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To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!

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CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:03

Massive row with new neighbours last night which had other neighbours coming outside due the shouting. Totally mortifying and want opinions on whether neighbour is the c**t we think he is!

Moved into property a few months ago with a drive with space for 3 cars back to back at the side round the corner. We enter house through back door as that's where drive is. We have a works van and other cars that park opposite our drive and it can be pain to get out but only takes a few more seconds to manoeuvre. Not a big issue. and not something I'd complain about as it's not parked illegally.

Front door is near the bottom of a dead end road - pavement and road in front two car widths wide. Directly opposite front of house, both houses have drives big enough to fit two cars side by side. Have one car each so plenty of room on drive.

Lots of cars parked at top of road as many do not have drives so it's basically a one car width road due to parked cars. At the top of the road there are about 6 properties with one car drives with cars constantly parked opposite.

No one parks in front of our house and I wouldn't have an issue if they did.

We had 3 cars (including DDs's). DD occasionally parked in road at front of house if she come in late as DH leaves for work early so he'd have to move her car out first. Perfectly legal to park there and neighbours opposite have room (one road width) to get out of their drives.

Anyway DD has now moved in with boyfriend and hasn't been at home for a few weeks so has not parked at front for that period. Last night she popped round to pick up a few bits. Parked in front of house so she could come in front door and carry stuff out.

She'd been in house for literally 2 minutes and neighbour opposite front knocked and said she needed to move her car now. It was 10pm. We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.

DH basically said what's the problem, your drive is not blocked, she'll be going shortly, you're not even going out now are you? Neighbour said DH was being a prick and we had a 3 car drive so shouldn't be parking on the road ever. He's going to call the police.

DH did get rather angry at being called a prick and told neighbour to get off property and car would not be moved, he can call police etc. Neighbour then starts shouting that he's had enough, he's put up with it for ages (we've lived there 2 months!), who do we think we are etc. His wife comes out shouting, other opposite neighbours come out shouting that we're blocking emergency vehicles and rude etc, etc. We are certainly not blocking emergency vehicles, cars are parked all down the road and bin trucks get through fine!

DD is mortified and insists she'll move the car (bit annoyed at that) despite DH telling her not to. Neighbour says to her 'at least you're a decent one' which enrages both DH and I even more. DD is furious her Dad has been called a prick and shouts at neighbour that he's not decent either for swearing at her Dad.

Neighbour refuses to get out of front garden and keeps saying how horrible we are. Other neighbours have opened doors to listen by then so whole street will have heard. Had to slam door on him in the end.

He had his leg in a cast and was going on that he's had to come over to our house while in pain and didn't want to stand there any longer but he wouldn't leave as he wanted to continue the argument🤔

Neighbour now thinks he can tell us where to park and is the dogs bollocks probably thinking that told them!

Who was BU?

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?

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NicLondon1 · 24/08/2023 23:26

How many vehicles do you own..?
If several neighbours are all annoyed, it is probably on you to start using your own drive more and forget the street.
You are the newbies to the street so they all probably have a routine with their cars, clearly you have made it tricky for them all to get out..?
They can’t all be wrong!

CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:27

My first ever parking wars diagram!

To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!
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GameOverBoys · 24/08/2023 23:27

A parking thread without a diagram? YABU

GameOverBoys · 24/08/2023 23:27

Never mind!

SapphosRock · 24/08/2023 23:28

Where is the works van on the diagram? And who does the works van belong to?

Loulou599 · 24/08/2023 23:29

Clearly I'm in a minority here but I think you're being massively unreasonable.

You've got neighbours probably with just one or two cars, you've got shit loads as a household, and your three car drive way is apparently not enough to accommodate your many vehicles. It's just greedy and bad for the planet.

The fact that it wasn't just one neighbour complaining about you is proof that YABU

Loulou599 · 24/08/2023 23:31

Good diagram though!

mibid · 24/08/2023 23:32

YABU

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 24/08/2023 23:33

I can't see what the issue is. Might be irritating for your daughter's car to be there, but it's not illegal, they can still get out, and they don't own the road.

Whatever might have happened with previous people that lived there has got nothing to do with you and I fail to see why any normal human being would think you would even know about it?

doroda · 24/08/2023 23:33

Loulou599 · 24/08/2023 23:29

Clearly I'm in a minority here but I think you're being massively unreasonable.

You've got neighbours probably with just one or two cars, you've got shit loads as a household, and your three car drive way is apparently not enough to accommodate your many vehicles. It's just greedy and bad for the planet.

The fact that it wasn't just one neighbour complaining about you is proof that YABU

Agree.

YummyBelicious · 24/08/2023 23:34

Your DD car looks like it's created a slalom, and it's close to a corner? Probably not ideal especially if those spaces are tighter than the drawing.

HundredMilesAnHour · 24/08/2023 23:34

Just how close was DD parked to the junction? On the diagram, it looks like she was parked too close to it?

CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:35

SapphosRock · 24/08/2023 23:28

Where is the works van on the diagram? And who does the works van belong to?

Sorry, works van parks opposite our drive (should have made one of the car scribbles bigger!). It's a neighbours further up the road. Just made the point that people park opposite our drive but wouldn't dream of knocking on door their late at night to demand they move it!

C**t neighbour was obviously on guard looking out of his window.

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Fizzadora · 24/08/2023 23:35

How embarrassing, shouting in the street like chavs.
So you have three cars on your drive and a works van that you park somewhere on the road?

One of your family members parking on the road right opposite someone else's drive when you have more than enough room on your drive wouldn't bother some people, but you would probably be surprised at how many people would be absolutely furious about it because of how awkward it is to reverse out of a drive when there is a car parked opposite unnecessarily.

I appreciate that this was a one off as your DD has now moved out but he wasn't to know that. You appear to be totally unaware of how much your moving in and leaving vehicles all over the place has impacted the neighbours and whilst there is nothing to actually stop you doing it as long as you are not breaking the law, in the interest of good neighbour relations, it might be worth approaching them to find out if there is a suitable compromise to be reached.

Take some chocs/a bottle of wine over and disarm them with reason. That's what I would do.
Unless of course you don't really give a shit what they think.

mrshenny · 24/08/2023 23:35

CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:27

My first ever parking wars diagram!

Honestly if I was them I'd be annoyed too. I hate it when people park at the opposite side of the road to my driveway entrance and my road is wide. On a not so wide street this would do my head in, makes manoeuvring in and out of their drive so much harder. Extra YABU because your driveway holds 3 cars!

FiddleLeaf · 24/08/2023 23:35

Excellent diagram but I do agree with PP. You have so many vehicles and I can see how parking like that would upset the neighbours. It’s a little thoughtless.

munchmagic · 24/08/2023 23:37

CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:27

My first ever parking wars diagram!

Sorry but your neighbour is right if I'm reading your diagram properly.
Depending on size of their vehicles and your DD's it could be very tight for them to manoeuvre in/out of their own driveway with her parked directly behind them.
Equally it does look like emergency vehicles would have a hard time getting around as she's parked on the opposite side to every other parked car (because yes she's across from their drive)
I can see your neighbours' points if this is correct. Though yes he didn't approach it as well as he could've done.
Skip the ridiculous petty van plan though, unless you're planning to fight with neighbours for years to come. It's not worth it.

Peahen81 · 24/08/2023 23:38

If your diagram is correct cars park on the opposite side of the road and so whilst where your daughter parked may be legal it’s awkward. The people opposite are having to contend with cars either side of them and your car opposite when trying to get in/out of their drive on a road which you have said is one cars width because of the parking. I think you’ve just made it a real pain for then to manoeuvre. I wouldn’t have marched over and had a go but I’d be irritated- it’s inconsiderate parking.

ItstimeToMoveagain · 24/08/2023 23:38

Why are people going on about the op having loads of cars? They have 2 .

Malarandras · 24/08/2023 23:40

Sounds very Jeremy Kyle, what a classy bunch you all are. The parking is a bit rubbish frankly and mildly irritating. But it does not warrant the reaction it got. I’d think before carefully before antagonising these people deliberately. For one thing they are clearly easy to anger it could escalate quickly. Also don’t you have better things to do in life?

Pregnantandsweaty · 24/08/2023 23:41

Is she parked right on a corner, opposite their driveways?

I was going to say YANBU until you said other neighbours complained too.

there must be something else to your parking that you’re not telling us 🙈

Pregnantandsweaty · 24/08/2023 23:42

Also the fact that you’re calling your neighbour a c**t makes me think you’re possibly feeling quite defensive about this for more reasons than you’re letting on.

disgusting language for someone to use about another person that they barely know

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 24/08/2023 23:43

I get the problem. According to the diagram all the vehicles have double front and rear axles. Must be a nightmare.

To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!
WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 24/08/2023 23:43

ItstimeToMoveagain · 24/08/2023 23:38

Why are people going on about the op having loads of cars? They have 2 .

In the OP it sounded as though the works van was theirs as well. Now it's clear it isn't, but they have a 3 car drive, yet their visiting daughter doesn't park on it, but on the other side of the house creating a slalom and potentially a blind corner for anyone turning left from the other road (and if anyone was going to turn right into the other road they'd probably crash into anything coming left as both would be avoiding the daughter's car! )

LoveThisUsername · 24/08/2023 23:44

Don't you want a camper van op? They are fabulous things 😁