A friend who steals your other friends

[Whenseptembercomes]

Anyone else got one of these?

One of my friends is super sociable (I’m less so in comparison, but have always had nice friends)

I’ve often introduced her to friends that I know and have known for a while, we then start seeing each other in a group, but then she’ll often arrange to see them on a one on one basis (obviously entitled to do this if she pleases) she almost love bombs new friends, then they start doing everything together.
I’ve noticed it a few times and have to admit it bugs me, not sure why
Anyone else with a friend like this?

@user1492757084 plot twist - the labrador puppy is named Wendy

This happened to me. I rose above it but it’s hard to forgive when you get socially pushed out.

it does sound like school child antics but I’m afraid adult women also do this.

I think the Wendy term may be to do with Peter Pan and Wendy and Tinkerbell.

You explained it better than me.

Not really. And its really not possessive. Not everyone will naturally get on with everyone and theres risk of drama if you mix. I do have a circle of friends who do mix and some who I see separately. Nothing wrong with that at all. They never cross paths with any of my other friends and that's okay

I don't think you should try and work out why she's done it, you'll never get inside her head. Arrange to do things with your original friend, you never know she might be embarrassed by the whole situation.

The term Wendy is from the character in the Judy Blume book Blubber that did this.

I get on with most people and when introduced to friends of friends it just happens sometimes. I am very excited by new connections but don't love bomb.

I think some people may do this on purpose, and that's really weird and manipulative, like a competition.

I just like people.

Best thing is to step away from it all, hold your head up and let them get on with it.

I had one. If I made friends she'd seem to target them and become friends with them and never invite me. While ensuring I never met other friends she made maybe she was worried I'd behave in an odd and territorial way like her who knows

Friends can't be stolen. They aren't possessions that you own to be taken by others.

Someone making friends with your friends is not stealing them. If your friendship is cooling perhaps its your attitude, and your notions about friend stealing?

I suspect she really enjoys that 'honeymoon period' at the beginning of a friendship when it's new and fresh and you haven't irritated each other yet. An uber-extrovert? Also, if she has a number of 'enemies' as you've mentioned, she perhaps makes friends quite easily and finds that part fun, but then struggles to keep friends or just gets easily bored, so is always looking for more.