To not forgive colleague?

[pampaspot]

I applied for a new role it’s a few bands higher but I am qualified within that field just haven’t had much hands on experience.

The position is a secondment so it is a learning opportunity also.

Colleague showed me her screen today and previous message was to our manager of her saying “s is not a band 5” so she feels im not good enough.

I called her out on this and she started crying right away and apologising.

we work together once a week but now I just feel very off about her.

Manager didn’t pull her up on this until I said which is also very shitty.

Aibu to not forgive her so easily? I don’t want to create a bad atmosphere but I just feel so angry.

Nice one! Hope your colleague feels like dung, but don’t give her a second thought.

YAYYYYY congratulations!!

however please be aware that this isn’t the end of the road with attitudes like hers. I secured a big promotion too, and people will gossip about you and your capabilities once you’ve moved on. In time you’ll learn to block it out, but the criticism behind your back won’t stop just because you’ve got the job, it might even ramp up.

Unfortunately I don't think you've supplied enough information to make any judgement. I'm going to guess you're an HCA/Support Worker and have maybe taken a psychology or Health & Social care course.
It's a natural response to bring up the fact that you're not a band 5 (the normal banding for this position). I've been in both positions. I've been (equivalent of) a band 3 in my main job and done locum work paid at band 5 for something I'm well qualified to do. This has been questioned. I've also been employed at (equivalent) of band 5 and had a band 3 cover for me. They've complained they don't get my wage but I had to go uni for my qualification. It's arguable whether they're as good as me but these things always raise comments.
What do you mean you pulled her up on her (factual) comment? Either you were exceedingly aggressive or she was particularly sensitive. It really doesn't sound like anything to either cry about, or report to management.

@JudgeRudy I think she's provided plenty of information.....she has posted she has been offered the job...

Please come back and let us know what your colleague said when you told her about getting the job.

Yay!!! Well done op, that's great news!

Yes I've read that now. The info I wanted was about how she 'called her out' and what exactly the email said.
Good for her though

have to admit I’ve not read every comment so apologies if this has already been answered…I’m a band 5 and my natural progression would be to go to a 7 (weirdly there is no 6 in the department I work in, and for me it does feel strange to be encouraged by the team to go for the 7 and miss the non existent 6). I agree it’s shitty and unfair for someone to give it a flat out wtf to you though given we are all human for one but also most likely you over qualified for your current role…but working in the NHS I know (rightly or wrongly) they go a lot on “NHS”experience so would say if it’s a 3 to a 5 or maybe what I get the feeling of a 2 to a 5 I wouldn’t be surprised if you didn’t get an interview. But at the same time don’t let that dampen your spirits you would be surprised how quickly you can bounce through the bands and all the very best! xx

Congratulations @pampaspot ! I'm so pleased for you. And I'm especially glad your bitchy colleague will have to suck it up, ha!

Just seen you were offered the post! Amazing news congratulations 🥳

for my own nosey self (and to pump up my team) can I ask what you went from to? Xx

Congratulations!!🥳

And more to the point, is your manager discussing it with your colleague?

Congratulations!!! 💝💝💝

Rise above it.

I remember overhearing coworkers at the tea point sniggering about me practicing client presentations (we have glass meeting rooms)

It hurt my feelings at the time but i just said something breezy /dismissive as i made my tea.

4 years on i got 4 promotions was a senior director and my salary had more than doubled (>100k) They were all on the same money dicking about at manager level. I then moved for even more money!!

You dont need to forgive her - Smile to her face and stay classy and do your thing. But her and your manager don't have your back.
If you get it you wont need to do anything the promotion alone is enough to make the point.
And if you don't get this role - you tried and showed ambition... also you might get the next one!

This is why you RTFT!!!

Yessssss OP - fantastic news.

Good luck in the new role... put her and your manager in the rear view mirror. And enjoy all the extra ££££ that comes with your promotion!!!!

Advice remains though - stay classy and dont rub it in (no matter how much you want to!!!)

I wouldn't trust her again, and would keep a professional (although polite) distance from her. She's revealed something about herself there.

Ah, and....congratulations!

Good luck OP. I wonder if this colleague is perhaps a bit jealous of your ambition. Very mean and unprofessional of her. If I was in your shoes, I would be professional at work, and nothing more. Wishing you all the best.

X post, many congrats 👏 well done you. You must feel so tempted to send her an email with laughing faces, I know I would!

Well done. Leave her behind.

Brilliant news! I wish you the very best in your new position!

I’m sorry but you yourself have said this new job is a few bands higher than what you are now. The context is - did get manager ask her opinion or did she just decide to interfere and give it

Why would a manger ask a random colleague if she was suitable for a secondment?

*manager

Great news OP! Congratulations on the new role.

Get in OP!! 💪

You’re well away from that pair of massive gossips and perhaps at least one might now reflect on their own lacklustre career performance trajectory.

Moving on up 🎵