To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!

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Massive row with new neighbours last night which had other neighbours coming outside due the shouting. Totally mortifying and want opinions on whether neighbour is the c**t we think he is!

Moved into property a few months ago with a drive with space for 3 cars back to back at the side round the corner. We enter house through back door as that's where drive is. We have a works van and other cars that park opposite our drive and it can be pain to get out but only takes a few more seconds to manoeuvre. Not a big issue. and not something I'd complain about as it's not parked illegally.

Front door is near the bottom of a dead end road - pavement and road in front two car widths wide. Directly opposite front of house, both houses have drives big enough to fit two cars side by side. Have one car each so plenty of room on drive.

Lots of cars parked at top of road as many do not have drives so it's basically a one car width road due to parked cars. At the top of the road there are about 6 properties with one car drives with cars constantly parked opposite.

No one parks in front of our house and I wouldn't have an issue if they did.

We had 3 cars (including DDs's). DD occasionally parked in road at front of house if she come in late as DH leaves for work early so he'd have to move her car out first. Perfectly legal to park there and neighbours opposite have room (one road width) to get out of their drives.

Anyway DD has now moved in with boyfriend and hasn't been at home for a few weeks so has not parked at front for that period. Last night she popped round to pick up a few bits. Parked in front of house so she could come in front door and carry stuff out.

She'd been in house for literally 2 minutes and neighbour opposite front knocked and said she needed to move her car now. It was 10pm. We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.

DH basically said what's the problem, your drive is not blocked, she'll be going shortly, you're not even going out now are you? Neighbour said DH was being a prick and we had a 3 car drive so shouldn't be parking on the road ever. He's going to call the police.

DH did get rather angry at being called a prick and told neighbour to get off property and car would not be moved, he can call police etc. Neighbour then starts shouting that he's had enough, he's put up with it for ages (we've lived there 2 months!), who do we think we are etc. His wife comes out shouting, other opposite neighbours come out shouting that we're blocking emergency vehicles and rude etc, etc. We are certainly not blocking emergency vehicles, cars are parked all down the road and bin trucks get through fine!

DD is mortified and insists she'll move the car (bit annoyed at that) despite DH telling her not to. Neighbour says to her 'at least you're a decent one' which enrages both DH and I even more. DD is furious her Dad has been called a prick and shouts at neighbour that he's not decent either for swearing at her Dad.

Neighbour refuses to get out of front garden and keeps saying how horrible we are. Other neighbours have opened doors to listen by then so whole street will have heard. Had to slam door on him in the end.

He had his leg in a cast and was going on that he's had to come over to our house while in pain and didn't want to stand there any longer but he wouldn't leave as he wanted to continue the argument🤔

Neighbour now thinks he can tell us where to park and is the dogs bollocks probably thinking that told them!

Who was BU?

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?

Wow, there are some shocking and cruel posts on this thread! Seems like many here can't stand to miss an opportunity to have a pop at OP.

Have any of you tried to stick to the facts as told by OP, instead of making up a fairytale on which the nasty aggressive neighbour is the hero serving up a righteous smackdown?

YANBU we had a similar situation in our close when I younger. I moved out but one day popped home and parked at the end of the close half on a bit of pavement that led to a fence. Neighbour came out ranting and raving knocked on DM's door saying I needed to move, no where else to park and plenty of room for him, she told him to go away. Few weeks later I did the same thing, idiot neighbour reversed of his drive without looking and went straight into my car. He sheepishly knocked on the door and the way he did made it seem like it was an accident. The fact he had a BMW and I had a shitty Punto would suggest that too but I'm still not sure if he just saw red and decided to ram it! New neighbours moved in to the house opposite him a few months later and they've always parked there.

I agree yummybelicious. Surely it makes it hard for anyone coming from the direction of your drive to turn onto the road when a car is parked outside your house. Your neighbours approach was completely wrong though. He could have tried to explain politely how the parking affected him rather than agressively dictating what you should or shouldn't do.

To be fair, calling someone a 'cunt' in the street but then asterisking out the letters when writing the word screams Sun reader.

My best guess is that the car was blocking the road to emergency vehicles. The giveaway is everyone else in the street saying the same thing.

If it's public parking, it's public parking!
No-one has to explain to anyone WHY they want to park there!!

If they are blocking your drive, why wouldn't you say anything?

To be honest I cant picture the parking situation from your description. Not sure why it escalated so quickly but having had neighbour disputes in the past I know how miserable they can make you if they drag on so be wary

Hear hear!

I think if multiple neighbours came out and were upset about this you should not have anyone parking there. It’s not a case of one neighbour being a prick - though he definitely was one for the way he handled it.

She parked 20ft from the junction?

The highway code clearly states to park no less than 10m / 32ft from a junction.

The neighbours are right.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/the-highway-code/waiting-and-parking-238-to-252

You've got …shit loads as a household …It's just greedy and bad for the planet.

you’ve had a higher number of cars than usual since you’ve moved in

God, there are some idiots on MN these days, it really is getting worse. Posters seem to make up their own agendas, and love to batter the Op.

Would someone like to specify what is counted as an acceptable number of cars per household? Is there a designated number set by the Government?

Op has had 3, now 2, how on earth is this a shitload of cars. Good job these posters don’t live near us!

We have 5 on our drive, 4 cars and a van (being converted to a Camper), oh and a caravan we bring home to pack.

We have room for them all but occasionally park one on road. No one complains! We also have a corner plot, but never park too close to the junction (unlike others!), although we are in a cul de sac like Op, which does mean limited traffic.

Our (new) neighbours across have a works van, private van, car and a caravan! They have a reasonably sized drive, but any visitors they have usually park on road. No one complains!

Neighbour down the road broke down with an engine failure, a few months ago, got towed home and car left, at a slight angle, on road outside his house. We all wondered why initially, but no one complained. It was a few weeks before he sorted it being picked up for repair.

Op, your DD was doing nothing wrong, so just ignore the neighbour across from you. Don’t make it worse by parking a van there but he is in the wrong.

And I agree with the PP, maybe you need to get a camper too 🤣🤣

"Why should she pander to an obnoxious, entitled old goat?" - @ZeldaWillTellYourFortune

She doesn't have to! But personally I'd rather make a small compromise and just move my car and live peacefully...rather than get into a massive war with my neighbours which could drag on for years. It's not worth it.

I guess it depends on what you want most - 'being right' and 'winning' or living in peace.

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There are streets around here where your daughter's parking would have received notes almost immediately because of the buses that go down that street ... they can't manoeuvre around the odd parked car on the 'wrong' side of the street. And it's too close to the corner.

They probably can't reverse out of their drives, not enough space due to your DD's car. I have the same situation. My drive is right opposit my neighbour's drive and on the hill and every time I need to reverse to get out. Sometimes workmen park across his drive and although there is enough space for cars to drive by, there is not enough space for me to reverse due to the fences on the both sides of my drive and some vegetation on the pavement belonging to the council. They were wrong though for shouting, horrible situation, I would be fuming as well if someone would shout at me like that

Honestly your dds parking looks annoying. Sometimes you have to rub along with the neighbours.

I don't think that's a good place to park. It's too near the junction and will be obstructing the visibility of anyone exciting the cul-de-sac. It's also opposite a driveway and the only vehicle on that side of the road causing a chicane which is not great for emergency vehicles etc.

They do say if one person complained about you, it could be them, but if multiple people complain about you, it's normally you.

While l love your parking diagram

I think YABU

Multiple neighbours are unhappy with your parking. And instructing DD bf to park battered transit van outside their houses as revenge is not on.

The number of vehicles isn't the issue, it's where they are parked.
Can't legislate stupid, inconsiderate,selfish or entitled. But did fall back on town planning when my driveway, and car, was unusable. New neighbours now.
You really shouldn't need need legislation re junctions etc but it is there as a fall back.

Utter bollocks! Did school not teach you anything? 😂

There’s always one loudmouth who the others pander to because they’re afraid of the bully turning on them.

Instead of being evidence that the OP is in the wrong, the fact that the male neighbour came over late in the evening to shout and demand that the OP’s daughter (younger female) doesn’t park on the road in front of his house, clearly demonstrates that the neighbour is the prick in this situation. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Reasonable people do not start a fight with their new-ish neighbours late at night over a car being legally parked. He obviously thinks he’s King of the road.

In my view, you should Always stand up to a bully. They’ll probably try something else later on because their ego has been bruised, but never show fear or give in. That type will soon move onto their next victim, probably his wife. 😢

If your parking is a problem then yes he can call round and inform you, no way can neighbours expect to cause a scene, call you prick and think that you'll stay calm.

Nah next time I wouldn't even allow him onto the front of the property let alone up to the door.

Call police be waiting 10 years for them to come anyway.

That's quite a lot of upset neighbours. You have to live with them so you may want to consider that. They can make your life an utter nightmare if they choose to so don't give them cause. Glad they're not mine, good luck.

I would definitely try to resolve rather than create an ongoing war. Neighbour disputes are draining and impact quality of life. Don't do the van thing, try to get along if you can.

@BlastedIce how do you filter on the app?

Your Daughter is the only one parked correctly, all the other cars are parked facing oncoming traffic.