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For this to be worn to a wedding

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whoopeo · 17/07/2023 16:31

Please tell me if you would be annoyed if someone wore this to your wedding. It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

For this to be worn to a wedding
OP posts:
MrsU2022 · 17/07/2023 18:05

BennyBlancofromtheBronx · 17/07/2023 17:09

I'd be annoyed that someone felt the need to wear their nan's nightie.

Read my mind 😂

SaltyGod · 17/07/2023 18:06

It isn’t a dress I’d expect to see at a wedding, it looks like a nightie. I wouldn’t judge the dress choice but if someone wore it with a white blazer and accessories I would silently think ‘couldn’t you have found another colour?’

I’d question the judgement of the wearer but never mention it

Bumcake · 17/07/2023 18:06

White jackets and shoes with it are a bit much, I’d expect some silent judgement but not an all-out ruck.

Pipsquiggle · 17/07/2023 18:09

Pipsquiggle · 17/07/2023 18:03

  1. Why do you ask an internet forum their opinions when actually, it's only the bride's opinion that counts and we don't know her?
  2. Why would you team a mainly white dress with white accessories when you're not a bride at a wedding?
  3. When there are so many lovely colourful dresses out there, why would you choose a mainly white dress with white accessories when you are a wedding dress
  4. If you have to ask the question, then you probably know it's going to piss someone off

As a complete aside, I really don't like the dress. I think the pattern and cut are really unflattering and aging.
If it doesn't look good on a model in a photoshoot, it won't look great on a normal person

Just seen that this was worn - I would still think the above, would probably think about it for about 20 seconds and then move on.
If the bride was pissed off, I could see why. I hope she just enjoyed her day.

The dress does look horrible though

Flowerblooms · 17/07/2023 18:11

Dress is fine for a wedding not my taste but fine, teamed with a white blazer and white shoes would be a no from me and make me think the person wearing it had done it for attention. A nice pink shawl or blazer and matching shoes would be nice with the dress.

FFSwhatisthis · 17/07/2023 18:14

Nope, wouldn't give a flying if it was my wedding. Wouldn't have when I was young either.

id assume anyone coming to MY wedding would know who the bride was (ME) & not confuse me with someone because she was wearing white.

i wear a lot of white & have just realised I've been to at least two weddings where I wore white. 🤦🏻‍♀️Oops. One was 30 years ago & one nearly 10. Neither of them appear to be holding it against me. 💁🏻‍♀️

AvanGelist · 17/07/2023 18:16

No white at weddings - how hard is that to understand?
Chrissakes...

Purplegrape8 · 17/07/2023 18:16

No I wouldn’t care. I only just realized (whilst looking at photos) that my MIL wore a completely white dress on my wedding day ten years ago! I just don’t care about these things, I don’t really get why you would.

mum11970 · 17/07/2023 18:17

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

electriclight · 17/07/2023 18:17

Poor form to wear white to a wedding. Adding a white blazer and white shoes makes it even worse imo, no matter how many people say they wouldn't mind. The bride should be the only one in white in the photos.

Moveoverdarlin · 17/07/2023 18:19

Nope, that wouldn’t annoy me. It’s not plain white / ivory / cream. It’s got big pink flowers on. It’s not strapless or fitted, or has a full skirt. Doesn’t look remotely wedding dressy, so it wouldn’t bother me.

greyhairnomore · 17/07/2023 18:21

Dress ok , not with white jacket and shoes though.

LeviJeanQueen · 17/07/2023 18:22

I'd be annoyed that someone felt the need to wear their nan's nightie.

🤣 It’s an awful dress. I can’t imagine the bride would be feel upstaged by anyone wearing it.

Daffodilwoman · 17/07/2023 18:24

No it would not bother me.
Personally I think it would have been better with a coloured jacket and coloured shoes.
My mum wore a white dress to my wedding. Nobody mistook her for the bride.
The only time I have raised my eyebrows was when a guest ( at a very small wedding- less than 12) wore a skin tight pure white dress and white stilettos. She had a figure to die for. The bride wore a shorter style white dress too without a veil which seamed to make it worse.

Riapia · 17/07/2023 18:28

If were to attend an MN wedding wearing that the bride would be in “ floods of tears “ and the mother of the bride would be “ screaming in your face “. The groom would take the opportunity to text his OW. (There’s bound to be one waiting in the wings at an MN wedding).

😉😁😁😁😁

Poppysmom22 · 17/07/2023 18:31

I would go for a coral jacket rather than white

GiddyGladys · 17/07/2023 18:36

Yes with a white blazer and shoes.

Who wore it to your wedding?

HappyMe6 · 17/07/2023 18:37

Of course not it’s fine

TheSeaDoesntKnowMyName · 17/07/2023 18:46

No

Yes

Other

VisionsOfSplendour · 17/07/2023 18:46

I wouldn't care in the slightest, were you the bride? Were you worried that you'd be confused with the guest?

BubziOwl · 17/07/2023 18:47

Catcatcatcatcat · 17/07/2023 16:53

Unsuitable for a wedding. There are a billion other dresses/outfits anyone could wear.

Choosing predominantly white is a huge Fuck You, certainly in my neck of the woods.

Exactly. I don't understand the "but no one would mistake them for the bride" - the point is that wearing white is recognised by at lot of people as a deliberately disrespectful thing to do!

MysteryBelle · 17/07/2023 18:50

If this already happened, I would tend to surmise that the guest already had this casual dress that kind of looked right for a wedding and already had a white blazer and white shoes. She wore the white blazer to dress up the casualness of the dress and because she already had the blazer. Same with white shoes. She thought it was ok because it is a floral dress and a jacket is nowhere near wedding attire so even though it’s white, she thought it’d be ok. Is that what happened, Op?

MysteryBelle · 17/07/2023 18:51

And the guest is on the younger side, under 32.

NameChange245 · 17/07/2023 18:53

Thats a gorgeous dress! I'd have worn it :)

Lyricallie · 17/07/2023 18:54

At my wedding I probably wouldn’t notice. At one of my friend’s weddings we’d notice and definitely discuss.

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