Hot and bored on holiday

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So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

I get bored by dat 3 on holiday too tbh. I never stop usually so sitting about is alien to me. I'm usually in pissing it down Scotland or Wales but still....

I get where you’re coming from OP. It’s miserable to be in a lovely place and too hot to do anything. Last year, after a glorious week at DFIL’s Alpine chalet, we headed down to my parents’ in the Var (deep in Provence, my mum is Provancale).

We arrived during the canicule and I’ve never known heat like it! All I could think about or talk about was how hot I was. The pool was like wasp soup full of splashy kids (our own, the neighbours’, some random ones.), and at one point several dogs popped in for a cooling down. The only tolerable activities we’re driving with the air con on and laying in front of the fridge on the stone floor in my underwear (much to the bemusement of French cousins.)

I’ve never been so happy to arrive in boring, bracing le Touquet!

I just joined and I’m shocked at how horrible people are.

Well it’s only going to get worse year on year so tell your DH this is the last time you go there in full-on summer, stick to half-terms when it’s cooler or sell the place if that’s unacceptable to him.

It sounds like you’re lonely not bored Op. He’s out for hours at golf, cycling, won’t sit outside and chat in the evening.
Holidays often magnify things. Divorce enquiries go up after Christmas and summer hols.
At home you probably both have a busy life. It’s a lot more obvious when you are away how little time he’s wanting to spend with you.
Just because it looks marvellous - isn’t Op lucky she’s in a nice house with a pool in Spain - doesn’t mean you are spoiled or ungrateful if you say actually it’s not working for me anymore.

Op, you have a dh problem, not a holiday house in the heat problem.

Here is what you must do.... Step 1: Grab paper and a pen, have another glass of wine, and write a detailed plan of what your ideal holiday would look like.

Step 2: Show it to dh and inform him that this is what you will be doing next year.

Hope this solves the problem!

P. S. I would hate your current holiday too.

Aw poor sausage

Oh you poor soul, not a thing to please you, so much hardship and displeasure. It must be so awful being you. I feel for you (and your poor family).

We are here for 2 weeks so another 9 days - last year 3 in the summer. Going home to the UK last year the heat intolerance was even worse. I’m on HRT and it’s better this year as no hot flashes just hot all the time.

My ideal holiday would involve riverside walks, beautiful scenery , boats, little towns to explore, pub lunches. I’m not fit enough to enjoy mountains at the moment. Maybe Scandinavia?? The weather in the UK this June was perfect for me. I work so hard that not much time for fitness at home.

I enjoyed a yoga retreat pre Covid. Likeminded company , lovely activities. Enjoyed skiing holidays prekids but don’t anymore… childcare responsibilities etc.

DH and I were worried how I would handle the heat before we came.

I’m going to have a sleep and hopefully wake up less grumpy.

What a bloody shame - I haven't had a holiday for 4 years (ill health, lack of money). It keeps raining here, too. Would you like to swap, OP?

On Saturday afternoon I was walking home in front of two blokes. The English one, who was obviously local to me, was walking his American friend home from the station. He'd been travelling through Europe and had come to stay at his flat. BTW I couldn't help eavesdropping because they were talking loudly, not that there was anything wrong with that, it's just the way it was.

The American had done various places on his trip and had just come in from Malta. He was enthusing about the Blue Grotto, which I've been to and it's every bit as good as they say.

He said: "I knew when I got to London it would be raining." His friend apologised and he said: "No, it's great."

You have so two things that I'd love right now:

• the ability to take DC abroad (medical conditions make it hard for us)
• DC old enough that you can read a book at all, let alone 3 in a few days

So struggling to get beyond that. I Looooong for the chance to be bored again (DC age 5 and under)

Good point

It's hugely tone deaf though!

I'd hate it! Heat..aaargh. I'd just stuff myself with yummy food and swim a bit.

I've always wanted to go to Wales, I'll pack my bags. Hope you enjoy a good game of Scrabble 😁

I'd be showing him your dream holiday list and then leaving a few days early (ALONE) so he can enjoy some quality time with the DC.

Could you bring along a friend or relative next time you visit who shares your interests so you can do day trips or spend time at night by the pool or sitting in an outside bar by the beach sipping cocktails. It sounds like you miss adult company to be honest.

A little bit of solidarity here…I’m in Spain too, it’s hot and I’ve read 6 books 😂 Bar with AC plus a pool table is the answer with teenagers !

@shropshirewitch 🙄

Yup! Even better.

The thread that proves that money does not necessarily bring happiness.

I know of a family who went to greece a couple of summers ago. Hotter than Hades and one of teens was so miserable and grumpy he got packed off home early. Being hot and unable to cool down is torture and it's only going to get worse in Europe, which is way behind when it comes to air-con (and possibly solar powered homes) but a few summers like this and it will start to catch up.

OP, I feel your pain. It took me far to long to stand up for myself, it was too late to save the marriage by then anyway, so I divorced him.