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For this to be worn to a wedding

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whoopeo · 17/07/2023 16:31

Please tell me if you would be annoyed if someone wore this to your wedding. It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

For this to be worn to a wedding
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JenniferBarkley · 17/07/2023 18:54

Wouldn't have bothered me as the bride.

No way would I wear it as a guest especially with a white jacket - wouldn't want anyone talking about me.

If you wore it you broke the etiquette not to wear white. If you were the bride, it's only a dress relax (and if it was done to cause drama don't feed it). In summary, it's a dress it's not a big deal.

Maddy70 · 17/07/2023 18:56

I think if it had had a pink blazer and not white it would have been better but I think I the dress is fine as its floral

cruisebaba1 · 17/07/2023 18:59

BennyBlancofromtheBronx · 17/07/2023 17:09

I'd be annoyed that someone felt the need to wear their nan's nightie.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

wonkylegs · 17/07/2023 19:01

Dress is fine would go with coloured accessories as white would wash it out and make it more 'white'
Not my style and it is bordering on the nightie look so be careful how you accessorise and style it.

ScentlessAprentice · 17/07/2023 19:02

I genuinely wouldn't give a fuck. I couldn't tell you what anyone wore to our wedding, I was far too busy getting married and being happy to pay attention to outfits worn by our guests. But if any if them did wear white (now I'm going to have to look at the photos to check), I wouldn't care. Dh and I knew I was the bride, everyone else there knew I was the bride, it's not like a guest's outfit could un-bride me 😂

But if you're considering wearing that dress to a wedding, please don't. Not because it's white, but because it's hideous. And a white blazer and shoes with it would look awful.

RappersDelighted · 17/07/2023 19:05

It’s very white - I wouldn’t personally

mn29 · 17/07/2023 19:05

Not at all, it doesn’t look bridal in any way.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 17/07/2023 19:05

I knew the OP wouldn’t be back…

As a general rule of thumb, if you have to ask “Is this too white for a wedding guest?”, it’s too white.

Paperbagsaremine · 17/07/2023 19:22

ClaudiaWankleman · 17/07/2023 17:28

Nowadays a Chinese bride is reasonably likely to wear a white, western style bridal gown. If it's a particularly traditional wedding then white would be the colour of death, so about as appropriate as gifting a watch or a green hat. So no, not all good.

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Yep, forgot about that!

ThatFraggle · 17/07/2023 19:23

You could take a tenner -£5 for bus fare. £5 in a charity shop. After an hour or so you would find something to wear.

It's taking the Mick.

tattygrl · 17/07/2023 19:24

I don't think I'd go so far as to actually be annoyed, but I would be questioning why they'd gone for so much white. It would irritate me a little bit because I'd wonder why they couldn't just choose any other colour, but it wouldn't stick with me for very long.

MysteryBelle · 17/07/2023 19:27

It does look exactly like a nightgown. If she had slippers on, no jewelry, and her hair pulled back and no makeup, all of us would think it was a nightgown, be honest.

HarrietStyles · 17/07/2023 19:29

It would raise a judgemental eyebrow from me paired with a white blazer and white shoes. Paired with a coloured blazer and coloured shoes, possibly ok.

weddingwaiting · 17/07/2023 19:32

Yes because you could wear literally anything else.

In a world where you know that someone might be upset by wearing that just why risk it? Why try to “get away” with it? That is why I would be annoyed, because it looks as though you are trying to flex the rules “oh but it wasn’t a plain white dress”. Just wear something else ffs 🙄🙄

SharonEllis · 17/07/2023 19:33

I was pondering why this could possibly annoy anyone. Seriously no clue, so I read the comments. And this is one of the reasons why I haven't married - you either conform to the totally weird rules around weddings, and all the self-imposed grief - or you have to self consciously rebel and be different & still cause comment. I find it bizarre.
(P.S. partner & I together for 24 years and never fallen out with anyone about what they choose to wear!)

SharonEllis · 17/07/2023 19:37

AvanGelist · 17/07/2023 18:16

No white at weddings - how hard is that to understand?
Chrissakes...

Says who though? Who made this daft rule? If you've been invited to a wedding surely you know the bride & won't muddle her up with someone else?! She's the one at the centre of attention, usually.

StaunchMomma · 17/07/2023 19:38

The shape and floral print mean the dress is fine. The wite accessories were taking the piss a bit, maybe.

Picking out a shade of green/pink would have looked better than white shoes and blazer, too.

xyz111 · 17/07/2023 19:41

If you're questioning it, then the answer is no. There's thousands of dresses out there. It's not worth the risk of an odd comment or anyone being annoyed at you.

Curseofthenation · 17/07/2023 19:43

I wouldn't be annoyed but I wouldn't risk wearing it as a guest. If I really loved the dress, then I would wear a pink blazer and pink shoes instead.

clpsmum · 17/07/2023 19:45

I wouldn't personally wear white to a wedding

ThatFraggle · 17/07/2023 19:45

SharonEllis · 17/07/2023 19:37

Says who though? Who made this daft rule? If you've been invited to a wedding surely you know the bride & won't muddle her up with someone else?! She's the one at the centre of attention, usually.

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Every society has rules. We all follow them all the time.

Of course you can choose to deliberately break them, but there's always a consequence. Until so many people break the rule that it's no longer considered to be a rule.

Some of us here have grandmothers or even mothers for whom it was at one time 'not done' to leave the house without a hat/headscarf. Yes, in England. (MNer in her 70s could have a mother born in 1920).

Stopthetest · 17/07/2023 19:47

I wouldn't wear this as a guest but wouldn't care if someone did to my wedding. I think only a drama llama could get upset about this, they're hardly going to be mistaken for the bride in a crappy floral dress.

AuntieStella · 17/07/2023 19:50

I think it's fine, because it's floral.

I wouldn't choose a white blazer if I had any reasonable alternative though

Epicstorm · 17/07/2023 19:50

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut ·
I wouldn't personally be annoyed at my wedding, no.

But I think all white accessories with that dress is pushing it a bit OP. I wouldn't wear it to someone else's wedding.

My thoughts exactly.

fruitbrewhaha · 17/07/2023 19:52

I’d be annoyed because it looks like they rolled out of bed in their nightie.

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