Basically I have lived for years with partner in a rural location next to his parents on their farm.
During the last 3 years my dad was was diagnosed with prostate cancer ( had successful treatment ) and I lost my uncle at Xmas.
I live 90 mins away and I am a nervous driver so I want to move back to be closer to my own family.
I am living in one of my rental properties 25 mins away from my family whilst I decide if this will be permanent.
Plus my MIL interfere’s too much and always has done but I have never addressed to her it until last night when she sent me a nasty text saying partner was lonely and how could I just leave after years of living there.
She will text me asking me where I am living, what do I want her to do with my stuff ( in the house owned by my partner and nothing to do with her at all) and will constantly make passive aggressive comments.
She is like this partner’s ex wife and current partner too, not just me.
She feels she can speak to me how she wants and she knows I won’t say nothing back.
My partner works 3am -1pm and she would text me “he needs a meal when he comes home” even though I work full time myself, these are the kind of things that she would text me when I lived there.
Anytime my family visited she would watch them on CCTV and text me asking me “when are your visitors leaving”?
I told partner months ago I cannot tolerate her bossing me around and interfering anymore and to address this with her.
Last night I told her how I felt and how interfering she was and I told her a few home truths.
It had been simmering inside me for years and I felt a lot better for getting it of my chest .
I have decided to put my own family first now as for years all I have done is help MIL and FIL and they were never grateful or appreciative.
Have I been unreasonable in feeling like this and finally snapping at MIL?
And I a bad person for wanting to leave partner to live closer to my own family?
I feel like I am always in the wrong .
Thanks xx