Was I really that stupid to deserve this?

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Staying at in-laws and expected to help out, tidy up etc this is all normal.

I put my toddlers nappy (slightly wet) into a nappy bag into a Tesco bag and then took out and changed the food waste bin and put the bag into the Tesco bag, fully tied up on the kitchen floor, as I was about to leave to go out.

After getting the children's shoes on and what not me, dh and children went in the car.
When I got back I realised I was meant to take the bag out.

I grabbed it and walked to the bins and put it in the bin.

Well at dinner time FIL told dh "how did she forget to take the bag out and just left a dirty bag in the kitchen" and kept banging on about it
Dh then asked me why I forgot
I said light heartedly "oops pregnancy brain but when I got back I put it out, it was sealed, it was hardly a smelly nappy left out on the side"

Like I'm completely confused exactly why this was a big deal?
Am I in the wrong? Like I'm fully exasperated at this argument that's happened.

I don't understand why FIL didn't just put it in the bin himself?
Or is this a household in which you don't do menial tasks if you have a penis?

Your FIL needs an effing slap. So sick of men like this.

I’m so sorry for you. My in laws would have been snatching the dirty nappy out of my hand to deal with themselves! Posts like this make me count my blessings

I mean if he’s getting so worked up over a nappy, I dread to think what he’s like when someone takes the actual piss. Also, your DH is fanning flames and validating his rudeness.

At least that can give you peace of mind your not the problem some people just moan about everything coz nothing else to do… that kind of person annoys the shit out of me. Keep strong and calm as possible x

Did fil say that in front of you at dinner time??? Because if he did I’d be staying elsewhere- no matter how much it cost me 🤷🏼‍♀️

Omg- the bag is not the problem- keep on top of her?????? What fricking century are they living in- 🤦🏼‍♀️

This!!!! I’m actually disgusted!

I cant understand why someone else didn't throw the nappy bag in the bin.

The FIL has probably been a bully all of his life which explains why your DH couldn’t stick up for you properly. Both of you may be better to go very low contact with this nasty man .
Tell DFIL that your DH is not your boss and won’t be intervening in any future conflicts between you and him , and then tell him to fuck off .

👆🏻this with bells on….

Tbh, I’d be a bit pissed off if you left a dirty nappy bag lying around, particularly in the kitchen. It’s pretty disgusting. I’m guessing you lose sight of just how disgusting when you’re dealing with them every day.

But you being remiss in doing that is cancelled out into oblivion by your FiL and husband talking about you as if you weren’t there, which is horrendously rude. I’d tell the pair of them to fuck right off, and I wouldn’t engage again until I had a grovelling apology. From both of them.