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How would you feel if your boyfriend proposed to you during your graduation ceremony?

133 replies

KimberleyClark · 21/07/2023 15:50

https://metro.co.uk/2023/07/19/this-is-awful-man-divides-opinion-with-graduation-ceremony-proposal-19157662/

AIBU to think this type of proposal is always more about the proposer than the proposee?

Man accused of 'selfish' behaviour after proposing to girlfriend at graduation

'Let her have her moment.'

https://metro.co.uk/2023/07/19/this-is-awful-man-divides-opinion-with-graduation-ceremony-proposal-19157662/

OP posts:
mondaytosunday · 21/07/2023 16:07

Didn't someone propose to an athlete as she was getting a medal at the Olympics or something? It went down like a head balloon then too.
While my own proposal was as mundane as possible at least it was private. I do not understand why anyone would do it with an audience, let alone at a celebration of something.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/07/2023 16:09

If my husband had proposed to me in public like this it would have been an immediate NO. It would have proved that he didn't know me at all or cared about my feelings.

Sparklesocks · 21/07/2023 16:11

Grim. If my partner did this it would just confirm marrying him would be a mistake.

LadyLindaT · 21/07/2023 16:13

I thought that this was awful. Her body language indicated that she wasn’t exactly thrilled. I also felt very sorry for the poor lady who was coming up behind her. He was an attention-seeking twit, who ruined everything for everyone, by making it all about him. . Waves to camera

JulieHoney · 21/07/2023 16:16

Awful.

I hope she dumps his showboating ass.

LlynTegid · 21/07/2023 16:18

No is a complete sentence.

I would not be surprised if there is a correlation between elaborate or showy marriage proposals and the divorce rate, or the engagements that get called off.

Sapphire387 · 21/07/2023 16:19

Never mind little lady getting a degree, she has achieved the ultimate life goal of catching herself a (drumroll) MAN.

TheModHatter · 21/07/2023 16:31

Utterly knobtastic.

Hannahsbananas · 21/07/2023 16:32

PurpleChrayne · 21/07/2023 15:52

I would be fucking furious and would say no.

Ditto.
Attention seeking muppet.

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/07/2023 16:37

Grim. Utterly self centred and unbelievably naff. Even if I wakted to marry the bloke I would say no on principle.

diddl · 21/07/2023 16:38

PurpleChrayne · 21/07/2023 15:52

I would be fucking furious and would say no.

Yup!

Thepeopleversuswork · 21/07/2023 16:38

LlynTegid · 21/07/2023 16:18

No is a complete sentence.

I would not be surprised if there is a correlation between elaborate or showy marriage proposals and the divorce rate, or the engagements that get called off.

See also the correlation between big tacky weddings and divorces.

Dixiechickonhols · 21/07/2023 16:40

No it was her moment. Not a fan of public proposals.

ChiefAdjusterOfRubensShorts · 21/07/2023 16:41

What a wanker!

She must have been mortified. I hope she threw the ring back at him afterwards!

Brefugee · 21/07/2023 16:42

I'd be really angry, say no and break up with him.

AuntieMarys · 21/07/2023 16:42

Attention seeking twat

xogossipgirlxo · 21/07/2023 16:43

I would be devastated. Mine was very private, at home, I made it very clear to husband that I won't accept any public show.

Gerrataere · 21/07/2023 16:43

I’d be horrified. If she was in anyway unsure or eventually said no then her whole graduation will be a reminder of this moment. Selfish, self centred behaviour.

Topseyt123 · 21/07/2023 16:46

What a self-absorbed twat.

I'd have been so embarrassed in her shoes.

OhComeOnFFS · 21/07/2023 16:47

It's the sort of thing Ross would have done to Rachel when he was being a completely toxic knob.

yellowsmileyface · 21/07/2023 16:48

I would absolutely hate this. I'd hate a big, showy, public proposal anyway, but I'd especially resent one which hijacked another special moment or event.

The video is painful to watch. She looks like she's feeling really awkward. Could just be stunned, but I wouldn't be surprised if she turned down the proposal later on.

Oblomov23 · 21/07/2023 16:48

Would piss me off. It's my day!

LittleMissUnreasonable · 21/07/2023 16:49

I don't like public proposals when they inconvenience other people.

That's a clear example as the day will have been overshadowed by the impromptu proposal. The people who then get their certificates afterwards won't be the focus as people will be talking about the proposal.

Worst one was when I went ice skating in London with friends and we were discreetly told by someone who worked there that everyone had to get off the ice as someone wanted to propose. Absolutely not on my timeslot. If someone wants to propose in public they can pay to rent the area out because there was no way I was shortening my time slot so somebody I'd never met before could propose 🙄. Apparently several people refused to on the grounds of already paying, and time slots couldn't be extended due to the next group of people being due

Just screams entitled and 'look at how elaborate I am".

SerafinasGoose · 21/07/2023 16:54

I'd have been furious. I can't bear self-aggrandizing and would have been mortified to have attention drawn to me in this way, rather than for the degree I'd achieved solely as a result of my own efforts.

My graduations were the proudest moments of my life. Other occasions have been important too of course: marrying DH and the birth of our child were without contest my happiest. But anyone can get married. Not everyone can achieve a PhD.

I think I'd have murdered him! And at the very least said, 'no'.

DarkDarkNight · 21/07/2023 17:01

Very selfish and ‘me me me’ for so many reasons.

He’s made a graduation ceremony for many students all about him. It’s a public occasion and people may see it as a chance to celebrate their hard work and he has made it all about him.

He has put his partner in an awkward position and not really have her the option of saying no.

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