To send DD in despite sickness?

[Downdoneandout]

Message sent home from DD’s preschool earlier this week saying there’s a sickness bug going around, reminding about 48 hour rule etc. Currently sat up with DD who has most definitely got that lovely bug as of tonight; fun times!

She’s not due in preschool again until Thursday, but this will not technically be 48hours clear. In theory I should keep her off. However…it is her very LAST DAY of preschool before she goes off to school next term, there’s a leavers party etc. If I don’t send her in, she will miss the whole experience and be totally heartbroken (as will I to be honest!).

I am usually a real stickler for following the 48h rules, but AIBU to consider breaking them in this case?! 🫣

Duty of care yes but how do you stop it when they say it's been 48 hours?? You can't x
But many bring them in to school less than 48 hours - more than follow the rules xx

YABU, why ask opinions if you’re going to ignore them anyway?

Yes I would. And I would expect my colleagues to as well

Its one thing to catch a sickness bug from a child, but I would be furious if I caught it from an adult at work who didn't think the rules applied to them

No. You’re being selfish. People are going on holidays and you’re risking them catching a bug just so your child can go to a party?! It’s a 4& hour rule for a reason. Don’t send her in.

Ffs yes you keep her off. It’s a shame she’ll miss her party but otherwise you’re potentially putting lots of other children at risk, some of whom could immediately be going off on holiday.

Please don't send her in. My daughter's friend didn't want to miss their end of term Christmas party and was sent back in early. Our whole Christmas was spent in the bathroom, with my eldest girl being particularly I'll with it. We were meant to have gone away so we had no food in. You might not have any negative consequences but you don't know how it will impact other people's lives.

You can plan a nice treat for her to make up for missing the party once she is out of the incubation period.

One of the worst bouts of d&v ever came from
Medical student who came in and refused to go home until basically frog marched out of the hospital. She nearly killed kids with it because her placement was on the bone marrow transplant unit..

Awful

Do you think there was a reason they sent a note to parents to remind them of the 48 hour rule?

😱

Maybe your kid will catch d&v again just before Christmas because someone thinks the same as you who desperately didn't want their little darling to miss the Christmas party.. or maybe she'll miss the first day of a holiday abroad, or even worse it will come out on the plane to your abroad holiday, does it still sound like a great idea to send your sick kid in whilst she's still contagious?

It's 48 hours for a reason.
Even more so with very young children where personal hygiene and personal space is somewhat trickier for them.

You risk her spreading the bug further to both children and staff. People who may be about to go on their holidays, go visit older family members, go on special summer break trips, etc.

I'd be upset to find out what of my pupils had been sent in under these circumstances and out my health at risk, especially right before the holidays.

I know it's disappointing for your child, but it s be even more disappointing for a while family ti miss a holiday etc as a result.

I have 4 children, I would also consider myself experienced!!! You absolutely shouldn't send her in, the rules are there for a reason

The fact that they have reminded you about the rule makes it worse!

What are you going to do if she goes in and they turn her away at the door? Or if she tells someone she was sick. How will you manage her disappointment then?

To be honest, at that age although they will be excited about the party etc, they will probably be equally excited about getting to stay home with mum or dad.

Sorry, I'm only a newbie to parenting, mine are 15 and 11 😉 but I work in a school so possibly that gives me a few more experience points? Anyway, keep her off, these things spread like wildfire.

Well I've got a 4 and a 1 year old so I'm clearly inexperienced but I would think you were a massive asshat if you sent your child to school or nursery not caring whether they got sick or not.

My son had d&v earlier this year and so nearly made it to 48hrs clear and then it all started up again. Made me realise that it's 48hrs for a reason!

Please don't send her , it's bad enough cleaning up after children who have become sick during the day , makes me so cross cleaning up after children who have been sent In sick or sent back before 48h

Break the cycle of sickness and keep her off, if everyone did this then d&v wouldn't be so rampant in schools & nurseries.

If you visualise clinically vulnerable kids and adults who might contract it because you sent her in, on top of holidays ruined, it might help clear the mind. Just keep her off and make a big fuss and organise a little party playdate with her buddies to make up for it.

That would be unbelievably selfish. To risk making however many kids, their siblings and parents sick, lose 2 days pay per child etc vs missing a party that she wont even remember. If my children went to your pre school I'd be absolutely raging

Also as PP said you risk spoiling their holiday

Don’t risk making kids sick the day before half of them will fly off for long awaited summer holidays.

Do a party for her at home, teddy bears picnic style. She will love it.