Harbouring a secret from DH

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Mildly light-hearted but also serious... I got a 2.2 at a RG university. In conversation DH alluded to how everyone he knows has 2.1s or better. It's come up a few times and I've either kept quiet or played along. I'm embarrassed to admit it. On my CV is just says the name of my degree but not the grade. One time DH found out someone had a 2.2 and made a not nice comment about them. DH is Oxbridge educated, in a very 'intellectual' job where you can't really get in unless your academics are excellent. I'm a scientist in rare diseases research so I guess DH assumed I did well in my undergraduate degree.. I've done done a Master's where I got one of the top results (I think another reason why he assumes I have a 2.1). DH and I have been together for 4 years if relevant.
Should I tell him? AIBU? Or shall I keep it a secret forever?

Lots of people have known their friends since, or even before, university. That's why they know their results. Others, as OP pointed out, have younger family members at university which made degree results a topic of conversation. Presumably all your friends are post-university but that isn't the case for a lot of people.

@Happylady165 so sorry to go off topic but how did you edit! Is it a new feature?

I don't either but not being able to tell your OH your degree result is bizarre.

Like the OP I got a 2.2 from an RG university and frequently work with people with much higher degree results than me but who overthink/ can't make decisions/ aren't creative in their thought. I also did well at masters level where you are encouraged to think more critically and be more original.

Anyone who really thinks degree class measures anything than a specific type of intelligence is frankly not as bright as they think.

This - you should be proud of the work you did for your studies and your career. I got a 2.1 - but so what? I know people who got 2.2's and I regard them as more intelligent than I am.

And by the way, I agree that your DH is a pompous twit and needs telling this (with his high-level intelligence he should understand what this expression means when you break the news to him....)

Does he brag about his GCSE's too?

Like who talks about things like that... I just say I have a degree in medical science.

Some time I point out my chosen area is embryology and developmental genetic (or how prior to that it was epidemiology but I switched) if its relevant to what we are talking about (like someone wanting advice on fertility/pregnancy or a discussion of pandemics etc...).

No one has ever felt the need to integrate further or asked what results I got.

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One time DH found out someone had a 2.2 and made a not nice comment about them.

just because you have intellect doesn't mean you'll not be a judgemental prick

summed up in the first post!!

Nice

All good 😊

its a new feature! Go to the … and click edit. It’ll only let you do it 5 minutes after you write to avoid someone completely rewriting what they said after backlash. Great for my dodgy spelling mistakes!

Tell him he’s a twat. An inexcusable twat. God he sounds awful. How can you be married to someone like that?

@Whapples @Plutoshooto I'm with whapples on this- who gives a shit - what matters is you are doing something that really makes a difference- so thank you so much as I know it's a very behind the scenes job where you don't get many public thanks

Ahh amazing ty!!

He's a prick.

So what? Who cares?
You went on to get a master's and then to have an interesting career in research.
Back in my day (late 90s) in chemistry there were a lot of people who got 2:2s who wanted to go into research and therefore did a MSc to be able to later go on to a PhD.

Sounds awful especially passing a group of people and getting abuse what was the reason?