Is this super stingy or do I expect too much

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Me and my ex-boyfriend, split up awhile back. We are still cool, and occasionally we will see each other on a casual basis. I've always had a problem with his stinginess....

The other day I decided to go up to see him at his. I'm not driving so I took a cab up there and a cab back. I ate lunch before I went there but wanted dinner. He had already eaten/had leftovers.

There was a Chinese takeaway, five minutes down the road from there, but they only accept cash. I didn't have a card on me as I tend to use contactless, so I asked him if he could withdraw the money for me if I sent it to his account. My dish was going to come up to around £7. When I was in the process of transferring him the money, he said to me, he can't withdraw £7 from the cashpoint. I said obviously, I was going to send you a whole £10 to withdraw.

Now, I know I was the one that wanted to eat, but isn't that just another indication of his stinginess?! Considering the fact that I paid for a cab there, would be sleeping over having sex with the guy, and paying for a cab back, the guy couldn't even pay £3 towards my meal.

Anyway, when I got my food and started eating, he then had the cheek to say that I didn't even offer him any!! I purposely didn't, because I just thought he was so cheeky over the £3 comment.

Really, if he was anyone else , I would have expected him to just pay for the meal - it was £7 bloody quid. Is that asking for too much?
I'm never having sex with him again just to add!!

Aptly put 😂

The other thing I am confused about, besides the arithmetic is this comment -

' I didn't have a card on me as I tend to use contactless'

How did you pay for the cabs? Were you expecting him to cook ?

I think she meant paying via her phone

Yes, I got that Sunshineclouds11 - but she clearly expected to eat at his -

I ate lunch before I went there but wanted dinner.

Did he ask for half the cost of the condoms too?

Raise your standards.

That guy didn't even have to leave his own house. You paid to get there, you paid for a meal and you were going to pay to get yourself home again. You slept with him even though you knew he was really tight.

Honest to God, no wonder we have problems with men nowadays.

You expected too much of someone you know to be tighter than a gnat’s arse. Consider it a paid for lesson in people never changing who they are.

I can’t believe anyone that miserly is likely to be any good at shagging either. Selfishness seeps into all aspects of personality!

The other day I decided to go up to see him at his. I'm not driving so I took a cab up there and a cab back. I ate lunch before I went there but wanted dinner. He had already eaten/had leftovers

YOU decided to visit him
YOU decided to have some food

Why do you expect him to pay? Because you are female and sat on his knob?

It all sounds a bit toxic with neither of you, very satisfied with this relationship. Why couldnt you withdraw the cash for your own takeaway.

Raise your standards my lovely. xxx

I'm not 100% sure that its stinginess rather than him taking you too literally.

Did he go and get the takeaway for you ?

You are saying he should pay to have sex with you. You are cheap, £7. But he doesn’t think you are worth it.

Jesus.

It's true, though. It's just that putting it in these terms really shows what OP is prepared to put up with, and what a colossal turd this guy is.

It’s the truth. He does not care enough about her to pay for food. She seriously needs to raise her bar, and see that she can do better. Or not complain.

I find it very hard to believe that a stingy person is good in bed.

Is it him though ?

Did OP invite herself down - 'The other day I decided to go up to see him at his'
Want dinner when he had nothing in - 'He had already eaten/had leftovers.'
And then want him to go out to a cashline machine because he had no cash to hand - 'he can't withdraw £7'
So his unexpected visitor, who arrived in a cab, could eat at his ?

But you invited yourself over !
You wanted/needed him for x,y,z, whatever. He didn’t need or want you enough to call you or go to yours.

He’d already eaten. So you invited yourself over, made a fuss about ordering food and not eating something from the cupboard, didn’t order anything for him, ate it in front of him presumably, had sex, stayed the night, now you’ve got the hump.

The most bizarre thing tho is you got a takeaway for £7 - my mind is blown.

It is neither manly nor ladylike to be stingy. Since Op’s ex is a MAN, she used the word MANLY.

Ha yeah right..😂

LMAO Imsureitsprobablymebut, I also am wondering where in the UK you can get a main course from a Chinese for a mere £7.......

So we can’t use the word manly in reference to a man?

It's basic manners to offer someone food if they come to your house at dinner time. That bothers me more than the £3.

Maybe he is hard up. Maybe OP is profligate/royalty - taxis everywhere but doesn't carry cash or cards. Hungry but only wants £7 of takeaway food.

Surely sex should be fun or loving. Or both. The ex is stingy, like he always was. If you want different, change something

Sums it up perfectly