son with older woman

[maratara]

I'm very happy with my son having a lovely lady who is 12 yo older but other people are worried. He is 25 and she is 37.
Would that bother you?
He had a terrible gf before so I am very happy.
Obviously not my business - was just looking for thoughts

When I was in my 20s and 30s I felt much the same but 40+ starts to change things. But maybe not things that really matter

Another misogynistic comment.

I dated a 25 year old when j was that age. It didn’t last longer than 7 months for us, they will be in different phases of life re family etc.
I don’t think it’s a bad thing.

The misogyny from other women on this thread is equal parts vile and astounding. She just wants a baby? Women really are a huge part of the problem.

I wouldn't have an issue, OP. What I would have an issue with is my sons being with someone who holds opinions such as some on this thread (she just wants a baby! etc.). I'm bringing them up to be respectful to women so would urge them to drop such types like a hot potato. Age difference, not really an issue in itself.

@ArcticSkewer

What a ridiculous comment.

As I stated earlier I'm 12 yrs older than dh. He was 25 when we met and the last thing I wanted was more children.

Christ this thread is depressing, equal parts ageist against a 25 year old seemingly not being capable of making his own decisions and mysognistic towards a woman who is only after a sperm doner.

The fact is they are both adults and are perfectly capable of making their own decisions and yes, perhaps mistakes, and it really isn't up to anyone else to judge them or their relationship.

My son was seeing a 36 year old woman when he was 17.
My daughter was seeing a man who was a good 20 years older than her when she was 19.
It's entirely their own choice.
I'm not shocked by a 9 or a 20 years gap in a relationship but the difference in maturity between a 17 y.o. and a 36 y.o., and 19 y.o. and a 39 y.o. is absolutely shocking, creepy and disgusting. Not only would this bother me but it would make me puke and see red.
There's a difference between a 27 y.o. dating a 46 y.o. and a 29 y.o. dating a 49 y.o.. At 17 and 19 I'm not even sure what kind of relationship they had (let me guess they had sex all the time and called it a relationship?).
It's very hard not to judge a parent for not being bothered by this but then again these kids were probably seeking a parent in their relationship and it's very telling they both went down the same route when it comes to dating. This says a lot about the the upbringing these two kids had. It says a lot about the person who wasn't "bothered" too.

It would bother me too.
I'd be hoping they meet their life partner pretty soon and so thinking long term I wouldn't want their life partner to be so much older than him.
The age gap is often not a problem for years, until it suddenly is.

I'm 16 years older than my husband, I can assure I wasn't looking for a baby daddy. What a stupidly crass thing to say. Not every woman is desperate to have children.

This wouldn't bother me. 25 is great age to have kids and if they are both fertile, they can have their own family if they choose too.

I have three boys and I would be so relieved if they find a life partner who is a lovely person.

What in Hades.

She wants a baby.

Oh enough with the misogynistic replies. A few posters have already made this exact comment, maybe read other replies to see how ridiculous it is.

If someone wanted to find a random man to have a baby with, why on earth would they pick a 25 year old? It's such a stupid suggestion. As well as being misogynistic it doesn't even make any sense

sheesh, what a nasty thread. Women, are you for real? Also, a mother of a 25yo should be well aware that her input isn't wanted or needed.

My parents have a similar age gap and they've been married over 40 years now.

Does she now

yep

Doubling down on the stupid, eh? Good for you

yep. I am really stupid.

It’s fine. They’re both consenting adults. So long as they’re happy who cares.

A couple of my friends married women with that sort of age difference in their late 20s. It did raise a few eyebrows at first, but both have now been married over 10 years and as far as you ever know are happy. It has to depend on the individuals.

"Also, a mother of a 25yo should be well aware that her input isn't wanted or needed."
I'm pretty sure everyone knows that. The knowledge doesn't stop you worrying thought.

And how do you know this? Do you know the woman personally or do you just have a dim view of all women?

Sure hen. That's the only logical explaination.