Family holiday. How should the costs be split?

[Sallyrush]

3 families looking to hire a Villa. (Siblings. Not sure if relevant or not)
2 families are 2 adults and 2 kids, other family is 1 adult, 2 kids.
Families 1 & 2 (2 adults, 2 kids each) think Villa should be split per family.
Family 3 (1 adult, 2 kids) thinks the cost should be split per person, their reason being they have 1 salary to pay for the holiday, other families have 2 - all adults work full time.
Families 1 & 2 feel they all use same facilities so it’s per family.
Family 3 would also like to split costs like food per person but other families think this is petty.
who is right?
YANBU. Families 1 & 2 are correct. Split per family
YABU Family 3 is correct. Cost split per person

I reckon if you're unable to resolve differences and disputes, or unable to discuss the issue in a mature manner then it doesn't bode well for the holiday.

These things should have been agreed before anything was booked.

Family three is correct, otherwise they're paying twice the amount the others are paying. Makes no sense.

We go away every new year and split costs for accommodation per adult for similar reasons... We have 7 adults so it's split 7 ways.

I can guarantee the single person won’t be allocated the biggest or best room though. There are usually a of the en-suites but they will go to one of the couples on the grounds that they need more space. The rooms arent an issue anyway as more than enough
It sounds like you have all reached a reasonable compromise op.

Room costs split per family, food costs split per person. The single parent is still getting a double room, the fact that she's alone in it doesn't mean that the room costs less.

Me too.

😂

Thank you. I wanted to be upfront so my sisters comment about ‘me putting a dampener on it before we’ve even booked’ annoyed me. I thought I was doing the right thing rather than waiting. It was awkward but I felt strongly enough to speak my mind and also so we came to an agreement which can be used for any future holidays/family events.

Have the voting options changed or have you mixed them up? The majority have voted for 'families 1&2 are right, split per family', which is what you have for YANBU. Perhaps that should have been YABU.

Great outcome. Suspect they looked at the numbers/maths/ages of children and appetites of teens/grownups and realised they were being unfair.

“YABU Family 3 is correct. Cost split per person” has 79% agreement, doesn’t it?

people mostly agree with OP, which is the yabu option…

If it was one of my siblings who was on their own, I would happily split the costs in their favour to help out a bit.

Crikey.

the majority have voted for ‘you are being unreasonable’ which is the vote for family 3 being correct.

I know!! My thoughts exactly. Clearly I am seen as a second class citizen 😂

Get there first and bag the biggest room.

What's your sister's problem? Is there a background to this?

Yes but once you revealed you were family three the voting options essentially switched so it might be a bit meaningless now.

For what it's worth I get where you're coming from but I think you're being unreasonable. You're argument is based on household salary, but that's not a feasible way to split costs, unless you always want to take outgoings into account!

Per person is the fairest

Per room for accommodation. Per person for food

I can’t see this being a pleasant holiday so I’d be rethinking!!

(As someone who paid £41.19 for a pizza and latte because the bill was split equally as that was the easiest option for 2 acquaintances who had 3 bottle of wine. It was the last time I went out with them and yes, I guess I could be seen as petty, but the extra I paid meant I was short for the rest of the week. This was in the 80’s too so my bill actually came to under £10)

Well in which case so am I 😄

In my opinion, as a 3 person family (2 adults, 1 child) a holiday like this should be charged per person, not per family. That is how pretty much any holiday is charged anyway.

We've had the same scenario pop up with Center Parcs where the other family is 2 adults and 2 children. They thought it should be a 50/50 split (surprise, surprise) and we disagreed as we would be subsidising one of them. To simplify, if we had separate Villas, they would need a 3 bed and we only need a 2 bed (which is significantly cheaper than a 3 bed). So, we divided the cost of the holiday by the total number of people and paid proportionally, which is in essence how Center Parcs would truly calculate the base cost of each accommodation.

Of course, other people may disagree (probably 4+ person families), but this is my opinion and how we resolved it in the past and it makes common sense on the calculator. Good luck OP!

Accommodation split equally but food split per person. Why should you pay the same amount of food as a larger family? You are subsidising them!

When we go away as a family we pay per room and food split by number of people and grog split by number of adults. My sibling has one child and they are happy to have her in their room while we always want two rooms and happy to
pay for it. We also obviously pay for four portions of the food bill while they pay three and my parents two. I think this is completely fair! Grog split in thirds as all six adults like a drink :-)

Definitely split per person. We are a family of 6 and holiday with my sister's family of 3 and we always split per person-as if not they would be at a disadvantage.

I once hired an air B&B as a single person with 2 couples for an event and they wanted to split it 3 ways (per room) I had a small single room and they both had a double room with en-suites so I felt it unfair. In the end we split it by person and paid 1/5th of the hire each and I was much happier lol.

Good luck OP!

I would say the villa should be split 3 ways as you are taking up a double room, whether you're on your own or not. Food should be split per adult though as its not fair for you to pay double what they are.