To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!

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Massive row with new neighbours last night which had other neighbours coming outside due the shouting. Totally mortifying and want opinions on whether neighbour is the c**t we think he is!

Moved into property a few months ago with a drive with space for 3 cars back to back at the side round the corner. We enter house through back door as that's where drive is. We have a works van and other cars that park opposite our drive and it can be pain to get out but only takes a few more seconds to manoeuvre. Not a big issue. and not something I'd complain about as it's not parked illegally.

Front door is near the bottom of a dead end road - pavement and road in front two car widths wide. Directly opposite front of house, both houses have drives big enough to fit two cars side by side. Have one car each so plenty of room on drive.

Lots of cars parked at top of road as many do not have drives so it's basically a one car width road due to parked cars. At the top of the road there are about 6 properties with one car drives with cars constantly parked opposite.

No one parks in front of our house and I wouldn't have an issue if they did.

We had 3 cars (including DDs's). DD occasionally parked in road at front of house if she come in late as DH leaves for work early so he'd have to move her car out first. Perfectly legal to park there and neighbours opposite have room (one road width) to get out of their drives.

Anyway DD has now moved in with boyfriend and hasn't been at home for a few weeks so has not parked at front for that period. Last night she popped round to pick up a few bits. Parked in front of house so she could come in front door and carry stuff out.

She'd been in house for literally 2 minutes and neighbour opposite front knocked and said she needed to move her car now. It was 10pm. We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.

DH basically said what's the problem, your drive is not blocked, she'll be going shortly, you're not even going out now are you? Neighbour said DH was being a prick and we had a 3 car drive so shouldn't be parking on the road ever. He's going to call the police.

DH did get rather angry at being called a prick and told neighbour to get off property and car would not be moved, he can call police etc. Neighbour then starts shouting that he's had enough, he's put up with it for ages (we've lived there 2 months!), who do we think we are etc. His wife comes out shouting, other opposite neighbours come out shouting that we're blocking emergency vehicles and rude etc, etc. We are certainly not blocking emergency vehicles, cars are parked all down the road and bin trucks get through fine!

DD is mortified and insists she'll move the car (bit annoyed at that) despite DH telling her not to. Neighbour says to her 'at least you're a decent one' which enrages both DH and I even more. DD is furious her Dad has been called a prick and shouts at neighbour that he's not decent either for swearing at her Dad.

Neighbour refuses to get out of front garden and keeps saying how horrible we are. Other neighbours have opened doors to listen by then so whole street will have heard. Had to slam door on him in the end.

He had his leg in a cast and was going on that he's had to come over to our house while in pain and didn't want to stand there any longer but he wouldn't leave as he wanted to continue the argument🤔

Neighbour now thinks he can tell us where to park and is the dogs bollocks probably thinking that told them!

Who was BU?

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?

Too many cars
Too many cars parked
Too many cars in the road

Get a bike
Obviously you will be seen to be holding the traffic up but ……. 😉

This is a case of do you want to be right but hated by all your neighbours or accept their way of doing things...this kind of thing comes up in office work all the time.

Yeah leave van there

Yes I thought that! If other neighbours came out to join in and tell them they park terribly there might be something in it! Clearly not the right way to handle it though. You can be parked legally but really inconsiderately

I can only assume that most people on this thread are shit at parking.

Clearly!

Even if it makes it more tricky, if you live in a tight residential street, is it not normal to be able to learn to manoeuvre properly?

Exactly what do they think people who live on busy streets with no drives do 😆

Your DH lost the argument by shouting. He should simply have pointed out that DD was blocking no-one, and would only be there a few minutes, and shut the door.

Creating a slalom

This is hilarious!

i am struggling to see what your DD has done wrong but as she is female and presumably young and this is AIBU then this is many posters’ default, and obviously that of your arsehole neighbour. Most people in their right mind know that if you go to someone’s door at night to start shouting abuse that there’s going to be repercussions. Your neighbour is the prick here.

Yes, that is unreasonable and possibly illegal parking. You need to re-read the highway code!

Unreasonable as directly opposite 2 driveways.

Possibly illegal as you should not park opposite or within 32 feet (10m) of a junction.

You would be surprised, and shocked, at the amount of people killed or injured because someone has parked too close to a junction therefore causing an obstruction.

The word obstruction, when used in traffic law, does not just mean people cannot get past. It also means (the vehicle is) obstructing the sightline of drivers entering or exiting a junction.

My neighbours have a large house with adult children still living there. Lots of their DC friends also pop by and they have work vans so despite a large drive they repeatedly have to park in front of my house. I have a drive and they never ‘block’ me in except it’s sometimes difficult to reserve out as they are so close. They also have people coming and going at 10pm like you.

Honestly it annoys me. I wouldn’t say anything as it’s not illegal but it shows a lack of respect for other neighbours.

There’s what you are within your rights to do and there’s what makes you a decent or disliked neighbour.

In general it does sound that they are being unreasonable, but equally it doesn't sound as if your family, as the new people in the street, are backing down to keep the peace. I wouldn't want to live next door to anyone who thinks it appropriate to have a slanging match in the front garden - and that is aimed at both parties.

Also, may I add:

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?
YABU

We've lived there for two months..... We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.
YABU (hardly the way to get off on good footing with new neighbours - surely you go and introduce yourself and make some effort to be friendly?)

I haven't RTFT but is the neighbours' issue that by parking opposite their drive it makes it difficult to get out and they have to drive on the wrong side of the right until they clear any vehicle parked at in front of your house? Difficult to know as I've no idea how wide the road is. You should park directly opposite someone's drive if the road isn't wide enough. Put it this way, there's a reason the houses were built with your drive round the corner instead of opposite theirs.

@DontBeATwatPlease aren't the drives the bits with red arrows? Dd has parked across the bit in between drives, how is that illegal?

Possibly illegal as you should not park opposite or within 32 feet (10m) of a junction.

Doesn't it depend on road markings?

@Loulou599 did you even read the OP? They don’t have shitloads, they have 2 vehicles and their DD has her own as well.
She only parked in the front to collect some belongings.

This.
It may be a public road, but if you have room to park three vehicles on your driveway but choose to park one on an already crowded road, when other houses have no driveways - yes, you're being selfish.

It may be illegal. It appears to be parked too close to a junction. You should not park within or opposite 10m (32ft) of a junction.

Hmm I think if you have neighbours who behave this aggressively, being aggressive back is a reasonable tactic tbh - it shows them that they're going to get a screaming mouthful back if they come charging over to your house again. It's not my style, but I kind of admire it. It does mean you're in a war with them now though.

Also agree this sounds like you've violated some kind of long-running unwritten parking code on your street. People are weird.

FWIW I wouldn't park where your daughter did - at least not deliberately, now that you know it creates a problem.

Your daughter’s boyfriend drives a battered work van…let’s be honest that says it all doesn’t it.

Is reading comprehension a struggle for you? The post is about her DD's parking!

This thread is insane. Of course OP is not being unreasonable. The neighbours sound aggressive and nasty.

To why did OP not say that to neighbours? Strongly doubt it's the first time she parked there

So multiple neighbours came out to agree with the original neighbour who said you/your family park ignorantly…and your response is to call them c*nts.

Bunch of charmers in your family, aren’t you?

I love how so many posters are always so calm and poised and always remain so at all times!

Sometimes, when it's late and people feel under attack, they rise to it. Not all the time, but sometimes. Is it the perfect response? No, but it doesn't make them trashy, it makes them human.

She did explain it, but the neighbour kept shouting at them.