To send DD in despite sickness?

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Message sent home from DD’s preschool earlier this week saying there’s a sickness bug going around, reminding about 48 hour rule etc. Currently sat up with DD who has most definitely got that lovely bug as of tonight; fun times!

She’s not due in preschool again until Thursday, but this will not technically be 48hours clear. In theory I should keep her off. However…it is her very LAST DAY of preschool before she goes off to school next term, there’s a leavers party etc. If I don’t send her in, she will miss the whole experience and be totally heartbroken (as will I to be honest!).

I am usually a real stickler for following the 48h rules, but AIBU to consider breaking them in this case?! 🫣

Please don't send her in. My dd and many others around the country are in their last few days of primary school with leavers assemblies/parties etc. She would be devastated if she had to miss this and I would be really annoyed if she got ill because someone else sent their child into school when they had been unwell. Not to mention that there could be other children or staff with illnesses and/or immune problems who could potentially become seriously ill with a sick bug.

Other children and members of staff way well have holidays booked for this weekend that they would have to miss/postpone and potentially lose a lot of money on if they became unwell because a child was sent in at less than 48 hours.

My son had the same thing 36 hours before my dds first secondary school, transition day and I was really worried that she would get it and have to miss her transition (which would have been a disaster because she has been really anxious about going). He thought I was really mean when I confined him to his bedroom and wouldn't let him anywhere near his sister - I also confined him to one bathroom (we are really lucky to have more than one) and fumigated it once he was better. Fortunately, He's 17 and understood and it worked.

It's 48 hours from last time she was sick so she won't be clear until Friday

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Yeah great. Spread the bug round other children & staff. Just what they need. That’s so selfish.

Why do you think the NHS advise 48hours AFTER sickness/diarrhoea? Or do you just not care about other little ones, who may be vulnerable.

Don't be daft. There's a sickness bug going round nursery. That's what she has.

And the nursery has REMINDED you about the 48-hour rule.

You really shouldn't need to post this. You know what to do.

The last time my DS caught a sickness bug from pre-school it was horrendous. His friends were all better within a couple of days, but for us it was a 2 week ordeal that culminated in him being admitted to hospital. He hasn't had any major health issues before or since, we were just unlucky. You would have to be incredibly selfish to knowingly risk inflicting something like that on other children just so your own child doesn't miss out on a party that she won't even remember in a years time.

Some places are 24 hours, some 48hrs. I personally think if she's fine from Tuesday night, I would send her in. Very unlikely to be passing anything on at that point. Let her enjoy her last day. If she's not well in herself, obviously don't sent her in.

After managing some sleep, woke up to find all these responses (didn’t know this would be quite such a viral - no pun intended- thread).

You’ll be pleased to know that post some sleep and in the light of day (rather than the sleep-deprived hours of the night!) sense has prevailed and we’ve decided to keep DD off tomorrow.

Have already called preschool and let them know. Have also told DD…who was surprisingly less upset than I thought she’d be 🤷‍♀️ May have spun it slightly with promising to message her besties’ parents for a summer playdate. And telling her it now means she’s on summer holidays early (whoop?!).

Thanks for all the considered responses. I’m fairly sure even without them we would have got to same conclusion (DH reached same decision despite not seeing any of the messages!). It was a genuine question; we only have the one DD so sometimes it’s the first time we’re hitting some of these dilemmas. Sometimes hard to know if you’re being overly cautious/not cautious enough.

Don't be annoying op. Ugh

Good update OP! Hope DC feels better soon.

Good update, OP. Thanks for doing the right thing.

I'll never forget the summer when someone sent a child back to our childminder 24hrs after the last time they were sick. What resulted was a tummy bug that went around the entire setting, right before the summer hols. It affected the childminder and their family as well as almost all the kids attending. We were just about to go on holiday so I pulled DD out of the setting. My contract meant I still had to pay, and I lost wages from work (self-employed). DD did not get the bug but we were still affected.

So I'm glad you are not sending her in. That parent in the story I just described affected so many other families, including the childminders who lost income when they had to close for a deep clean.

Yes this. What an irresponsible and silly thing to do. Surely you send them straight back home when you know they’ve been sick and are back to school before the 48 hour rule .

Where do you work?

Our school send children back home again if rules are broken and they have been unwell. They do the correct thing and are responsible.

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I was sick for over half of a holiday that cost thousands, and which I'd saved up for for three years, because someone brought their 4 year old to a birthday party that just couldn't be missed. I'm still bloody annoyed about it.

And the consequences for an immunocompromised person can be so much worse.

I hate it when parents do this - it's beyond selfish.

Good update Op.

As a manager of a pre school DO NOT SEND YOUR KID IN!! we have had to close completely for a week last year due to parents knowingly sending their kids in when they have been ill which then infected over 3/4 of my staff resulting in us having to shut as we didn't have enough staff to run, thus inconveniencing every single parent due to the selfishness of some! There is a reason why we have a 48hr rule and this is one of the reasons why!

One of my biggest bug bears is when parents think these rules don't apply to them because of XYZ...

Surely you would send this kid back home and not let them on the school trip!!??

For your daughter to have caught it someone else DIDNT follow the rules 🤷‍♀️

I am sorry but I would keep my child off in this situation- many families will be going on holiday on fri and sat and really wouldn't be happy if there child came down with a bug! Also there may be children who are immune compromised who would have much worse symptoms then being sick twice. Its 48hours for a reason!!

Message from a similiarly experienced mother (with DC also 23-19): nfw would I send a child to school who had been vomiting, unless they had been clear for 48 hours. It's selfish in the extreme.

How selfish of you.

OP thinks she is "special". Even thinking about doing this is disgusting.

If this was me I’d try and do a little party at home? Get some food and goodies in! Explain to her that due to the sicky bug she won’t be able to go to the school party but you can create your own! Take the other kids out of it, she could still be feeling tired and not well by going to the school party.

Wow. Selfish behaviour to send them back early. As someone with Crohn’s disease it took me 2 years to recover last time I had a D&V bug, so I would be really pissed off if someone knowingly sent their kid to school before the end of the 48 hours. It’s that amount of time for a reason.