Hot and bored on holiday

[olympicsrock]

So I’m definitely being a bit unreasonable . We are lucky enough to have a holiday house in Spain- sports resort . Golf/ cycling max DH loves it. We have a pool and aircon.

I’m perimenopausal with heat intolerance and overweight. We’ve been here 5 days now. I’ve read 3 books , bored of lying on a sun bed reading. It’s too hot to eat out in the evening . Even DH and the kids were hot and sticky in the evening at a restaurant. After an hour we were all keen to come home.

It’s too hot to go anywhere and do anything. The kids are happy in the pool.
I’m too old to be in a nightclub, I don’t want to watch sport or Jeremy Fucking Clarkson …

I hate cards and board games. Might have to resort to a jigsaw….

So i’m grumpy and drinking cold rose wine on the patio…… Cheer me up mumsnet please !

I am one of the 15% who think YANBU! For me, what you are describing would not be a holiday, it sounds more like a period of imprisonment! I would much rather stay at home than have your experience.

Go for a swim? That might cool you down a bit, and use up enough energy so you can have a nap after?

I completely sympathise OP, it would be my idea of hell.
Gone are the days of laying out in the blistering hot sunshine, I absolutely cannot tolerate the heat at all due to worsening health problems.
There’s a lot of nasty bitching on here, it seems that few people have empathy for others, regardless of what situation they find themselves in, it’s really sad but typical nowadays on MN.
Yes, many can only dream of holidays but that doesn’t mean you have to show everyone how to be a first class jealous cow Ffs!
I had far too many years of no holiday and working myself into the ground but I was never jealous of those more fortunate, what would be the point?

Good grief some awful people on here.
I understand OP those temperatures are not enjoyable under any circumstances.
I do hope you and your husband can come to some agreement on future holidays. It can't be all about him.

@Zippedydodah Yes. The poster on rainy Dartmoor... that is my old home and idea of heaven. I am not going to insult her though😮

I am stuck in Spain for at least another 5 years. It is beyond me why people think "being in Spain" is so great and get snarky.
It is absolutely freezing in winter and almost un copeable with June/Sep.

I agree.

@olympicsrock you need to sit that man down this evening and very firmly tell him that this is not working for you as a holiday. Never mind all of the places you might enjoy - that's for another time. You should deal with the here and now.

You're too hot, you're bored and you are minding his kids while he fucks off like a single man to do his own thing? Just no!

It must be lovely to have a holiday home, but basically you're pretty much doing what you would be doing if you'd stayed at home, only without all of your things around you, you wouldn't be sweltering and you would be way more independent.

He can have an allocated time for his hobbies but not all day every day. That's not a family holiday - he's not even with his family!

So pull up google maps and plan a few excursions to break the time up. An air conditioned car makes the heat much easier to tolerate.

Maybe the holiday home has outlived its usefulness? If you weren't stuck with it, you could choose to holiday in more temperate locations. I imagine you are tied to school holidays?

Please don't feel down about the nasty comments - some people shouldn't have internet access.

Yes, I agree, I watched that on my lone holiday last week due to the opposite problem, too much rain at the caravan site, so stayed in and watched this, it was my era and I really enjoyed it

Really? I thought it was on the ball

OP you sound like a really lovely person. I completely get your situation and I feel for you. Hope you can enjoy your 9 remaining days.

Netflix suggestions;
The Lincoln lawyer
Any below deck (sad I know but it's so naff it's good)
The women in the house across the window
Angela Black
You (I loved this)
The Holiday (will make you feel better)
Good girls (shit but funny)
Ozark
The staircase
Inventing Anna
The queens gambit
Black mirror
Selling sunset (another saddo one that's addictive)
Workin moms
The deepest breath
LiarThe Fall

Op as a more immediate, practical solution could you make a bowl of water with some ice in it to stick your feet into?

Netflix wise, in your position I'd try and get into a series. Would you prefer light hearted or serious? I'm watching Derry Girls at the moment (I know Im late to the party) and it's good fun. I enjoyed Schitt's Creek (persevere past the first few episodes - they are so unlikeable at first it takes a while to get into it). The Good Place was entertaining too.

There's others but I'm out and can't recall off the top of my head. My list to watch is huge!

Hope you get some sleep tonight. Wet a towel and sleep under it if you need to get cooler. Sleep makes such a difference to our ability to cope with life. Oh and tell your husband he's staying at home so you can do something as a family. If you can tolerate his company at this point as I'd be raging at his selfish behaviour.

And yes, ignore the dicks. This thread is so clearly more than you being a bit hot. Reading comprehension and nuance on here can be extremely poor.

Well, I’m sitting here in my living room in the lovely Scottish Highlands. It’s lightly drizzling and dh earlier queried whether we should put the central heating on. He’s put his jacket on instead. Obviously I’m mumsnetting at the moment but am about to move my arse and cook a curry for the dinner. I haven’t been abroad since Malta in 1989 and will be unlikely to go again. The kids have ruined me financially (and physically). I love swimming in the sea but a hot pool wouldn’t do it for me. I’m so so glad I’m not in Rhodes or Crete at the moment and I don’t envy you at all . Can you go to the beach once it’s cooler for a swim? At least you’ve got air con I suppose.

On Netflix I watched the Taylor Swift documentary at 3am when I couldn't sleep and really enjoyed it.

'Reading comprehension and nuance on here can be extremely poor.'

You can say that again! And far too many people just jumping at the chance to revel in someone else's crap situation and accuse them of first world problems

I feel sorry for you, I would hate your holiday and would definitely rather be in rainy uk.
I think people would have been less nasty if you were on a package holiday which just shows the envy.
In fact if you were on a package holiday you would have more chance of finding other people to chat to.
Next year send DH on his own, use the rest of the flight money to book the kids into a fun holiday activity club and have some good days out on your own or with friends.

To make you laugh further at my misfortune DH has cooked and instead of using the hot curry paste just to marinade / fry off the meat with a curry sauce added as a base he has made a whole curry of the hot paste.
🤣.
I’ve told him we are not coming here next summer. He didn’t like the idea of a boat trip with cycling 😔

He offered not to play golf tomorrow. I told him to go anyway as I’ll be staying in the villa anyway.

He offered Gin and crisps . I said no thanks as I’m fed up of being fat and some lovely people here have reminded me that alcohol doesn’t solve all my problems .

A day of Netflix tomorrow sounds just the job.

I’ve also said I don’t want to retire here!

He could still retire there - win win .... 😉

Took the words right out of my mouth.

You're a stronger woman than me Olympics - I would be booking the next flight home!

Would you also offer an exchange to someone living in an ex council house in the West Midlands ?

@Whatkindofuckeryisthis
I can lose weight but you will still be nasty.

I feel really sorry for anyone else not enjoying their holiday or missing out especially those in Greece. Rain sounds like bliss to me.

Get your music on get in the pool and work out. Time will fly by you will tone up and burn off some energy.