AIBU to have felt slightly peeved that a waitress was speaking to my partner in a foreign language that I can’t understand

[Redrose28]

Hi all. I was out with my partner having a meal after a long and hard week. My partner is from a different country and he has another language as his first.

There was a waitress from his country in the restaurant too. When we were sat down, she was next to the table and they were speaking to eachother a fair bit in their language and I obviously couldn’t understand. They were asking where eachother were from etc. Whenever she came past either of them would make little comments in their language. Whenever she came to the table she would speak in his language to him. When the bill came, they spoke in their language too, about what I had no idea.

I was feeling a tad annoyed. What do you guys think of this? Am I justified to feel a tad annoyed? Should I mention it or let it go?

Put yourselves in their shoes first.
But don't make the end of your long hard week be ruined by getting upset about this.
It was a tad inconsiderate if they were having long conversations and ignoring you,but it must be lovely to meet someone who knows your home country!
Put it behind you.
And start to learn the language,it's a golden opportunity to do so.💐

The waitress is not the problem, as long as she addressed you in a language you can understand she is not been rude to you. If your partner is speaking to her in their language, it would be a bit rude to reply to him in your language as long as she speaks to you in yours.

The one who is perhaps rude is your OH who knows you don’t understand but keeps excluding you by insisting on talking repeatedly to the waitress in their language. The waitress would revert to communicate 100% in your language if your OH was not insisting on communicating in another language.

Personally I would find it nice that they could use their language for a bit, it is always nice to find a little piece of your country/heritage while submerged in an other environment BUT if he kept using the other language through our knowing that us excluding me I would think that he, not the waitress, is the arse.

It’s not the waitresses fault you don’t speak your partner’s language.

I don't really understand what you were annoyed about. It'd be weird if they'd spoken English to each other.