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To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!

303 replies

CanNeverThinkOfAName · 24/08/2023 23:03

Massive row with new neighbours last night which had other neighbours coming outside due the shouting. Totally mortifying and want opinions on whether neighbour is the c**t we think he is!

Moved into property a few months ago with a drive with space for 3 cars back to back at the side round the corner. We enter house through back door as that's where drive is. We have a works van and other cars that park opposite our drive and it can be pain to get out but only takes a few more seconds to manoeuvre. Not a big issue. and not something I'd complain about as it's not parked illegally.

Front door is near the bottom of a dead end road - pavement and road in front two car widths wide. Directly opposite front of house, both houses have drives big enough to fit two cars side by side. Have one car each so plenty of room on drive.

Lots of cars parked at top of road as many do not have drives so it's basically a one car width road due to parked cars. At the top of the road there are about 6 properties with one car drives with cars constantly parked opposite.

No one parks in front of our house and I wouldn't have an issue if they did.

We had 3 cars (including DDs's). DD occasionally parked in road at front of house if she come in late as DH leaves for work early so he'd have to move her car out first. Perfectly legal to park there and neighbours opposite have room (one road width) to get out of their drives.

Anyway DD has now moved in with boyfriend and hasn't been at home for a few weeks so has not parked at front for that period. Last night she popped round to pick up a few bits. Parked in front of house so she could come in front door and carry stuff out.

She'd been in house for literally 2 minutes and neighbour opposite front knocked and said she needed to move her car now. It was 10pm. We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.

DH basically said what's the problem, your drive is not blocked, she'll be going shortly, you're not even going out now are you? Neighbour said DH was being a prick and we had a 3 car drive so shouldn't be parking on the road ever. He's going to call the police.

DH did get rather angry at being called a prick and told neighbour to get off property and car would not be moved, he can call police etc. Neighbour then starts shouting that he's had enough, he's put up with it for ages (we've lived there 2 months!), who do we think we are etc. His wife comes out shouting, other opposite neighbours come out shouting that we're blocking emergency vehicles and rude etc, etc. We are certainly not blocking emergency vehicles, cars are parked all down the road and bin trucks get through fine!

DD is mortified and insists she'll move the car (bit annoyed at that) despite DH telling her not to. Neighbour says to her 'at least you're a decent one' which enrages both DH and I even more. DD is furious her Dad has been called a prick and shouts at neighbour that he's not decent either for swearing at her Dad.

Neighbour refuses to get out of front garden and keeps saying how horrible we are. Other neighbours have opened doors to listen by then so whole street will have heard. Had to slam door on him in the end.

He had his leg in a cast and was going on that he's had to come over to our house while in pain and didn't want to stand there any longer but he wouldn't leave as he wanted to continue the argument🤔

Neighbour now thinks he can tell us where to park and is the dogs bollocks probably thinking that told them!

Who was BU?

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?

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NewName122 · 24/08/2023 23:08

Yanbu op.

Mumsanetta · 24/08/2023 23:08

Well, yes, your neighbours are cunts but none of you covered yourself in glory! Just remember that you have to live next to these people for a while before you go deliberately antagonising them.

Lealea8528 · 24/08/2023 23:09

I'd be leaving a car there with no wheels. Indefinitely.

Passivhaus · 24/08/2023 23:09

Theres obviously a reason they are annoyed. Are you sure the car wasn't obstructing the road. It sounds like there is history too.

DarkAndWild · 24/08/2023 23:10

You are unreasonable to antagonise the situation by requesting her boyfriend parks his van there just to piss them off.

WhenIWasAFieldMyself · 24/08/2023 23:12

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LoveThisUsername · 24/08/2023 23:12

Yadnbu. I'd had insisted he called the police and let them him tell him he's a cunt.

RudsyFarmer · 24/08/2023 23:13

Diagram surely? I tried to keep up but an I right in thinking you’ve double parked infront/behind your house and that’s what’s caused the drama? It’s obvious that there’s been simmering resentment for months and it all spilled over tonight.

Russooooo · 24/08/2023 23:13

Are you new here or just ignoring The Rules?

(we need a diagram)

frozencarlotta · 24/08/2023 23:16

Why did 2? More? Sets of neighbours complain about your parking? Sorry couldn't quite follow

But if it was more than 1 household then it's possible your parking is an issue?

Hummusanddipdip · 24/08/2023 23:16

I'm guessing the people in the house before you did it and he's had a bad day and your daughters parking tipped him over the edge. Extreme over reaction from him, but you and your husband didn't need to raise to it.

Also don't bother with the van, whats the point in deliberately antagonising people?

JustACountryMusicGirlInCowboyBoots · 24/08/2023 23:17

Sounds like an episode of a tv show I'd never est h but without a diagram you won't get any decent replies.

Comedycook · 24/08/2023 23:17

I'm really confused about the parking situation. Was your dd blocking him in? We do need a diagram

Tinkerbyebye · 24/08/2023 23:17

Where’s the diagram?

however you are not being unreasonable and yes I would be parking there

TheUsualChaos · 24/08/2023 23:17

Sounds like several neighbours are sick of all your vehicles tbh OP

primoseyellow · 24/08/2023 23:17

Your neighbours sound like sad idiots, it's a public street who gives a shiny shit who parks there. As long as no one blocks each others drives then Bob from Timbuktu could legally park there.

Lavender14 · 24/08/2023 23:18

It sounds like none of you are coming off well here. If you have room in your driveway why not swap the cars around in advance at night? That's what dh and I do to make sure the right car is at the front for whoever is leaving earliest. If other neighbours joined in to agree its causing issue then tbh I'd have been inclined to think it must be making things tighter for maneuvering than they're comfortable with so I would have used my driveway. It sounds like you doubled down more because of his attitude than anything else.

Poppyseed14 · 24/08/2023 23:20

I'm just here for the diagram and am bitterly disappointed. You know the score OP....

MzHz · 24/08/2023 23:21

Russooooo · 24/08/2023 23:13

Are you new here or just ignoring The Rules?

(we need a diagram)

mmm-hmmm

what ^ she said…

<folds arms>

recyclemeagain · 24/08/2023 23:21

Poppyseed14 · 24/08/2023 23:20

I'm just here for the diagram and am bitterly disappointed. You know the score OP....

Same.

Aquamarine1029 · 24/08/2023 23:21

Sounds like an episode of Jeremy Kyle.

Yourekiddingright · 24/08/2023 23:23

I'd be leaving the rusty van there until it was dust 🤣

Spirallingdownwards · 24/08/2023 23:25

Was she blocking the road for emergency vehicles though? How wide is the actual road?

While I agree you can park on a public road and noone can suggest otherwise you should park in a manner that doesn't block emergency access. You even said alone other neighbours came out and shouted you were blocking emergency access.

The fact you are asking whether he is a c* suggests perhaps you were being rude. It's not a question that is generally asked here even on a parking thread.

AcclimDD · 24/08/2023 23:25

I think if a second lot of neighbours came out OP to remonstrate about the same issue, then you should reflect properly on your family's parking.

maddening · 24/08/2023 23:26

This is something that could escalate - I would make sure you know the history of these houses and parking situation as I suspect it has not just come from the last 2 months - sounds like something has been brewing.