To say no to DSDs mum

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I am taking my kids to Disneyland Paris next year with my mum. My mum is paying for half the trip and I’m paying the other half.

My partner is not coming and isn’t paying towards it. It’s just a trip with my mum and kids. He is all the kids father.

We dropped DSD back home today and she’s told her mum that I’m taking my kids to Disneyland and she’s sent my partner a Whats app asking if I would consider taking DSD on the trip too.

If I say no then she is going to kick off but I don’t want to take her. This is a trip with my mum and her grandkids.

AIBU to say not consider this at all

Did your ex have more kids by any chance?

No, I’ve been with my partner since I was 19. We have kids together, none with anyone else.

OP you have done the right thing. Don't waste your precious time trying to defend yourself against nutters. Enjoy the trip :)

Mine did, and I don't give a flying fuck. Why would I?

OP was justifying the EOW, asking where the money came from to go back to court. I answered.

Lol, more like
OP: AIBU?
Some posters: Yes. You should be doing X! You have to do Y! I don’t like how your step family operates, I think it’s wrong and therefore you need to change! My opinion is very important and you need to respect my authority!
OP: I’m going to continue doing what I was doing.
Some posters: how dare you?! That’s not allowed because I said so!

Then why are you commenting on a step parenting post which you have zero experience of?

Exactly!
I'm howling with laughter

@notlucreziaborgia 😂 I just had a South Park moment, reading that!

Yes it two separate statements …. As in il give her money when she goes up a set….

and also after her GCSEs we will go to Disneyworld….

That doesn’t mean she’s doing her GCSEs now or in the next year or even 2 or 3!!

Just that we have plans to go to Disneyworld! We are allowed to plan in advance.

We never had kids straight away, you don’t have a clue. You are an embarrassment going on and on when you don’t know what you are talking about. Stalking old post that have nothing to do with my dsd.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I actually laughed that that.

I definitely was imagining a red faced Cartman when I wrote that.

Yet you know for a fact it’s easy for nrp to arrange 50:50.

lolz.

Then why are you commenting on a step parenting post which you have zero experience of?

You do realise this is a public forum right? And it’s on the busiest board on that forum. And I had a step parent’. And my nieces have step parents. HTH.

Yes. The mental wellbeing and self esteem of a young girl is hilarious. A real laughing matter. Enjoy your holiday with 'your' family.

Yet you know for a fact it’s easy for nrp to arrange 50:50.

Not always easy, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it. If my BIL hadn’t done it many years ago, he probably wouldn’t be close to his daughters now and we wouldn’t be close to our nieces. They were worth fighting for more than EOW for. I know lots of men who have 60/40 and 50/50.

Yes. The mental wellbeing and self esteem of a young girl is hilarious. A real laughing matter. Enjoy your holiday with 'your' family.

No need for the inverted commas. You don't get to define her family, she does.

Of course I realise that. But it's only SP situations where all and sundry feel the need to stick their oar into something they know nothing about.

We don't give a shit about your BIL.

and there’s me thinking I’m laughing at some mumsnet posters partaking in Victorian levels of melodrama.

✨the more you know! ✨

@RoarRoarBoom thanks for the great thread! 🍿🦇
Hope you and your DC and DM have a fabulous time on your trip!

Again. Nice he had the money to provide a family home.

my brother is living with my parents in their two bed flat. He can’t get a mortgage or deposit for a rental as he is only on average wage, and he pays half his kids expenses plus CMS.

he cannot spirit up the money for somewhere of his own, furnish it, and afford all the bills for somewhere large enough for the four of them.

your “friends” are not everyone’s situation.

Of course I realise that. But it's only SP situations where all and sundry feel the need to stick their oar into something they know nothing about.

Its that she’s put it on AIBU. I never look on the SP board. And I don’t think she’s unreasonable for not taking her SD away with her and her mum. But the rest is pretty shitty and I feel sad for the SD.

How did I guess that you have no experience of having a blended family...oh that's right because every post you have written is ill-informed.

@Thisismynewusername1

But OPs husband did find money to have more kids. He has a home with OP, yet he hasn’t ever seen his child more than EOW. There’s no excuse.

I'm starting to feel like I'm 15 an on then playground with the bitchy girls holding court. Completely unnecessary just because she doesn't agree with you.

How did I guess that you have no experience of having a blended family...oh that's right because every post you have written is ill-informed.

Lol. I was brought up in a blended family.