s ready.

Chocolate is not 'carbs'

Cheeesus · 30/08/2023 13:15

Objectrelations · 30/08/2023 12:50

Chocolate is not 'carbs'

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The sugar is a simple (rather than complex) carbohydrate.

JudgeRudy · 30/08/2023 13:22

oliversma · 30/08/2023 08:20

Every day after work DH buys a share bag of some kind of chocolate, twirl bites, buttons, whatever and eats the whole bag. AIBU to think it is too much to have daily? This isn't me caring about weight gain, this is me caring that it's unhealthy.

The questions I'd be asking myself are, are you giving your husband any additional information that he doesn't already have? Does he know you are concerned? If he continues what are the consequences (what will you do)?
If the answers are No, Yes, and Nothing it's futile. Doing exactly the same and expecting a different response is insane. You need a different approach.

SantaBarbaraMonica · 30/08/2023 13:29

I wouldn’t love seeing that either OP. Luckily DH and I are on the same page with diet and health though both of us have patches that are a bit off in terms of sensible eating.

The majority of people are so overweight and unhealthy these days. There’s probably lots of people doing what your DH is doing. The shelves are 80% processed foods in the UK, it’s disgusting and noticing different to Italian supermarkets I saw this summer. It’s all become a bit normal to do things like eat family packs of sweets in one sitting.

Hopefully he’ll cop on that it’s gross and unhealthy but you can’t do much other than respectfully point out that it’s a really bad habit.

Thewizardbinbag · 30/08/2023 13:30

RhymesWithTangerine · 30/08/2023 08:22

Is he very active? My DH can eat like that but some days he does 22,000 steps.

So do I! I can’t eat like that!

Cowlover89 · 30/08/2023 13:30

towriteyoumustlive · 30/08/2023 08:22

Thats really unhealthy!

He is a grown up so his choice but I'd not be attracted to someone who did that!

🙄

WeetabixTowels · 30/08/2023 13:31

I eat a bag of chocolate a day (I’m slim because I burn a lot of calories)

DH would be told to fuck off if he had anything to say about it

Mamansparkles · 30/08/2023 13:43

BitOutOfPractice · 30/08/2023 09:05

A share bag of buttons has nearly 1000 calories and very very little nutritional value.

Trust me I am not one of the typical 'I eat half an apple and I'm stuffed' brigade, I wouldn't be gazing mournfully at my huge stomach if I was. But to say 1000 empty calories a day is "not much" is ridiculous!

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Misinformation. I have a sharing bag of buttons right here and it is a mere 637 calories. That is less than two thirds of 1000, not 'nearly'.
Anyway, as you were.

PietariKontio · 30/08/2023 13:45

Off-topic, so sorry, but why do so many posters frame their disagreement with someone's actions as "unattractive" or "gives them the ick" etc., I'm sure the person in question is devasted by them not being attractive to you - it's as bad as when men make comments about women's clothing or behaviour as being unattractive, quite rightly we point out that they're not doing it to attract them in the first place.

Point out the social, health, legal or moral issues with something, but you not being attracted to someone due to X,Y or Z behaviour is utterly irrelevant to whether or not they should do it.