To think neighbour is an absolute c**t!

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Massive row with new neighbours last night which had other neighbours coming outside due the shouting. Totally mortifying and want opinions on whether neighbour is the c**t we think he is!

Moved into property a few months ago with a drive with space for 3 cars back to back at the side round the corner. We enter house through back door as that's where drive is. We have a works van and other cars that park opposite our drive and it can be pain to get out but only takes a few more seconds to manoeuvre. Not a big issue. and not something I'd complain about as it's not parked illegally.

Front door is near the bottom of a dead end road - pavement and road in front two car widths wide. Directly opposite front of house, both houses have drives big enough to fit two cars side by side. Have one car each so plenty of room on drive.

Lots of cars parked at top of road as many do not have drives so it's basically a one car width road due to parked cars. At the top of the road there are about 6 properties with one car drives with cars constantly parked opposite.

No one parks in front of our house and I wouldn't have an issue if they did.

We had 3 cars (including DDs's). DD occasionally parked in road at front of house if she come in late as DH leaves for work early so he'd have to move her car out first. Perfectly legal to park there and neighbours opposite have room (one road width) to get out of their drives.

Anyway DD has now moved in with boyfriend and hasn't been at home for a few weeks so has not parked at front for that period. Last night she popped round to pick up a few bits. Parked in front of house so she could come in front door and carry stuff out.

She'd been in house for literally 2 minutes and neighbour opposite front knocked and said she needed to move her car now. It was 10pm. We've never spoken a word to them before as we rarely use the front door.

DH basically said what's the problem, your drive is not blocked, she'll be going shortly, you're not even going out now are you? Neighbour said DH was being a prick and we had a 3 car drive so shouldn't be parking on the road ever. He's going to call the police.

DH did get rather angry at being called a prick and told neighbour to get off property and car would not be moved, he can call police etc. Neighbour then starts shouting that he's had enough, he's put up with it for ages (we've lived there 2 months!), who do we think we are etc. His wife comes out shouting, other opposite neighbours come out shouting that we're blocking emergency vehicles and rude etc, etc. We are certainly not blocking emergency vehicles, cars are parked all down the road and bin trucks get through fine!

DD is mortified and insists she'll move the car (bit annoyed at that) despite DH telling her not to. Neighbour says to her 'at least you're a decent one' which enrages both DH and I even more. DD is furious her Dad has been called a prick and shouts at neighbour that he's not decent either for swearing at her Dad.

Neighbour refuses to get out of front garden and keeps saying how horrible we are. Other neighbours have opened doors to listen by then so whole street will have heard. Had to slam door on him in the end.

He had his leg in a cast and was going on that he's had to come over to our house while in pain and didn't want to stand there any longer but he wouldn't leave as he wanted to continue the argument🤔

Neighbour now thinks he can tell us where to park and is the dogs bollocks probably thinking that told them!

Who was BU?

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend - unreasonable?

Er i think she did but just wanted to de escalate the situation. Hence why she told the neighbour her wasn’t great for swearing at her dad. Or are you just reading what you want to?

AAhhh!! And here I am wondering why there are rollerblades parked on her street...😆😉

I wonder if there’s some sort of unwritten agreement in your street about the parking that you are only just learning? Why do the people that park opposite your drive (or anyone else) not park in front of your house for example?

I am thinking something like this too.
Just because the neighbours further up the road congest the whole street and make it awkward to drive and you have to zig zag, maybe your end have been doing their best to not let that happen which is why no one else parka outside your house?
Obviously you can do whatever you want if it legal, but I would always try to diffuse a situation than make it worse.
I'd have apologised and parked round the back, but I'm a pushover, but also have never had a screaming row with the neighbours either.

This was my first thought but it's hard to tell when there's no diagram . Sounds a classic case of too many cars / vans for the space available .

I am on your side here OP.

As I see it your house is on a corner, your front door is on the main road and the driveway to your house is on the side road and accommodates 3 cars.
So when you park your car you enter your house through the back door.

Presumably when you have visitors (friends, tradesmen etc) they park their car on the main road and come to your front door.
When your daughter was living there she parked her car on your driveway and came into the house via the back door.

However she has now moved out but came home to collect some of her belongings and parked in front of the house as it was easier to collect them and place them in her car.

This infuriated the neighbour from across the street and the war began........

Perhaps he doesn't know that your daughter was only visiting and assumed she was still living there? Surely he can't be expecting all people coming to your house to park in your driveway?

However parking the boyfriend's van there is not a good idea.

What work vehicle? It is a car that was parked there so OP's DD could move some items to her car.
Work vehicle? 😬😖😫 I just can't.

Not if they're trash .

Having seen the diagram I think you have too many cars for the size of property and driveway .
I know how these things escalate having lived years ago in a cul de sac. Works vans were the biggest problem and houses with 3:4 cars when teenagers started driving . Parking is a massive bugbear for people .

They have two vehicles. Three when OP's DD comes over.

WHY does everyone keep saying they have a van? It's quite clear in her first post that it's a van that parks across from her drive, NOT that it's their van. She even reiterates it again and still people don't comprehend? smdhaplorc

It really does- Especially with the shouting. Too many vehicles per household and a small estate, by the sounds of it.

It's super frustrating when people park like dicks,my neighbours do it on the daily but don't think I would start screaming at them in the street, just roll my eyes now tbh

Agree

😂 this is hilarious

This.

From what I can glean, you fill the drive up and you also park on the road? It is annoying when one household have vehicles coming out their lugs and you want to antagonise all of the neighbours playing games.

Going to be a nice neighbourly place for you to live...

I don’t think you are unreasonable. It looks like most of that road has parked on one side of it. Neighbour was a prick.

However I would be careful how this argument progresses because it you ever want to sell the house, you’ll have to declare a dispute if you start sending letters etc.

You sound as bad as them to be honest.

I'm guessing someone in your neighbours household is not a confident driver and neither is your daughter, with both reluctant to reverse in/out if your respective drives. There are so many people who lack proper driving skills these days!

I've asked DD's boyfriend to park his battered transit van in front our house for the weekend

Now that you are fully aware of what your neighbour is like why would you purposely antagonise them? It’s people like you and your neighbours that the police have to deal with instead of more serious problems all because neither one of you are prepared to back down as a so called matter of principle. In this situation your principles will lead to more arguments and misery. For a peaceful life just don’t park there and if someone else does it’s nothing to do with you.

You’re as bad as each other tbh!

Have you even read the OP?

Her dd busted after moving out 2 months ago and parked legally in a road with other cars.

The rest of the time the OP and her DH use their drive.

OP I agree with those who say YANBU but seriously lost the upper hand when you started joining in the Jeremy Kyle style argument.

I would have just said that the car was parked legally and if they were struggling to get their car out you'd live a few feet for them to do it (then put it back).
Said you'd get the keys and wait for them to get in their car.

Best way to deal with people like this is to calmly play them at their own game - they obviously had no intention of driving anywhere with a broken foot!

Your daughter was parked in a really bad place.
I suspect it would have been ok for 30 mins as a one off but she had parked there other times as well causing a nuisance and so people were intolerant of it.

YABU

So what should she do, stop driving because a bored neighbour doesn’t like it?

We have a very narrow road and we've had neighbours complain if we have a visitor because they park opposite their drives (legally). They complain because they're nervous drivers who can't get their cars out despite there being ample room. But I'm a people pleaser and I don't want to make elderly people anxious, so now we ask visitors to park down the street a bit where it's clear.

This.

We're you parked legally? Yes. We're you parked considerately? No.

The diagram makes it it look difficult, but not impossible, for your your neighbours opposite to get out plus it's near a junction.
It's generally a bad place for your DD to park. Especially for any length of time. If I was your complaining neighbour it would annoy me. Again if I was them, I'd be OK with drop offs, but upset if I thought it would be a regular thing.
If you'd shown awareness of the problems your DD parking causes, had said it was a ten min visit, I as the complainer would be OK with it.
You are being unreasonable.