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For this to be worn to a wedding

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whoopeo · 17/07/2023 16:31

Please tell me if you would be annoyed if someone wore this to your wedding. It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

For this to be worn to a wedding
OP posts:
Piyo · 17/07/2023 17:10

Don’t do it.

dress- fine. White blazer etc. no!!

Babadook76 · 17/07/2023 17:12

I wouldn’t wear that to a wedding. And why are you teaming it with all white accessories?

tweener · 17/07/2023 17:13

Wouldn't bother me. It's very clearly not a wedding dress so I wouldn't care.

CamCola · 17/07/2023 17:13

Why would you team it with a white blazer and white shoes? are you trying to annoy the bride on purpose?

Fairyliz · 17/07/2023 17:14

I wouldn’t wear that with a white blazer to a wedding or anywhere else. Unless your blazer is made from exactly the same material the ‘whites’ won’t be the same. So it will look like one of them has faded in the wash.
Surely a coral coloured blazer would be better?

madeinmanc · 17/07/2023 17:16

Why does this question come up here every day? The answer's not changed since yesterday: don't wear white to a wedding if you're not the bride.

CrabbiesGingerBeer · 17/07/2023 17:18

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 17/07/2023 16:33

I wouldn't personally be annoyed at my wedding, no.

But I think all white accessories with that dress is pushing it a bit OP. I wouldn't wear it to someone else's wedding.

I agree. It’s fine as it is or with a coloured blazer and shoes but not all white.

Canidoitreally · 17/07/2023 17:18

The dress wouldn't annoy me.
The dress with coloured jacket and shoes wouldn't annoy me.
The dress with white jacker and accessories would receive silent judgement but wouldn't ruin my day.

DoesNotPlayWellWithIdiots · 17/07/2023 17:20

The dress itself is ok (pushing it a bit, but ok) but with a white jacket and shoes? Nope. Too much white for a wedding.

It wouldn't bother me as the bride but it is kind of a rule for a guest not to wear white and I guess some brides might be upset by it. It's their day after all.

caringcarer · 17/07/2023 17:20

The dress is fine. I'd not wear a white blazer though. Pink blazer would be better.

nousername0 · 17/07/2023 17:21

I wouldn't be annoyed because I don't really care. But I would maybe wonder why the wore that, especially with white accessories. To me, it is a white (floral) dress.

skyeisthelimit · 17/07/2023 17:22

The dress isn't white so I don't see a problem. It is too casual to be mistaken for a wedding dress.

I wouldn't wear a white blazer with it though, that crosses the line Grin. I would pick up the coral colour and get a blazer that matches that. or no blazer at all.

I did see somebody wear a plain white lacy dress to a wedding once and raised my eyebrows at that one, but anything with a pattern on, is not a white dress.

strawberry2017 · 17/07/2023 17:24

I don't think it's an appropriate pick personally: especially with the white blazer and accessories.
Too much white.
As a bride I wouldn't be annoyed as such but I would think the wearer was a bit of a dick for picking it 😂

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/07/2023 17:25

I think the dress is fine (wouldn’t suit me, but it’s fine in itself)

But with coloured jacket and shoes to pick out one of the colours in the flowers, not white jacket or shoes.

MrsMcisaCt · 17/07/2023 17:25

Looks like a nightie. I wouldn't be annoyed but I would secretly think you looked like you should be in bed.

CrabbiesGingerBeer · 17/07/2023 17:26

So is this a ‘I wore this and I’m getting criticism’ post or a ‘someone else wore this and I want to know if I’m justified in being upset’ post?

ClaudiaWankleman · 17/07/2023 17:28

Paperbagsaremine · 17/07/2023 16:45

My random take is, with the white blazer and shoes it falls into the "raised eyebrows and silent judging" category rather than "audible tutting and shepherding out of sight of the main wedding party" but guests are meant to avoid wearing white at a wedding because they're not the bride (and black because they're not at a funeral).

Ofc if it's, say, a Chinese or Indian wedding where the bride is wearing red then it's all good!

Nowadays a Chinese bride is reasonably likely to wear a white, western style bridal gown. If it's a particularly traditional wedding then white would be the colour of death, so about as appropriate as gifting a watch or a green hat. So no, not all good.

HowcanIhelp123 · 17/07/2023 17:28

Dress is fine, its the blazer and shoes that aren't. A coloured blazer and shoes would have been more appropriate.

LordEmsworth · 17/07/2023 17:29

Why would you be unreasonable if someone else wears a dress to a wedding?

Iateallthechocolate · 17/07/2023 17:55

The OP says it was worn...... somebody already did this. Please tell us what the reaction was

Merryoldgoat · 17/07/2023 17:56

Nope. My MIL wore a white jacket to my wedding with a white cami and floral skirt - very similar vibe to this. It was lovely.

L1342 · 17/07/2023 17:58

It was worn with a plain white dress blazer and white shoes for context.

uh oh whose wedding did you wear this to?

Gazelda · 17/07/2023 17:59

I'd probably roll my eyes, but wouldn't let it spoil my day.

OP, are you the bride?

stayathomer · 17/07/2023 18:02

No, think it’s gorgeous but then I don’t get the ‘no white’ thing. People are ridiculous!!

Pipsquiggle · 17/07/2023 18:03
  1. Why do you ask an internet forum their opinions when actually, it's only the bride's opinion that counts and we don't know her?
  2. Why would you team a mainly white dress with white accessories when you're not a bride at a wedding?
  3. When there are so many lovely colourful dresses out there, why would you choose a mainly white dress with white accessories when you are a wedding dress
  4. If you have to ask the question, then you probably know it's going to piss someone off

As a complete aside, I really don't like the dress. I think the pattern and cut are really unflattering and aging.
If it doesn't look good on a model in a photoshoot, it won't look great on a normal person

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