Hot and bored on holiday

[olympicsrock]

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

OP, being away in this heat entertaining your children alone doesn't sound like much of a fun holiday to me.

We are going away in a few weeks, and I'm a bit concerned about how hot it will be for the children.

I wouldn't worry about the arsey posts, most people complain about something that others could only dream of having to complain about. That's the way of the world.

@Sixmonthcruise i’m really sorry to hear that. Sounds really tough.

Are you eating too early ? Spanish don't eat until 9.30.10 ish. When it's much cooler try going out later.

Lunch 1.30-3. Siesta afterwards

I was bored on our holiday too and it was only 30 degrees. I was too hot to sunbathe and I just wanted to come home.

Spent a fortune too but at least the kids enjoyed the pool and the beach.

I'm also in Spain at the moment and to be honest, I'm looking forward to coming home, it's far too hot, even the pool is like getting in a bath, I know we're lucky to be away this year,we haven't had a holiday abroad since 2018 , maybe I've just forgotten what its like

Shut up ya whiny bint 😆

Shop for some local ingredients and make an amazing platter/meal/salad

Learn to meditate

Do some yoga

Have a sleep

Stick a movie on for your kids and have sex with your DH

Restyle yourself - attempt a drastic new makeup look

Try cold water immersion

Plan a night time fire pit session

Think up ways/make a list of how your family can contribute to slowing down climate change

I assume this is your own property? Or do you rent out a villa each year?

What do you do on previous holidays there? It sounds like it's all centred around your husband tbh. You should not be having to tip toe around each morning waiting for him to wake up.

If it's your own place, of course you need to use it.

Try living like the locals do. Eat early (if he misses breakfast, tough shit), get out early before the heat of the day. Then back out after the heat of the day.

But if you are having to do it all alone, this may well be a big chunk of why you are having a shit time.

Well you have my utmost sympathy because I absolutely despise oppressive heat. I'm quite content where I am rn, on the blowy coast of sunny scotia!

The family I knows compromise is he goes away on solo hobby holidays and they are now on a proper family holiday (no dad hobbies)
I think set up like you currently have allows him to delude himself that you are all having a nice family holiday when he was basically doing his hobby abroad.
Family I know scenario for years was mum up early with kids and sorting breakfast.
Mum supervise kids all day in pool (does like reading but there are limits!) mum makes lunch.
Dad got up late, faffed with bike, sorted his own food as he was ‘training’ so needed to eat set things. Then he went out for hours.
Mum gets kids ready for dinner out, tidies up, washing etc.
Dad comes in, showers.
All out for dinner - aren’t we having a lovely family holiday…
Yes it’s a luxury villa up a mountain side (chosen with hobby in mind) but no car, public transport or anything to see or do in walking distance.
I think teen kids saying they’re bored has finally stopped it.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 made me chuckle

@ItsCalledAConversation

here’s a conversation ya whiny bint .
It’s too hot to cook. DH and the kids are fussy eaters so not much fun to cook.
Yes I’ve had salad daily and it was nice.
Yes to yoga and I meditate
I’m bored of sleeping and am woken by back pain and sciatica every few hours - this might be part of my grumpiness .

It’s too hot to be touched let alone have sex. And why the hell should I reward DH for buggering off.

makeup would slide off my face in seconds
Cold water immersion - yes maybe drive to a beach at night on my own. Pool is like a warm bath

DH won’t sit outside in the evening as he moans about mosquitos so I’m outside on my own…

No wonder I have finished three books. 🤣🤣🤣

You’re not being unreasonable to find the heat uncomfortable and oppressive.
Most folk who live in hot countries do what they can to avoid the heat when it is severe, going on vacation to somewhere cooler if they can afford it, eating and socialising in air con spaces, adjusting schedule so they’re inside and preferably napping during the worst of the daytime heat. When it is still hot at night, then people eat inside.
And wallowing for hours in a too-warm pool is not fun, sea swimming risks getting too much sun and you can still overheat.

Now, climate breakdown means that many people need to rethink the “escape to the sun” in southern Europe mentality. I’d sell the place you’re in while you still can.

What am I doing for my summer holiday? I’m visiting family & staying in an Air BnB in Norwich. I’m really looking forward to walking in the rain and wearing cosy clothes and fluffy socks inside. Outside, here, the “feels like” temperature is 40.5c. We are inside all day, will emerge to swim in the overly warm pool at 5.30pm, as the mosquitoes descend.

OP I hear you. Menopause makes me hot in a way I never was before. Like I’m being boiled from the inside.

@Dixiechickonhols yes that’s it…

Are you there for the whole summer holiday @olympicsrock ?

You are getting a lot of stick, OP, but I get it. We haven’t bought a holiday home for this reason, I get bored.

We’re currently in the Swiss alps and the weather is amazing. We took the kids on a long cycle today and have spent previous days hiking, temps in the mid 20s. These days, we save the med for May and October half term holidays and tend to go to the mountains or Scandinavia or further afield to the southern hemisphere in July/August. Have you ever considered selling the Spanish property and buying something in an area where the weather won’t boil you alive in the summers?

It will be even hotter next summer, too hot to holiday in Spain.
In a few short years teenagers won’t want to holiday with you.
Give it a few more years and you may be physically unable to travel to a holiday destination.
Some time after that you may be dead.
Make the most of life, whatever it brings, because in retrospect you’ll wish you’d

made more of it while you could.
How about writing a book?
Trace you family tree online and write brief biographies of the family members you know/knew. Something your family will appreciate in the future. No physical energy required. Your deep distant ancestors survived in hotter (and bitterly cold) climates without the amenities we enjoy today.
Finally, it’s a shame your holiday hasn’t turned out as you hoped, but that’s life and it’s fortunate you aren’t on Rhodes.

sounds horrible op-only thing imjealous of is the aircon

I knew the problem a fucking useless DH and a spectacular inability to communicate.

Made your sweaty bed, lie in it.

I’d definitely have the conversation that it’s not working for you.
The holiday they are on is very different this year (city sightseeing)

Things I might do:

Have a cool shower, then a nap
Make lists of things-Xmas gifts, or house reno plans
Order an Amazon delivery of craft stuff
Write a letter
Plan out a novel
Phone a friend
Drink myself into oblivion

God the mumsnet bastards are out in force today aren't they OP? They pretend they are virtue signalling but they just like to kick someone when they are down and they are jealous.

How fucking dare you be on holiday when other people can't be?! How dare you be not enjoying it when there are people in this country that can't afford food?! God the amateur dramatics of some posters. People have different lives and different levels of wealth. Money does not equal happiness.

Sounds awful and dull OP. I'm menopausal and can be too hot in the very depths of winter. It also sounds far too hot to do anything enjoyable. My DH has mooted having his bike on holiday so he can go for days out on it. I've totally vetoed it. Don't give a damn if the makes me controlling. We've already lost all the Sunday activities we used to do together. No more breakfasts out followed by a long hike across the moors or a riverside walk. Instead he goes out for a long morning bike ride of several hours, then schleps about in sweaty Lyra and then sleeps all afternoon in front of the box. Sunday is my one day off a week and they now feel like a total waste of life.

Oh dear @olympicsrock you really are stuck then aren’t you!

Just out of interest, what would your ideal holiday be? If you could sell this holiday home and buy another, where would you choose?

Even without this extreme heat, this is no holiday for you and you need to stop letting your DH dictate your life or accept this is your lot . He sounds incredibly selfish and has no clue or interest what makes you happy as long as his life ticks along ok like pretty much all men I know who earn loads and have a time consuming hobby usually golf or cycling often both

Unfortunately the women I know who decided enough is enough ended up divorced but all now 100% happier for it albeit with some difficulties around the actual divorce ( no surprise I’m sure but these men aren’t quite so generous when it comes to divorce). Obviously not all high earning husband’s are selfish gits and not all conversations end in divorce but it’s certainly my experience as someone living in affluent largely middle class commuter belt.

Op it sounds like you are sacrificing your own holiday preferences for DH and the kids. You are going to need push back and start coming up with your own holiday plans, even if it means leaving the DH and kids on their own while you do your own thing either solo or with friends. Your holiday is just as important as theirs.

I can recommend any of the Scandinavian countries.