For this to be worn to a wedding

[whoopeo]

Please tell me if you would be annoyed if someone wore this to your wedding. It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

Honestly When I think of some of the absolute fright outfits you see at weddings. 😄

SO was D Niece actually trying to disrespect the bride?

Is there form here?

A feud?

Does it go back through the generations? ( OP also told her mum. )

Where does it go from here?
All for the want of a Pink Blazer, imagine.....

It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

White blazer & white shoes is a bit much! If I were the bride & had a moment to think about it, I'd probably think it in poor taste - not just being too much 'bridal white' - but just too matchy-matchy white overall to be stylish.

But I doubt a bride would really be bothered with what guests wear.

No. Its a non description dress. Not showy, inappropriate or 'bridal'.I am however assuming it was worn by a woman!

Honest question - I’ve heard whole ‘don’t wear white to a wedding’ thing and understood that it was apparently something to do with upstaging the bride.

What if the bride doesn’t wear white? I got married in burgundy and my MIL chose to wear burgundy too. I don’t think anyone confused who was the bride… it didn’t piss me off, why would it? I find it mad that people think they can arbitrate what others wear. Same with the post on here recently about kids at funerals. I suppose there might be cultural issues at play but, even in that context, common sense must exist?

How does it affect you? What someone wears? It doesn’t. Smacks of families that fall out for decades because one aunt didn’t return another aunts plate after a family meal…

Everyone doesn't 'know this'. Its a ridiculous narrow minded idea that I was only vaguely aware of. Did you know white has widely been worn by brides only since the second world war?? Honestly think some people need to get out more - and get a bit of perspective. I mean, who, at a happy occasion like a wedding, would look round the room & find space in their head & heart to sneer at other guests who are there to celebrate your shared loved one?!

I love reading about what MN declares 'everyone' to know.

There really is a lot of pointless batshit nonsense in some people's heads. And no, 'everyone' doesn't know these things because they aren't true at all.

That's a lovely dress that looks nothing like a wedding dress so absolutely fine for a wedding guest to wear.

Just imagine going to a wedding and then someone says you know that dress you wore.....

I know. It’s such precious Hyacinth Bucket behaviour. Embarrassing.

Not even just that
White at a wedding is a predominantly western cultural thing.

It’s absolutely fine, even with a white jacket. It’s clearly not a wedding dress.

Yes, that is absolutely the appeal of Mn for me, the assertions of what people think is common knowledge, agreed on by all.

was DD upset? If not, then butt out

If she was, then butt out, she can deal with it

I wouldn’t have, but neither would I have bitched about someone else wearing it.

It was absolutely fine.

Well done for creating a family argument and spoiling memories of what was probably a lovely day.

Did the bride give a shit care?

I highly doubt that the bride was wearing a blazer so there was no upstaging at all

Disrespectful? Can you talk me through why it's disrespectful op?

I mean I really dislike the dress but other than that I can't see why you'd even care, let alone go out of your way to cause a family row about it.

The OP won’t be back.

I wouldn’t either, after outing myself as so petty and small-minded.

The way it is 'known' that you wear black or dark colours to a funeral (unless specified 'please wear pink' or whatever) at a wedding, the only person who is 'highlighted' in white should be the bride.

To go against this is considered a bit of a 'fuck you' to the bride.

This. Before OP posted the update, the majority agreed with her. Then all of a sudden, everyone is calling OP a drama queen. It makes no sense.

To go against this is considered a bit of a 'fuck you' to the bride.

God, it's like an episode of Succession.

I wouldn't wear the outfit to a wedding, I wouldn't want people talking about me and whether I'd done it to steal attention.

But confronting a guest and her mother after the wedding is insane.

One of my close friends wore a beautiful dress to my wedding, mostly white with red roses, bustier with a puff ball skirt. She showed it to me before (in a pic) and asked if it was ok and, of course, I said, 'wear it, it's gorgeous' I thought she looked stunning.
This was 20yrs ago.
What's the 'done thing'?

I agree. Pink jacket and accessories would have looked much better.

I imagine she removed the jacket at the reception so it would have been fine.