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Original poster

to think that SAHM's with school-age children are in fact just stay at home people?

321 replies

Pissyflaps · 27/02/2008 10:40

I'm going to get flamed backwards for this, but I really don't care. I'm also going to be accused of all manner of trollery, bite me.

It's my opinion, I want yours - so, SAHM's who's children are at school-all day, aren't they just stay at home people? Not a lot of parenting goes on as far as I can tell.

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hatrick · 27/02/2008 10:52

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Peachy · 27/02/2008 10:52

Depends what you do anyway

I'm not a true SAHM (disabled kids, uni student, 35 weeks pg)- but even if I were I would still be doing the PTA stuff and general helping out I do, that's perfectly valid and part of my personal aprenting choices.

Whereas I know several SAHM's who choose to use the creche at the country club and spa on a regular basis.

And even if you are a sah PERSOn- so? Who's it hurting if your family is OK with this? Maybe DH works shifts (so you'd only see him in the afternoons ike mine), or whatever?

And is a SAHM not a person.....

odd thread

BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/02/2008 10:52

Yawn

K999 · 27/02/2008 10:53

The trouble is, is that even if your kids are at school, it is a nightmare if they are ill etc and then you have nearly 49 weeks of school holidays to contend with...

Psychomum5 · 27/02/2008 10:53

which I can do seeing as my kiddies are all school age and I am no longer a mum, just a person again!!!!!

oooh.....I so wish sometime that were true, but no........got a little boy curled up next to me poorly at the moment , so am back to being a SAHM again

hatrick · 27/02/2008 10:53

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stuffitllama · 27/02/2008 10:53

what are you like

Monkeybird · 27/02/2008 10:57

Troll: perhaps a bitter and resentful dad forced to go to work to support his family who believes it's all fun and games at home with the kids

eleusis · 27/02/2008 10:58

Oh pissyflaps, you are indeed starting trouble just for the sake of starting trouble. Shame on you.

But, oi monkey, can I have salty please?

CrushWithEyeliner · 27/02/2008 10:58

your name is disgraceful btw

eleusis · 27/02/2008 10:59

I have noticed though that I will not be able to discuss this thread in RL because I will not be able hold a straight face whilst I mention and aquaintance called "Pissyflaps". I mean the whole friend of friend named Pissyflaps thing is just not going to work, is it?

Megglevache · 27/02/2008 11:00

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Pissyflaps · 27/02/2008 11:01

The bottom line is, I don't have fucking clue what SAHM's do all day when their kids are at school, and I'd quite like to know exactly what goes on.

At the moment, I'm kind of of the opinion that it might be possible for them to get a job. It's interesting to me to hear people say that it's hard to find a job that fits round school hours - I hadn't really thought of that. That's why I want to hear your opinions.

I could have posted it anywhere, but to be honest, however it was posted people would have jumped down my throats, accused me of starting a SAHM v WOHM debate and being a judgey pants.

I am asking you for your opinions, because I am perfectly open to them, and to possibly changing my own opinion as a result of what you say.

If that's what you call trolling, then that's up to you.

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Monkeybird · 27/02/2008 11:03

but who are you, PF? Not really polite to ask such questions without introducing yourself and your internal conflicts is it?

mrsruffallo · 27/02/2008 11:03

As usual I agree with hatrick. Why do you care?
Are you resentful? Do you have reservations about your own lifestyle??
What a strange thread- who gives a shit??

monkeybutler · 27/02/2008 11:04

Is this true? Is that what happens when they go to school?. Youngest starting reception in Sept and I stop being a parent ? BRING IT ON!!!!!!
Sick of up at 7am DS to nursery DD to school 9.30 to 2.30 shift in supermarket, pick up DS, pick up DD, do homework make teas and then 3 nights week go back to supermarket to do a 6 - ten shift. I can stop this in Sept and become a person again - oh sweet relief.

CatIsSleepy · 27/02/2008 11:04

perhaps you could have phrase your OP a little differently?

Wisteria · 27/02/2008 11:05

Most SAHM's I know whose children are at school, don't have a spare minute and if they do then it's when they do the ironing - there are always loads of things to do.

I think you sound jealous to be honest.

CatIsSleepy · 27/02/2008 11:05

phrased, I mean
it seemed a bit antagonistic

eleusis · 27/02/2008 11:06

Pissy (I can't even type it with a straight face), your post is actually stated in a pretty offensive way.

If you want to enquire what SAHMs do whilt their kids are in full time school, that a valid debate. But the wording of you post at least implies the accusation that they do nothing.

There maybe a wide variety of community involvement that they work on all day long. For the school. For the church. Or they might go to the gym every day and be really fit and healthy. 'tis a bit odd really that you seem to think all mumsm who stay home have one single life. I'm sure they do a wide range of things with their time. Some probably work very hard and some probably don't. But, as I sit here typing on mumsnet I haven't got a lot of room to talk on who is and isn't hard working.

hatrick · 27/02/2008 11:07

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Bramshott · 27/02/2008 11:08

Wouldn't suit me, but my hunch is that they are probably doing all the stuff that isn't paid, but that would cause the world to stop if they stopped doing it - helping out at school / playgroup, looking after elderly relatives, volunteering etc.

Wisteria · 27/02/2008 11:09

Thank you bramshott - that's what I was trying to get across further down (not as eloquently as you).

mrsruffallo · 27/02/2008 11:09

So are working parents not parents whilst they are working??
Come on, LET'S GO!!!!

sagacious · 27/02/2008 11:09

Pissyflaps I'm sure you're not being judgy pants .. or are you ?

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