How would you feel if your boyfriend proposed to you during your graduation ceremony?

[KimberleyClark]

https://metro.co.uk/2023/07/19/this-is-awful-man-divides-opinion-with-graduation-ceremony-proposal-19157662/

AIBU to think this type of proposal is always more about the proposer than the proposee?

🤣 he clearly couldn't come up with something and just thought, ahhh massive crowd yes, light bulb. Zero consideration about basically stealing his gf's moment, celebrating her own achievements. Knob.

I would have been really angry if that had been me. That was her moment of achievement and he made it all about his grand gesture. Totally self-absorbed on his part. I think public proposals are utterly manipulative unless your partner has clearly indicated that is what they want.

Awful and totally inappropriate. I wonder if there is a cultural aspect for this type of show given I frequently see Chinese couples posing in wedding outfits against famous London landmarks and it is clear they haven’t just got married.

I think it's awful. But not just for taking away from her academic achievement, but for undermining all the other graduates too. It was also THEIR day, and he took over it. Now it's all about the proposal. I'd be livid.

I think it’s a horrible power move. She has an achievement to celebrate, it should be about that and not him.

I was prepared to give this the benefit of the doubt...but after watching the video...no no no no no.

Rushing in at the exact moment she's receiving her diploma, not even giving her that second and then the continued waving and grinning at the crowd. He really has made it all about him, hasn't he?

Her body language is demonstrating she's not enjoying it one bit - maybe that's just because she was embarassed in the moment. But if you told me he wasn't even her boyfriend and actually just the stalkerish guy who has been pursuing her all through university and who has staged a final dramatic gesture before he loses her forever, I wouldn't feel entirely shocked.

If he’d asked her at her graduation, just her, then fine but in front of everyone? Just no!

I’d be mortified and really annoyed that my academic achievement was being overtaken like that.

I'm sure the guy thought it was appropriate but maybe didn't think it through if he was declined it would have been very embarrassing for him. I think he's got full of the moment of being proud and wanted to spend the rest of his life feeling the way he did while he was there. I don't know the whole story but guys blurt out things when they are excited about something. Hey had the best of intentions and I would have been flattered and said please give me time to think about it. When I was alone I would have said that I found it inappropriate at that time. Please think about it before you ever ask me again. Guys try to get a special time to pop the question. You don't have to be so angry about it. Chill if you are not that into him stop leading him on its cruel not to give his feelings a thought 🤔 .

It's just awful. The social pressure to say yes, the making it all about him, that however the relationship works out (run, girl, ruuuuuun) her graduation day will always be about what he did, the fucking waving, her body language screaming I don't want this, the University thinking it was a cute moment to tweet about rather than the years of hard work of all their graduates. All of it.

I haven't watched it but any public proposal of marriage should only get one response - no.

Is he in a gown too? So he had his moment of graduation but decided to impose on hers and make it about him.

I'm hoping she LTB but he will forever be linked to her moment celebrating her hard work. What a dick thing to do.

😂😂😂👏

I would hate a public proposal but nobody on here knows how the women being proposed to.actually feels maybe she was over the moon and thought it was very romantic who.knows?

I worked with a woman who competed at Crufts with her agility dogs. Her boyfriend proposed to her in the middle of the main ring. She said yes because she had to as everyone was watching and cheering. As soon as they were in private she said no. He hadn't helped the situation by buying a cheaper ring and putting it in a Tiffany box from ebay. Genuine rings have a T for Tiffany on and he knew how much she wanted one but ballsed it up.

Well.she put the ring on her finger so.im.guessingtbey were an actusl.couple,Wether they stay a couple after this remains to be seen.

I'd be mortified but presumably if you know someone well enough to propose to them, you'd know whether they would love this sort of thing or hate it.

The same way I felt about the wedding I went to where when the bride got to the altar, her (musician) father went back to his seat and then stood up and led one of those "flash mob' things that were all the rage a few years ago. Her and her fiancee's moment and he had to make everyone look at him and applaud him.

I’m sure they were, it’s just the whole thing looked so ‘off’ and she looked so uncomfortable that you could convince me they weren’t!

Scundered

It's awful. I would say 'no' on principle. Anyone who thought it was clever to propose to me in public obviously wouldn't know me at all.

Exactly this

she didn’t look very happy, neither did the girl in line behind her.

She could have just been shocked though! There’s no point judging…she might be someone who always wanted to get married and have a big fairytale proposal….what better way to do it than this?! Or, she might be totally pissed off and he’s ruined her graduation and she’s already dumped him! He definitely hasn’t watched Gilmore girls!

This.

Controlling and disrespectful. If she sees sense and dumps him, the memory of the day is going to be marred by him making it all about him.

I once witnessed a proposal at an aquarium (was the highlight of my toddler nieces' day) but it was really cringey. The woman didn't look impressed and the couple looked to be having a serious chat after everyone had moved on.