To send DD in despite sickness?

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Message sent home from DD’s preschool earlier this week saying there’s a sickness bug going around, reminding about 48 hour rule etc. Currently sat up with DD who has most definitely got that lovely bug as of tonight; fun times!

She’s not due in preschool again until Thursday, but this will not technically be 48hours clear. In theory I should keep her off. However…it is her very LAST DAY of preschool before she goes off to school next term, there’s a leavers party etc. If I don’t send her in, she will miss the whole experience and be totally heartbroken (as will I to be honest!).

I am usually a real stickler for following the 48h rules, but AIBU to consider breaking them in this case?! 🫣

If she is fine Wednesday I’d send her on Thursday.

I wouldn’t if she was still sick on a Tuesday night - even though it’s really bad timing. But other families will be looking forward to going on holidays and the last thing you’d want is someone spreading the vomiting bug further.

You would risk spreading it further, and to everyone at the party, for a leavers party? No you really shouldn’t send her.

If she's just been sick and due at preschool on Thursday morning that is nowhere near 48 hours. Even if she's not sick again you are considering sending her to preschool just over 24 hours after vomiting. When she tells her friends and teachers "I was sick yesterday" how popular are you going to be?

So you want to make all the other kids sick? Right ok then

Yes its selfish to send her in tomorrow.

Yes a lot of parents would send her in anyway (outside of the holy mumsnetters).

No she's unlikely to be contagious anyway if she's actually already stepped d&v now and isn't in until tomorrow morning.

Thanks for the replies (clearly not the only one sleep deprived tonight!!).

I take on board the comments (apart from the one stating that I want to get other kids sick - not sure how they got that from the OP?!). As I said, I’m usually all on the rules around this, super considerate of impact on others, but the impact on my own DD on this one occasion is hard to stomach!

DD has been sick twice, seems to have stopped 🤞 Off to attempt some sleep. Will chat through with DH in the morning and potentially keep her off.

You really have to keep her off. Think of all the families whose holidays you might completely ruin if they can’t travel because you’ve ignored this rule. I get that it’s hard to stomach, but it’s the right thing to do. Do something special at home together instead!

I would not send my child in. Your dd has recently been sick, she is going to be feeling weak and clingy if anything like my children. Not fair on her or other children.

YABU, yes.
Yes it will be very sad for DD to miss the leavers' party.
It would also be very sad if a family had saved all year (or longer) for a holiday, to have it ruined by catching your DD's bug.
Please, please keep her off.

It's a 48 hour rule for a reason

YABU. I have had to make my daughter miss the last day of term 3 times now due to sickness but it is what it is. Sickness spreads like wildfire amongst kids and it would be awful if more kids caught it before the holidays because your little one still had something lurking.

Please don't send her in. I get how disappointing it will be but the impact of sending her in to spread it around a leavers party right at the end of term is horrible. People will just be gearing up to have older brothers and sisters off school too and potentially planning trips out, holidays, visits to grandparents etc all of which could get ruined because you didn't follow the rules. They really are there for a reason.

Message from an actual experienced mother...Ages 23,21 and 19..
If your kiddo feels sick,lethargic or just yuck don't send them. If they are puking and have uncontrollable diarrhea,obviously, you don't send them.
But if your young one feels better, regardless of precious other parents,let them enjoy the day.

I would be cursing your name if I was vomiting all the way through my booked holiday coz you didn't want your kid to miss a party.

It would be really crap for other children to be sick at the start of their summer holidays because other children have given them bugs

Absolutely keep her off.

I work in a school and this is something that makes staff so annoyed. Why should we or the other children have to risk being poorly and potentially miss out on our planned activities in the holidays just so your DD can attend a party. If she's old enough to say she's been sick so recently then the staff would most likely send her home anyway and rightfully be very annoyed with you for sending her in. My own DD missed her last sports day at pre school and the end of term party due to an illness and she's never once said she was sad about it since.

Please don’t be that selfish mother. There are too many of them about.

You would be incredibly selfish to send her in . You are only thinking of your daughter not the bigger picture; there may be families going on holiday the very next day. You could ruin their long awaited plans. People, unbeknown to you, may be immune compromised: this include both children and staff. I’d be furious ( and I work in schools and am a former Nursery Manager) if you brought your child in and would think were not very thoughtful or considerate at all.
Don’t do it.

She would be only 28 hours clear so please don’t send her in. A sickness bug has been spreading like wildfire at school and Year 6s have had to miss some of their activities, it’s very disappointing but the rule is there for a reason. School sent our t reminder texts to say 48h minimum to protect everyone.

So you are another one of those selfish “ sod everyone else as long as we’re okay Jack”. Mothers…

I don’t care whether you have a thousand kids. You do the right thing and you stick by the rules because of the impact of not doing so can have on others.

We aren’t being “ precious “ - we are being sensible and considerate.

How utterly irresponsible and selfish your advice is.

You'd be very unreasonable to send her in. More unreasonable than on a normal week (and I hate people who ignore the rule at any time) because people will have holiday plans.

My DD is also finishing pre school so I do get it, but I think it would be extremely selfish.

I take on board the comments (apart from the one stating that I want to get other kids sick - not sure how they got that from the OP?!)

Clearly you don't want them to, but obviously you don't care if they do.

As others have said, don’t do it. It’s not fair on the other children if they then catch this bug and ruin the first few days of the holidays for them, especially if their families are due to go on holiday or something.

Why don’t you try to meet up with a few other parents and their children during the holidays if you can for a late, mini celebration? Soft play or a picnic in the park/beach or something.

If she is sick again today, you definitely need to keep her off Thursday.
In fact, you are talking about just over 24 hours post last sickness anyway, so think it needs to be a no whatever happens today. It's nowhere near 48 hours.
And, yes, you risk passing it on to everyone else just before they go on holiday. Not a great leaving present to give!

She got it from the preschool, everyone else there will have already been exposed same as her so no point in her missing out now. Most bugs are most contagious before/during illness, not after