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For this to be worn to a wedding

205 replies

whoopeo · 17/07/2023 16:31

Please tell me if you would be annoyed if someone wore this to your wedding. It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

For this to be worn to a wedding
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Luxell934 · 17/07/2023 16:32

I wouldn't be annoyed, no.

QforCucumber · 17/07/2023 16:32

Personally wouldn't be bothered, but some people care about this stuff and some don't

GoodnightJude1 · 17/07/2023 16:32

Nope, wouldn’t bother me in the slightest but some people are ultra sensitive about anyone else wearing white to their wedding.

Mum198000 · 17/07/2023 16:33

It’s a floral dress, not a plain white lace one. White isn’t the colour you notice first. No way would you think you were the bride. Can’t see a problem myself.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 17/07/2023 16:33

I wouldn't personally be annoyed at my wedding, no.

But I think all white accessories with that dress is pushing it a bit OP. I wouldn't wear it to someone else's wedding.

Gerrataere · 17/07/2023 16:36

The dress is fine, I may add a pastel shoulder cover of sorts (what are the bridesmaids colours? Avoid that obviously). White blazer and shoes are more than pushing it I think.

Whataretheodds · 17/07/2023 16:36

I would, but I'm not the bride.

The point with these things is that you don't know how she feels, it's rude to ask, and there are plenty of other colours.

Why can't you wear it with a pink or green or blue jacket?

MNRando · 17/07/2023 16:37

It kind of looks like an old lady nightie to me…. But all white accessories? Not really the done thing, is it?

MNRando · 17/07/2023 16:38

Oh God. I assumed op was the bride. Now I’m thinking not.
Sorry!

Fallulah · 17/07/2023 16:38

Isn’t the dress pale pink? Pale pink blazer and shoes would look lovely.

Bit even so, I couldn’t find it in myself to get annoyed about it; it’s obviously not the bride/a bridesmaid outfit.

TimesRwo · 17/07/2023 16:39

The dress itself, no.

But the white accessories, not ok. It ultimately depends on whether the couple care but even if they don’t, I have judged other guests who are crossing or have crossed the line with outfits at weddings.

It should have been work with more colourful accessories.

Fallulah · 17/07/2023 16:39

But even so… oh for an edit button!

poolcrew · 17/07/2023 16:39

I wouldn't personally be upset but think a white jacket and shoes might be too much so can see how others might

Happygerbil · 17/07/2023 16:40

Not at all. It does look a bit nightie-ish though.

SilentHedges · 17/07/2023 16:44

The dress would be ok if teamed up with coloured accessories, I.e. pink, green or blue shoes, bag, jacket. To accessorise everything else in white is pushing it and not necessary. I wouldn't be impressed knowing the guest could easily not have gone for white, but deliberately chose to anyway.

Paperbagsaremine · 17/07/2023 16:45

My random take is, with the white blazer and shoes it falls into the "raised eyebrows and silent judging" category rather than "audible tutting and shepherding out of sight of the main wedding party" but guests are meant to avoid wearing white at a wedding because they're not the bride (and black because they're not at a funeral).

Ofc if it's, say, a Chinese or Indian wedding where the bride is wearing red then it's all good!

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 17/07/2023 16:45

Of course not,it's not remotely bridal.

TheModHatter · 17/07/2023 16:46

Not good.

The bride should be the only splash of white in the photos.

oldoldieoldieold · 17/07/2023 16:49

The dress is fine but wearing a white blazer and white shoes is a bizarre choice. And i'm someone who doesn't really care about this kind of thing!

Nothingbuttheglory · 17/07/2023 16:51

*Not good.

The bride should be the only splash of white in the photos.*

This. Like, was there really no other colour they could have chosen?

Catcatcatcatcat · 17/07/2023 16:53

Unsuitable for a wedding. There are a billion other dresses/outfits anyone could wear.

Choosing predominantly white is a huge Fuck You, certainly in my neck of the woods.

OrigamiOwls · 17/07/2023 17:00

Especially with a white blazer, I would be silently judging.

Pot8ohs · 17/07/2023 17:05

I would raise an eyebrow definitely and wonder why they chose that dress/outfit when there are so many dresses available.

I know it isn’t all white but in the context of a wedding it still looks a bit bridal to me, especially if the wedding is informal and/or non-church. My thinking is if you’re at a wedding and catch a glimpse of a woman dressed in white then it ought to be the bride you’ve seen.

thecatsthecats · 17/07/2023 17:07

There would definitely silent plots to spill red wine on that one.

Lots of other colours to choose from if you're not going to check with the bride.

And I say that as someone who dressed bridesmaids in white, and told a friend that she could wear a white jumpsuit when she ASKED me if it was OK (before remembering that others would be less fine with it!).

BennyBlancofromtheBronx · 17/07/2023 17:09

I'd be annoyed that someone felt the need to wear their nan's nightie.