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oliversma · 2023-08-30T07:20:55+00:00

Every day after work DH buys a share bag of some kind of chocolate, twirl bites, buttons, whatever and eats the whole bag. AIBU to think it is too much to have daily? This isn't me caring about weight gain, this is me caring that it's unhealthy.

NoSquirrels · 30/08/2023 08:44

You wouldn’t be unreasonable to tell him it’s not the best habit to get into.

You would be unreasonable to tell an adult what they can and can’t eat!

PoshPineapple · 30/08/2023 08:47

Those 'share' bags contain about half the amount a 'single' bag used to years ago. I don't have a massive snacking habit and prefer a lump of cheese to chocolate, but I could eat a whole bag and not necessarily feel I'd hugely pigged out! So no, let him have his sweeties once a day, I'm sure he'll be fine! Unless he lives on chips and burgers for the rest of the day, in which case....no!

Sirzy · 30/08/2023 08:48

He is an adult. He is hardly going to be buying it thinking “oh yes this is so good for me” but it’s what he wants to eat so you can’t try to dictate to him what he eats.

munchmagic · 30/08/2023 08:50

SuperCallieFragilistic · 30/08/2023 08:42

But don't we all have various unhealthy habits?

I know plenty of people who are very disciplined when it comes to their eating, but rarely exercise, or they eat well and do plenty of exercise but they drink more than is good for them. Or don't manage their anger issues, or maybe don't manage their budget very well.

I exercise pretty well and am good at making regular doctor's appointments, but I definitely overeat salty snack foods, and I don't prioritise sleep enough.

My DH absolutely eats that much chocolate every day. He also goes to bed at a sensible time, doesn't drink, and manages his stress better than lots of other people.

We all have our stuff going on. It's difficult to rate one thing as more important than the others.

Love this answer! You're right, everyone has their strengths and everyone has things that aren't great for them too.

Crunchymum · 30/08/2023 08:53

Food threads on MN are always bonkers.

43ontherocksporfavor · 30/08/2023 08:54

Depends on what shape he’s in. DH is very fit, cycles. runs, walks he dog with me and lifts weights but he’s the one who buys chocolate and biscuits. He has a sugar in his tea too but he is lean. He did just have a filling so he himself is cutting back on the sugar. I’ve been telling him for years but they have to want to do it.

gherkeen · 30/08/2023 08:55

Whether he burns it off or not that"s not healthy for his body.

You can't order him to stop but you can share your concerns with him.

Mercurial123 · 30/08/2023 08:55

SecretVictoria · 30/08/2023 08:32

Gets (large) popcorn and waits for competitive undereaters….

You may be disappointed but enjoy the popcorn.

43ontherocksporfavor · 30/08/2023 08:56

@SuperCallieFragilistic is right. Doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try though. I definitely eat better than DH but he definitely exercises more. We’re trying to meet in the middle.

TheAOEAztec · 30/08/2023 08:56

SuperCallieFragilistic · 30/08/2023 08:42

But don't we all have various unhealthy habits?

I know plenty of people who are very disciplined when it comes to their eating, but rarely exercise, or they eat well and do plenty of exercise but they drink more than is good for them. Or don't manage their anger issues, or maybe don't manage their budget very well.

I exercise pretty well and am good at making regular doctor's appointments, but I definitely overeat salty snack foods, and I don't prioritise sleep enough.

My DH absolutely eats that much chocolate every day. He also goes to bed at a sensible time, doesn't drink, and manages his stress better than lots of other people.

We all have our stuff going on. It's difficult to rate one thing as more important than the others.

👏

thdskdrggs · 30/08/2023 08:59

You can't tell another adult what they can and can't eat, you can tell them you're worried, but you can't tell them they must stop.

livinglifetothefull · 30/08/2023 09:05

I once had an ex that would tell me what i should be eating or not eating .
I got fed up with it im very healthy but i like to eat some foods without being told off.
I once told him you watch your weight and i`ll watch mine you not my dad .
It ended thank god .
But you are not his mum hes an adult leave him alone .
It would be uproar if he said something about your weight or if he said you cant eat something you enjoy .

BitOutOfPractice · 30/08/2023 09:05

OnAMidnightTrainToGeorgia · 30/08/2023 08:22

Those bags are only ever half full. Not much to them at all!

A share bag of buttons has nearly 1000 calories and very very little nutritional value.

Trust me I am not one of the typical 'I eat half an apple and I'm stuffed' brigade, I wouldn't be gazing mournfully at my huge stomach if I was. But to say 1000 empty calories a day is "not much" is ridiculous!

determinedtomakethiswork · 30/08/2023 09:07

With the state of British dentistry the way it is at the moment he really shouldn't be doing that.

43ontherocksporfavor · 30/08/2023 09:07

1000 calories =2 Big Macs

FoodFann · 30/08/2023 09:08

My DH is the same. He’ll have a chocolate bar, and tubes of Pringles throughout the week. He’s teetering on the edge of overweight. I make sure the rest of his diet is healthy, and hopefully that’ll be enough to keep the balance. I step in when he wants a second chocolate bar, but generally speaking, you can’t tell an adult what to do

10HailMarys · 30/08/2023 09:10

Yes, it’s unhealthy. No, you can’t tell him to stop doing it because he’s a grown man and not a child and he can decide for himself what to eat.

user1492757084 · 30/08/2023 09:10

Not healthy but it's his choice.

Also his teeth so he might have to have more regular check ups to have caries spotted early..
And his blood so he should have a yearly check for Diabetes.
All his problems until it affects you.

AdoraBell · 30/08/2023 09:11

It’s very unhealthy but you can’t control what adults eat. Maybe mention the cost.

UndercoverCop · 30/08/2023 09:11

I don't know how anyone eats more than half a minstrel without being positively stuffed!
A huge salad is much more satisfying anyway

lemonyaid · 30/08/2023 09:12

I'd say something because those bags are pricey!

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 30/08/2023 09:12

FoodFann · 30/08/2023 09:08

My DH is the same. He’ll have a chocolate bar, and tubes of Pringles throughout the week. He’s teetering on the edge of overweight. I make sure the rest of his diet is healthy, and hopefully that’ll be enough to keep the balance. I step in when he wants a second chocolate bar, but generally speaking, you can’t tell an adult what to do

What you mean you "step in"? He's not a toddler 😂

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 30/08/2023 09:12

UndercoverCop · 30/08/2023 09:11

I don't know how anyone eats more than half a minstrel without being positively stuffed!
A huge salad is much more satisfying anyway

Half a minstrel?

I only need to look at a bag of minstrels and that's me done for the year.

UndercoverCop · 30/08/2023 09:14

@andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow agreed, although I can be tempted occasionally by a cheeky sniff

Whatswhatwhichiswhich · 30/08/2023 09:17

Depends on how active he is surely? I can eat one of those small share bags to myself. I’m not obese, I’m pretty active, I cut down on my calories and sugar intake in other ways too. But I don’t eat a bag a day. If he’s pretty active and eating healthy otherwise then it’s up to him what he eats. You can’t tell him not to do it, you’d be infantilising him which would eventually cause resentment