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To find this email rude

150 replies

Holdme700 · 11/08/2023 17:58

It’s from a supported living manager to a service user. Aibu to think this isn’t the way to do with service users?

To find this email rude
OP posts:
RoseslnTheHospital · 11/08/2023 18:00

It's not great, but it depends if it's a response to constant harassment of employees who don't work with this individual? Is it a response to problematic behaviour?

ilovesooty · 11/08/2023 18:01

I think more context is needed.

KrisAkabusi · 11/08/2023 18:03

Sounds like this isn't the first email that they are responding to. Is it you that has been emailed?

AgnesX · 11/08/2023 18:03

Apart from being badly written what's the context?

WhateverMate · 11/08/2023 18:03

Whoever wrote that sounds like they're on their very last nerve.

More context is definitely needed.

rwalker · 11/08/2023 18:04

Depends on the history of what’s been sent
does give the impression the person sending the emails been harassing them

i mr some want to complain they need to follow the correct process

they should of put they intend to block the sender

RoadSignFool · 11/08/2023 18:05

By “service user” you mean person who lives in supported living accommodation managed by the sender?

Yea it’s rude, it’s clearly intended to be! The sentence structure is a bit co fusing and aims be surprised if the recipient understood what “material stakeholder” was.

RoadSignFool · 11/08/2023 18:05

*I would be surprised

RoadSignFool · 11/08/2023 18:06

It’s tricky. The writer sounds like a pompous ass, but has clearly been provoked.

cansu · 11/08/2023 18:08

If you are a family member of a service user then it is rude. It sounds like there has been a lot of contact. However they should remain professional even if they think you are out if line.

cansu · 11/08/2023 18:09

Just reread your OP. If this is to a service user then they should also be professional and polite. Maybe the service user should try complaining to the CQC.

Caribun · 11/08/2023 18:10

Would need more context, has the service user been harassing them? Have they been asked before to stop the correspondence?

user5563790 · 11/08/2023 18:10

It's badly written, I'll give them that.

Merryoldgoat · 11/08/2023 18:12

That email sounds like the sender has reached the last straw.

I’d like to see the emails that led to that response.

BellaJuno · 11/08/2023 18:12

It’s a bit disingenuous to post one example with no context about the what has led to this point. “Enough is enough” implies there is a huge backstory here, so will wait for the massive drip feed 🙄

AutumnCrow · 11/08/2023 18:14

If I were handed that and asked to judge, obviously I'd ask to see the email trail and 'the file'.

cruffinsmuffin · 11/08/2023 18:16

Badly written, but seems quite direct rather than rude + it redirects to an appropriate method for whoever is sending multiple emails to express their issues.

It reads as someone who is at the end of their tether receiving emails / complaints that aren't their issue to deal with?

AffIt · 11/08/2023 18:19

I agree it won't be winning any prizes for services to literature, but it also sounds like the work of somebody on their very last nerve.

What's the context?

Smartiepants79 · 11/08/2023 18:19

Merryoldgoat · 11/08/2023 18:12

That email sounds like the sender has reached the last straw.

I’d like to see the emails that led to that response.

This is my thoughts also

10HailMarys · 11/08/2023 18:21

It isn’t a polite email but I assume from the context that they are replying to someone who is a persistent and vexatious complainant who refuses to go through the appropriate channels and is time-wasting and/or abusive.

There is certainly a more professional way they could have worded their reply, but the actual point they make is reasonable. They should have said something like “The volume of correspondence you are subjecting us to is now inappropriate, and we can’t continue to devote time to it. You must raise all further issues not with us, but with your care team. We will not reply to any more emails from you” which is a fairly standard response to someone who is harassing an organisation with vexatious and persistent complaints that either have no foundation or have already been answered.

Twillow · 11/08/2023 18:23

Can't possibly comment without the back story.

Balloonhearts · 11/08/2023 18:25

I'd like to see the previous chain tbh. Sounds like the service user has been way out of line and hints at previous emails having been abusive.

Rivermedway · 11/08/2023 18:25

I don’t think it’s rude. It sounds like the sender has had several emails before, and perhaps responded in the past, but that the recipient hasn’t got the message that the content in his emails are irrelevant.

Also that the recipient has sent his emails to the wrong contact.

HollaHolla · 11/08/2023 18:27

Yeah, I think it verges on exasperated rudeness. I wouldn't, and wouldn't have my team, send emails with that tone.
BUT, we need the earlier chain to know if it's warranted or not!

SiobhanSharpe · 11/08/2023 18:28

Even without any background I think the 'enough is enough' comment is superfluous and somewhat rude.
And it makes the writer look like an arse.

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