To think that PARTNER is an inclusive word we should use

[KajsaKavat]

Apropos the boyfriend on holiday thread I got a bit shocked how people reacted to OP describing him as partner and calling her out saying due to their ages he can only ever be a boyfriend.

I have teens myself and they all refer to the
person they’re dating as partner.
teens are all about being inclusive and using non gender specific terms, surely this is a good thing.

I think that's the most ridiculous thing I've read on this thread to be honest. The views that teens seem to hold are massively regressive when it comes to gender diversity. Maybe you need to look up the meaning yourself. I'm not even sure why I am engaging in this ridiculousness with you.

Come mothers and fathers
Throughout the land
And don't criticize
What you can't understand
Your sons and your daughters
Are beyond your command
Your old road is rapidly agin'
Please get out of the new one
If you can't lend your hand
For the times they are a-changin'

Not at all. Perhaps a useful resource for you:
https://genderedintelligence.co.uk/about-us/our-aims.html

WTAF are you talking about. I think you need to stop. I work with both teens and people who are trans so please don't try to pretend to have any ides about my understanding. And a poem, grow up 🙄

Whenever I see the word 'inclusive' I shudder, because it normally means exclusively prioritising men. It's usually women that suffer ie with 'non gender specific' which is helping to erase women as sex class identity, such is what is happening with 'trans rights', at the expense of women. 'Inclusive' always seems to be at the expense of women and girls. 'Inclusive' and 'non gender specific' can get to hell. I want nothing to do with it or the pronoun garbage.

The relationship stasi on here would have the heeby- jeebies about us then!

my now DH used to refer to me as his DW for the first 7 years of being together because he can't stand "Partner". I tended to say OH. We were in a LDR as well, 120 miles apart, so not formally living together or sharing finances. We did eventually sort everything out re getting together and getting married (major military logistical operation!) but I love the frothing and being ordered what you're "allowed" to say and not say on here

I think you'll find the "poem" is the lyrics to Bob Dylan's classic, The Times they are A'Changin'

At that age I would only consider them a partner if they live together. Nothing wrong with boyfriend at that age!

Agree with others. A cocklodger. A commitment-phobe with no respect for women. And the woman I'd call her giving the milk and cow away for free and not having self respect.

However, in the country I live in, DeFacto is used. It can mean DeFacto husband/DeFacto wife. You're either married or DeFacto.

Not threatening, we just find it sad. I pity the women.

There is no such thing as 'gender diverse'. You're either male or female and have a male or female partner.

Companion is a great term!

@Tandora I think you're the one who needs to educate yourself. Trans used to be transvestites, and they did not believe putting on a dress literally meant they had changed sex. You are are deeply ill-informed.

I think you sound quite brainwashed by gender ideology cult. The irony is it is the gender ideologists that are the one who have a very narrow set of ideas, BASED ON gender stereotypes. Try to think critically instead of falling for the current fad/cult.

The average teen may be brainwashed by the current 'gender diversity' fad, but that doesn't make them right. It makes them gullible and susceptible to the current fad. That's all. Adults know this 'gender diversity' stuff is just garbage.

You lack the ability to read and comprehend. They are pointing out that you are the one policing people's identities based on sex stereotypes. You, are the one doing that. Trans is all about SEX STEREOTYPES.

They're brainwashed that one.

@Sueveneers "Agree with others. A cocklodger. A commitment-phobe with no respect for women. And the woman I'd call her giving the milk and cow away for free and not having self respect. "
Gosh. Do you practice being that offensive or does it just come naturally?

@CurlewKate You asked for our opinions and that is genuinely what I, and many others, feel. Genuinely. I don't think it's offensive to say the woman is being taken advantage of and seems to lack self respect.

@Sueveneers Well, actually I asked for an appropriate word to use, if not partner. The Cow and the Cocklodger sounds a bit Restoration Comedy-but worth a try, I suppose.

Clever 🙄

This.

I’ve had a number of boyfriends but only ever one partner (who I later married). He was/ is my partner because we were /are sharing our lives together.

Wish I were a playwright. That title would make a belter to rival even John Osborne!

I have to laugh at the use of those particular Dylan lyrics - a song written in the context of and about the 60s civil rights movements - to make a point about gender fundamentalism. And there's no mistaking it; fundamentalism is precisely what it is.

Trans rights activism isn't a civil rights movement. It's a male supremacist one.

Trans used to be transvestites

nonsensical statement about semantics. You do realise that English isn’t the one universal global language right?

and they did not believe putting on a dress literally meant they had changed sex
What does this mean, and who believes this?
Total straw man. You clearly have no idea what being trans is so have invented some scary sounding nonsense in your head.