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Posting for traffic - DD forgot her medication and we’re at the airport

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VeryGoodVeryNice · 18/08/2023 15:54

My DD (age 19) forgot both to take her antidepressant this morning, and to bring them with her. We’re about to board the plane to Amsterdam, going for a week. I tried phoning 111 and my GP, but neither could help (we were already through security).

Is there anything we can do when we get there to get an emergency prescription for her? If not the holiday is going to be a write off, I know from previous experience of her missing a day or two she gets awful withdrawals, and her dose has been upped recently so I’d imagine it’s going to be even worse. I realise any option is probably going to cost £££££ but I’d rather pay and save the holiday if possible.

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sixthvestibule · 19/08/2023 08:00

Well done OP, now enjoy your holiday. Efteling is wonderful.

Amberjane41 · 19/08/2023 08:02

VeryGoodVeryNice · 19/08/2023 00:00

Good lord, this thread 🤣. I thought I was asking a fairly basic question.

Now I have time to reply, DD is 19 but has ASD, CFS and crippling anxiety. She finds leaving the house completely overwhelming and needs a lot of propping up to keep her from crumbling mentally. So it’s terrific that so many of you have DC who have been able to travel the world/work full time/leave home/etc etc etc at the same age, believe me DD would love to be able to not be her, and to be able to do those things too, it eats her up every day that she is the way she is.

You’ll also be pleased to hear I’ve given myself a stern talking to for not reminding DD about her meds. It’s no excuse, I’m a failure as human I know, but I also have another, younger child with SEN who is just as high needs, but in completely different ways, and I have a chronic disability too which affects my memory and energy levels, so between trying to get the house sorted to go away, pack the bulk of what we needed to take, leave instructions for all the animals etc, I sadly dropped the ball and forgot to remind DD about her meds.

And before I get accused of another drip feed, I didn’t mention any of this because it wasn’t even remotely fucking relevant to the question I was asking, however it has somehow become relevant now.

HTH.

Fantastic reply!!! Jeez some people eh 🤣 Have a wonderful trip

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:02

BlastedIce · 18/08/2023 22:10

I was just wondering if it was to get away from you? Not many young men have such wanderlust or the finances to do it?

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So, he has money and opportunities? He works, he's had weeks of school holidays to fill, he has an allowance, he wants to see the world...

Still not sure why it makes me a horrendous mother because he's able to independently travel as an adult...

cuckyplunt · 19/08/2023 08:02

00100001 · 18/08/2023 15:59

It's not as if flights to Amsterdam are few and far between,and they're not terribly expensive...

She won't forget her medicine again...

If you can’t say anything useful, why say anything at all?

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:05

YouOKHun · 18/08/2023 22:05

Fuck me 001 are you really so obtuse? This entire thread is about someone else’s offspring. I’m just mentioning it because you don’t seem to have grasped that your input is entirely irrelevant and you seem to think that what your son would or wouldn’t do is somehow important. You seem to be getting off on being quite deliberately snide. Your son is well adjusted - good. What about you?

@VeryGoodVeryNice glad you’ve sorted it.

I understand completely thanks.

It's other people that keep banging on about how fucking awful I am as a mother
And I'm not sure what there's basing that on apart from I have a 19 year that can independently travel.

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:05

cuckyplunt · 19/08/2023 08:02

If you can’t say anything useful, why say anything at all?

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If you can't say anything useful, why say anything at all?

hopeishere · 19/08/2023 08:10

Glad you're sorted hope you have a lovely holiday!

Clickandcollect82 · 19/08/2023 08:14

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BlastedIce · 19/08/2023 08:22

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:05

If you can't say anything useful, why say anything at all?

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I think you forgot to say, glad it’s sorted OP?

I don’t think it will happen again, do you? Do your analogy of send them home alone to get them and get on another flight wasn’t needed.

you really don’t need to rule with an iron hand to get results.

Clickandcollect82 · 19/08/2023 08:24

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Topseyt123 · 19/08/2023 08:29

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:05

If you can't say anything useful, why say anything at all?

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Bloody hell, are you STILL prattling on? How tedious!

Zonder · 19/08/2023 08:32

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:02

So, he has money and opportunities? He works, he's had weeks of school holidays to fill, he has an allowance, he wants to see the world...

Still not sure why it makes me a horrendous mother because he's able to independently travel as an adult...

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I don't think that's what made people question your parenting. I think it was more your judgey attitude.

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VeryGoodVeryNice · 19/08/2023 08:46

Thanks for the nice comments, we didn’t get to Efteling until quite late last night but the house is amazing, the girls were made up with it.

Thanks to @ElizabethBest’s comment I thought I’d try to find the airport doctor first…we traipsed through the (bloody huge) airport following signs for first aid, I wasn’t sure if that was the right place but I thought at least they’d be able to tell us where we need to go if not.

When we got there, the very helpful lady at the desk said they had the medication there and if we had a prescription we wouldn’t have to pay for a consultation, just the meds. I showed them the email from the doctor’s surgery, she scuttled off then came back and said it was no good because it had to be a signed ‘recipe’ (prescription), and if we didn’t have that, we would need to pay for a consultation with a doctor, so that they could make their own ‘recipe’. I said that’s all I have, so if I have to pay, then I have to pay.

So we sat and waited for 5 mins and then the same lady came back with the box of pills and a card reader. Job done. No doctor in sight. DD1 was like “wait, so they can’t give us the pills without a prescription…unless we give them money and then they can” 🤣🤣🤣. Seemed to be the long and short of it, but I was beyond delighted to have the pills in our grubby mitts and wasn’t going to question it. Can’t believe it was that easy to sort, and very glad I started this thread (despite the abuse 🤣), I would never have thought of going to the first aid room at the airport.

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Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2023 09:17

caringcarer · 19/08/2023 00:26

I'd have tried to change our flights until the next day, then gone home and got them. I'm surprised if she has a learning disability and is depressed so forgetful you'd have not checked for meds and passports for her before you left home. I look after a teen with learning disabilities and we would make sure he packed them and we'd have spare too in case they got lost.

GP’s won’t give a ‘spare’ pack of antidepressants. Our GP won’t even renew the prescription until you are near the end of your current supply. If you’d read the op’s update before you posted, you’d have seen that her DD has much more than a learning disability and the meds are prescribed for anxiety - a condition I have myself and my memory’s just fine. As the mother of a child with a disability I’m surprised you don’t have a bit more empathy - the OP already has her hands full. And the advice for ASD is to encourage as much independence as possible - which the OP has done, and is now teaching her DD by example that problems have solutions and mistakes aren’t the end of the world. A much more valuable lesson than making her reliant on others. Oh, and she posted for advice on getting an emergency prescription, not a critique of her parenting skills.

Twoshoesnewshoes · 19/08/2023 09:22

Great news OP! And handy to know about airport first aid, I would not have thought of that!
as I said I’ve forgotten mine a few times, so I now keep a week supply in my make up bag. I just ordered my new prescription a week early so I had spares. No one said anything…

Rosscameasdoody · 19/08/2023 09:27

00100001 · 19/08/2023 08:05

I understand completely thanks.

It's other people that keep banging on about how fucking awful I am as a mother
And I'm not sure what there's basing that on apart from I have a 19 year that can independently travel.

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And there’s your answer, right there. You’re going on about how wonderfully well your 19 year old copes with independent travel, to an OP whose own child can’t because of a disability. How exactly do you think that helps? OP didn’t post for analogies about other peoples’ kids, she wanted to know how to get an emergency prescription abroad. Don’t understand why so many people are using the OPs situation to either throw ignorant shit about her parenting skills, or preen about how perfect their own are. How many of you have a disabled child ? If you don’t, then you’re not really in a position to pass judgement are you ?

notacooldad · 19/08/2023 09:31

Jeez, what a load of smug replies.
Well, as the adult in this situation, she can surely get herself home and collect her medicine?
You don't know a thing about this person's mental ability or her medical needs but somehow, once a person is 18 on mn, they are expected to just manage.
I work with so many teenagers of that age who wouldn't have the confidence to go back home and start again for many reasons. All of which are valid.
Besides the OP was asking about emergency prescriptions, not sending dd home and getting g back ho an airport.

JMSA · 19/08/2023 09:55

SoupDragon · 18/08/2023 16:29

Why do people keep going on about what their children can do? Their children are not the OP's child. It's completely irrelevant that little Ernie has been packing his own bag since reception.

It's incredibly unhelpful and annoying, I agree.

JMSA · 19/08/2023 10:01

Just read the update; I'm so glad you're all sorted!

crabclaw · 19/08/2023 10:03

It's not my fault the drip feed came after the suggestions.

It wasn't a drip feed. The OP clearly and unambiguously asked "Is there anything we can do when we get there to get an emergency prescription for her?". Not "do you have any suggestions as to how can resolve this". So replies about the daughter going back home to retrieve were completely irrelevant.

Willyoujustbequiet · 19/08/2023 10:19

Glad you got sorted op

I have second hand embarrassment for a particular poster after reading all this . There's tone deaf and then there's tone deaf. The ignorance is breathtaking.

timetogoawa · 19/08/2023 10:26

I take a few medications and worry about forgetting them:
So I write down what I need for duration of holiday, send request for medication to GP with holiday dates (online request).
When I collect them from the pharmacy, I put them straight into my hand-luggage - NEVER suitcase in case it gets lost.

I have a packing list I keep in a plastic envelope in a suitcase to remind me:

Asthma puffer
HRT
Antihistamine
Antidepressants
Contact lenses
Underwear
Swimming costumes
Eye-drops
Cleanser/Moisturiser

Clothes
Shoes

I find this prompts me v well.

Sleepimpossible · 19/08/2023 10:36

So glad it’s sorted OP. Enjoy your holiday. I don’t understand why some people are so harsh on here.

strawberrymullercorner · 19/08/2023 11:01

crabclaw · 19/08/2023 10:03

It's not my fault the drip feed came after the suggestions.

It wasn't a drip feed. The OP clearly and unambiguously asked "Is there anything we can do when we get there to get an emergency prescription for her?". Not "do you have any suggestions as to how can resolve this". So replies about the daughter going back home to retrieve were completely irrelevant.

A 19 year old with no special needs should have been responsible for sorting their own forgotten medication, so of course everyone would suggest sending DD19 home for their own medication. OP said that DD was in charge of her own medication and had announced she'd forgotten it once through security.

The fact that DD then couldn't actually be responsible for her own medication changed the thread.

Not really sure why someone is still talking about their very capable 19 year old after all these pages, but you know.

3nchant3d · 19/08/2023 11:08

VeryGoodVeryNice

It is really good to know. Wouldn’t be surprised if we had to use such a facility at some point in the future.