How would you feel if your boyfriend proposed to you during your graduation ceremony?

[KimberleyClark]

https://metro.co.uk/2023/07/19/this-is-awful-man-divides-opinion-with-graduation-ceremony-proposal-19157662/

AIBU to think this type of proposal is always more about the proposer than the proposee?

He couldn't let her have her moment in the sun, could he?

I think we need to raise our daughters to understand that it is perfectly acceptable, in fact preferable, to say No Thank You, step around the obstacle, and continue to celebrate their own hard-won achievements.

Young women are still being socialised and indoctrinated to please men, to a horrifying extent.

My face would show him the error of his ways then I'd dump him after saying no.

I would be furious with the controlling, narcissistic sod. He's diverting all the attention that should have been on her at that moment, onto himself - see how he's smiling and waving to the crowd. Her body language when he tries to kiss her speaks volumes.
I would also be furious with the University for tweeting this on their account (which Newcastle did) as something positive. That will just encourage others.

It's a no from me.

Exactly this.

Very selfish man right there.

She's collecting her diploma after working very hard for it over a number of years.

And he made that moment about him and what he wanted.

I hope Newcastle Uni have a rethink about tweeting shite like this. They deserve every bit of heat they get for it.

I've just come from a graduation ceremony at Newcastle, and this proposal was obviously still top of the officials' minds as they told the graduates to 'enjoy your moment but don't take selfies or propose marriage' when they are called up. I thought it was an odd thing to say until I got home and saw this thread.

Bloody awful behaviour imo. She didn't look keen either so I suspect this might not be a relationship that lasts.

Definitley no. Not that I had met my husband when I graduated. And when he did propose, three weeks after we met a few years later, it was just us sitting on the sofa in my flat. Very small register office wedding with immediate family and a few friends. Memorable. Golden wedding next year.

I wouldn't like it. And I bet all the other students graduating didn't honestly love it.

But the reality is many women would be absolutely thrilled, assuming they planned to marry the guy. I'm basing that on numerous cringeworthy engagement announcements where the bride was the guilty party.

Definitely - fingers missed the right keys.

I like the comment below the article that says - "I think I'd rather have my graduation interrupted by Just Stop Oil."

That’s awful. So disrespectful to her, the other graduates and the occasion.

Have to agree with everyone else on this thread.
What an idiot.

She really, really didn't look pleased did she ?
Of course, he's given no thought to anyone else - like the poor graduands waiting on the side of the stage.

I’d be livid. Massive red flag. This is her moment that she’s worked so hard for, her achievement. And this fuckwit takes it away from her and makes it all about him.
Fuck right off. Relationship ending for me

It would annoy me to.particularly as I hate attention ,but she looks quite happy about it 🤷

Very telling that although it looks like he also graduated that day, he didn't choose the moment that HE was up on stage getting his certificate to propose. No, he waited for HER to be getting hers. Selfish, self centred arsehole. I think you need to be unsure about whether they will say yes or no to make such a spectacle.

Awful awful awful. A graduation is about celebrating her academic achievement. He couldn't even let her have her moment in the ceremony and do the proposal afterwards when everyone mills around with wine and taking photos.

Had to make it ALL about him and the big attention-seeking gesture. I would have been LIVID. I hope this woman's friends and family are telling her to run for the hills.

You know Ross and Rachel.weren't real.it was a comedy .right ?

He’d be an ex quicker than I could smack him over the head with my degree certificate.
Utterly mortifying behaviour, no one wants to see that.

I'd be fucking fuming and certainly wouldn't marry the prick. That was her moment after years of hard work and he's taking the limelight and loving it 🙄 hope she doesn't marry him and sells the ring!

I’d absolutely hate it. Even thinking about it makes me cringe…

You know that poster was making a point, right?

Really! Her body language to me looked like she really wasn't happy, she turns away when he tries to kiss/hug her. It would take someone very strong to say no in that situation, poor love. Public proposals I feel are often done to force the person being proposed to to say yes IMO.