Posting for traffic - DD forgot her medication and we’re at the airport

[VeryGoodVeryNice]

My DD (age 19) forgot both to take her antidepressant this morning, and to bring them with her. We’re about to board the plane to Amsterdam, going for a week. I tried phoning 111 and my GP, but neither could help (we were already through security).

Is there anything we can do when we get there to get an emergency prescription for her? If not the holiday is going to be a write off, I know from previous experience of her missing a day or two she gets awful withdrawals, and her dose has been upped recently so I’d imagine it’s going to be even worse. I realise any option is probably going to cost £££££ but I’d rather pay and save the holiday if possible.

@00100001 lol

I think she's probably got that by herself.

@biggreentree you are so polite!

@Absolutelynotfornow 😂 I

She's 19! I was working full time at 16, pretty sure I didn't need my mother sorting out my mistakes at 19. My friend was a mother not long after her 18th birthday. Why do people insist on treating young adults like babies?

Okay, I've now read the drip feed from OP so in this case I can understand why she is trying to sort this out. My comment still stands for anyone else however.

Great that you managed to sort. 🙏

@BarbieWorldFantastic er I think if anyone needs therapy re their relationship with their mother they need to pay for it themselves?

Good lord, this thread 🤣. I thought I was asking a fairly basic question.

Now I have time to reply, DD is 19 but has ASD, CFS and crippling anxiety. She finds leaving the house completely overwhelming and needs a lot of propping up to keep her from crumbling mentally. So it’s terrific that so many of you have DC who have been able to travel the world/work full time/leave home/etc etc etc at the same age, believe me DD would love to be able to not be her, and to be able to do those things too, it eats her up every day that she is the way she is.

You’ll also be pleased to hear I’ve given myself a stern talking to for not reminding DD about her meds. It’s no excuse, I’m a failure as human I know, but I also have another, younger child with SEN who is just as high needs, but in completely different ways, and I have a chronic disability too which affects my memory and energy levels, so between trying to get the house sorted to go away, pack the bulk of what we needed to take, leave instructions for all the animals etc, I sadly dropped the ball and forgot to remind DD about her meds.

And before I get accused of another drip feed, I didn’t mention any of this because it wasn’t even remotely fucking relevant to the question I was asking, however it has somehow become relevant now.

HTH.

There's a fine line with ASD where too much support can actually become disabling.

The fact that you've let your daughter pack her own things and make this mistake but been on hand to firefight the solution is exactly the sort of enabling, supportive parenting an ASD young adult needs.

They also need to know it's ok to make mistakes and that there are solutions to most problems that don't need to be punitive in nature. It's not a character flaw that they've missed something, it's a blip in their executive functioning.

I hope you have a fab rest of your trip.

I'd have tried to change our flights until the next day, then gone home and got them. I'm surprised if she has a learning disability and is depressed so forgetful you'd have not checked for meds and passports for her before you left home. I look after a teen with learning disabilities and we would make sure he packed them and we'd have spare too in case they got lost.

So glad you got it sorted @VeryGoodVeryNice, €76 isn’t was bad as I would have expected either.

Glad it's all sorted - I hope you all enjoy your holiday!!

Glad you got sorted.

At least she told you she had forgotten rather than just having to deal with the consequences of being off meds on holiday.

VeryGoodVeryNice

I have a 19 year old with ASC and other conditions. We have been very much encouraged by professionals (and her)to give her independence. Part of learning independence (which takes longer with disabilities) is making mistakes. I didn’t get to my age without hiccups, I’m sure even the most perfect posters didn’t. You learn the most from making mistakes.

It can be hard parenting teens with debilities as there are more hiccups and they’re more vulnerable but still need to be as independent as they can. Finding the right spot to support can be hard to judge. We as carers often have additional things to worry about and organise. Some of us have disabilities ourselves.

Mumsnet can often be not what it os supposed to be- a place for parents to support other parents. I honestly think some posters just enjoy being unpleasant .

Enjoy your trip. We loved it there. Well done for your daughter just being there when coping with anxiety and ASC. She should be very proud of herself. 😊

You sound like you all really need a lovely holiday OP. Glad you are sorted , now breathe and enjoy!

This .

So perfect……… 🙄

Glad you got it sorted

Dh ran out :lost medication abroad

We went to a private gp and they did a repeat for him at around £50

Always handy to have a pic of medication on phone or nhs app so can see it

So many will do this

😂😂😂