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Is this super stingy or do I expect too much

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turnthetvoff · 31/07/2023 19:17

Me and my ex-boyfriend, split up awhile back. We are still cool, and occasionally we will see each other on a casual basis. I've always had a problem with his stinginess....

The other day I decided to go up to see him at his. I'm not driving so I took a cab up there and a cab back. I ate lunch before I went there but wanted dinner. He had already eaten/had leftovers.

There was a Chinese takeaway, five minutes down the road from there, but they only accept cash. I didn't have a card on me as I tend to use contactless, so I asked him if he could withdraw the money for me if I sent it to his account. My dish was going to come up to around £7. When I was in the process of transferring him the money, he said to me, he can't withdraw £7 from the cashpoint. I said obviously, I was going to send you a whole £10 to withdraw.

Now, I know I was the one that wanted to eat, but isn't that just another indication of his stinginess?! Considering the fact that I paid for a cab there, would be sleeping over having sex with the guy, and paying for a cab back, the guy couldn't even pay £3 towards my meal.

Anyway, when I got my food and started eating, he then had the cheek to say that I didn't even offer him any!! I purposely didn't, because I just thought he was so cheeky over the £3 comment.

Really, if he was anyone else , I would have expected him to just pay for the meal - it was £7 bloody quid. Is that asking for too much?
I'm never having sex with him again just to add!!

OP posts:
UnsungShero · 01/08/2023 15:07

heartofglass23 · 01/08/2023 15:05

Of course he doesn't hate you, you still tend to his penis!!

😂😂😂

”Tend to his penis” is now my new favourite saying.

DoubleTime · 01/08/2023 21:13

Rathouse · 01/08/2023 14:36

Behave. If he wanted food too why didn't he order? Used for £3? Yet wanted £3 change... sounds like he's being used doesn't it 🙄

What a hard life he leads someone doing all the running around to his house and he gets left with an orgams poor man!

You so missed the point Rathouse. He commented that she 'didn't even offer'. It was his house.

Do your friends drop by unexpectedly to yours and then get you to run out to a cashline for them because they want food (you don't want any and have so)? So you do that for them, and then they sit and eat said food in your house, in front of you, and don't even politely offer any to you (or anyone who lives there)?

Cos that sounds pretty rude.........

As for your final comment, I am not even going to go there.

DoubleTime · 01/08/2023 21:14

*(you don't want any and have said so)?

SquirrelMadness · 02/08/2023 08:32

@Rathouse plus - she dumped him initially. He apparently wanted to continue the relationship.

If someone dumped me and then continued inviting them round to my house, I certainly wouldn't buy them dinner. I might feel pretty used if they bought dinner with my help and ate it in front of me without offering me anything. I certainly wouldn't post about it on some "revolting forum", as someone on here suggested.

If a woman posted on here saying her ex had dumped her but still popped round expecting them to run errands, would that situation still get the same responses?

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