I’m moving to Australia and no one cares

[aussierules1]

This is a pretty long story, but long story short I fell out with a girl in my friendship group. Shes very very headstrong and extroverted so naturally she’s been trying very hard to isolate me and it’s worked. Nothing sinister, we just clashed and don’t get on.

I was SUCH good friends with everyone, particularly one girl but since then, people have seemed really off with me.

In October I’m moving to Australia for 6 months. I put in a usually buzzing group chat that I’ll be planning on having some kind of party or night out before I go.
One girl replied out of 11 people. I was so hurt.
I then said that if no one’s up for it then it’s fine, and only one other girl replied.

i messaged her separately and said I felt shit, she told me not to worry and it’ll be fine. She then sent another two messages in the group chat on my behalf, encouraging everyone to respond.
They didn’t.

Eventually, my ‘best friend’ (who hasn’t spoken to me in a while because of the other girl I fell out with) simply said “not sure yet”.

Honestly I feel like saying not to bother to everyone. Should I? I only want people who want to be there.

Im so upset because we’ve always been so close, and now no one’s even fussed about seeing me off. I feel pathetic because my boyfriend is coming with me, and his friends are planning a surprise party. And I have nothing…

Man you are too invested with some deadbeats.

Leave them be.

Block them forever and go enjoy the world.

They are scared of the bully.
She will turn on them soon enough and they be soon wetting their pants.

Ur best friend was a big bitch.

Is there any screenshots of stuff she said about the others u can send to old whatsapp chat so they can see her 4 what she is.

Be funny for her to feel it.

Thank you so much everyone!! Honestly I’ve spent so much time wondering what I did wrong and nearly cried when I found out they had another chat

This. Honestly, it does all sound very juvenile. You don’t get on with one person in your ‘friendship group’, and you haven’t spoken to your supposed ‘best friend’ in ‘a while’ either?

Is this one of those bizarre Mn usages where ‘friend’ just means ‘someone I know’ and doesn’t imply actual liking or any kind of actual bond?

If there’s all this drama and division happening in this group, I’m surprised you thought that leaving the country for six months was going to generate any major acts of good will. Regardless of who you think is actually at fault, is it possible the majority of the group is relieved you’re going away for a few months to let whatever tension is going on between you and the ‘headstrong’ woman simmer down?

You say "She's very very headstrong and extroverted so naturally she’s been trying very hard to isolate me and it’s worked. Nothing sinister, we just clashed and don’t get on." Why does being headstrong and extroverted mean she has naturally being trying to isolate you? Perhaps the others have sided with her - because they have sided with her and not because she has done anything?

Horrible when people who you consider friends are not supportive but just see the ones who have been nice.

Happened to me in a group, but I didn't cry or waste my energy anymore. I simply left the group chat, blocked them and moved the fuck on with my life. No regrets. Stop wasting ur time and e ergo on ppl who don't give a fuck about u. Its as simple as that. Why r u allowing them to bring ur mood down. Just be excited for ur trip and make new friends if u come back.

Thank you all so much. I suppose it just makes me feel sad that no one is bothered and my boyfriend is getting a whole surprise party

But maybe his friendship group is closer, and there’s far less internal conflict and tension?

From the picture you paint of your own circle, it sounds as if there’s been drama, with you as one of the key figures, and you admit yourself that most of the others have been cooler with you of late.

I’m not sure why you would expect a united front and enthusiasm about a leaving party for someone a majority clearly consider trouble. (Regardless of the extent to which this might be objectively true.)

It came out of nowhere though. I decided this girl was too much drama for me so I simply kept my distance from her, and she kicked off. Everyone was saying to me how strange it was. All of a sudden, they’ve turned their backs on me

Sorry but I wouldn’t be arsed if one of my friends was going away for 6 months - we regularly don’t see each other that often as we are all so busy! I probably would think ‘why are they having a party for that’?! And not go.
but yeah, they still sound a bit shit and too much drama. Good friends don’t cause drama.

Turn your boyfriend's party into a joint leaving party and invite the nice friends to that. Sod the others. I'd be very much looking forward at this point and not backwards. Have an amazing time. I bet you will want to stay. I did when I went backpacking for 3 months by myself 🇦🇺🦘