Page 11 | am I going mad? Has that nanny thread being deleted or did I dream it?

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 21:47

Nah, you're right, MrsRuf. They were pretty tame, but I've always had the ability to nark people. It's not consciously done, or not for the express purpose of narking ... I just speak my mind for the most part. And I often take the piss. Most people (Aitch, to name one) generally know it, but others don't.

I think there are a few people on MN who are disingenuous, to say the least.

KerryMum shares the ability to nark (not me, btw), which is why we're rather close! It isn't the first time and it won't be the last time .. but I do get a bit vexed when my words get misinterpreted, or over-embellished.

For instance, one poster today claimed that I was always on the SAHM/WOHM boards kicking up trouble. The truth is, I hardly ever enter the debates. I'm neither one nor the other, anyway. It was a lie .. and I don't like lying.

Still, we shall live to fight another day!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 21:47

Oh hunker is great and straight up in RL too. She's utterly fab, and even funnier. You'd get along famously I'm sure.

mehdismummy · 25/02/2008 21:49

pmsl at this entire thread. God why is everyone so wound up about everyone else business. Lol at hunker that would be capital comment! . All of you get over to mrsgg thread and wish her and her prem baby the best. This brave amazing strong woman has had a rough weekend left her dh and went into prem labour. She has a little girl who is intensive care. So instead of bickering like kids lets give her some positive vibes. Lets be together eg?

hunkermunker · 25/02/2008 21:50

Desi, I didn't "claim" anything of the sort - I said I'd seen you post several times across different threads recently on this topic and I came to the conclusion you were stirring, since you said you weren't that bothered by it.

So don't lie yourself, please.

Are you quite well? You're a lot more confrontational recently.

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 21:55

Yes, I've already done that, meh.

Hunker, I am confrontational because I have been provoked all day, and you have been one of the provokers.

I am quite well, thank you. If you mean by that, am I pissed? the answer is no. But thanks for your concern. I have been pissed twice since September last, and both times were at Christmas.

I have been no different in my posting style. Some people like it, others don't.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 22:03

Actually, you do seem quite arsey desi - just on reading your posts. But we all have days where we are more abrasive than others, and more sensitive than others.

Can't see just how provocative hunker could have been, she's posted less than 20 times today. Perhaps because you've had more detractors than usual you think hunker is getting at you more than she actually is?

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 22:13

No, VV, I am not being arsey, and I haven't been posting arsey. You just enjoy the scenario.

This is desi-bashing day. On almost every level, I don't mind. But I can't say it hasn't had any impact. Hunker was not nice about me today, and you're stealing in for a bit of cheap amusement.

I don't honestly care, and I dislike neither of you. But I wasn't born yesterday.

Never mind. I know enough about you both to understand that it won't leave the thread. I'm sure we'll be in agreement about something, soon.

mehdismummy · 25/02/2008 22:21

stop it now. now shake hands and make up. Or to bed with you with no tea!

PussinJimmyChoos · 25/02/2008 22:24

Salaam MM - your DH paid you for 2 years b/feeding yet???

Janni · 25/02/2008 22:30

Xenia - your last post got me thinking. I am a SAHM to three. I could, theoretically, have a nanny, but would no more do so than fly to the moon because I would feel GUILTY and UNCOMFORTABLE. I can't even employ a cleaner, because when I have tried I am so soft with them that they don't do much work and burden me with all their problems
I am not proud of this trait in myself, it infuriates me. I believe it has something to do with seeing my mother work full-time, keep house and raise three children plus pander to a crap husband. Something in me feels I can't have too much more than she did and I already have a nice DH and enough money to be a SAHM so that should be enough. I don't expect you to understand this, I just want to make the point that whether or not one is COMFORTABLE with outsourcing your cleaning/childcare etc can be as much about your social conditioning as about your current financial situation.

Oblomov · 25/02/2008 22:33

I went to the mrsgg thread, but am back now. How odd.
What is going on here ?

slim22 · 25/02/2008 22:59

Went to bed last night thinking I'll read through in the morning without posting as everyone will then be in bed.
I slept through all this and now the thread deleted!
Feels like my favorite show been cancelled!

Just wanted to give a little support to Desi. I think your initial comment was superfluous in the context of the initial thread but honestly being the subject of a spin off bashing thread!.....I think it's good MNHQ deleted the whole thing.

mehdismummy · 25/02/2008 23:02

salaam puss. No he has not.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 23:02

Oh desi pack it in with the paranoia and scheming plots, you silly old mare. Get your laughing gear fixed, and get a grip on your usual self

and FWIW, I dont do cheap amusement, I'm a classy bird me.

mehdismummy · 25/02/2008 23:02

salaam puss. No he has not.

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 23:19

Thank you, Slim. It's been quite a day.

VV, until you have been subject to a spin-off, 'I hate VV thread', I don't really think you're in a position to make jolly.

We're cool, but I just want to you know that it isn't nice. On the same thread? Justified. To set up another ... not.

I'm not cross on a personal level. As many posters have pointed out, it's water off a duck's back to me. I'm 42 years old. I've had my share of RL grief to battle. People who have met me, like me. As I like them.

Hunker's comments were out of order. You went to her defence, as I would expect you to, and as I expect my friends on here to do.

But since neither of you employ a nanny, I can't help wondering why you were both quite so snidey.

slim22 · 25/02/2008 23:19

mehdismum.

hunkermunker · 25/02/2008 23:21

You weren't talking about nannys, Desi, on the thread I mentioned. I'll C&P if you like?

I'm sorry if I've upset you. But you weren't being nice At All when you posted, so don't play the poor wounded poster - it doesn't suit.

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 23:26

Publish and be damned, hunker. Do what you wish.

Link to my offensive posts. That's the least of my worries. The very least of them.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 23:30

I wasnt snidey at all . I've not been particularly serious, tis true, but not snidey. And see, this is what makes me think you are just being arsey. Coz i'll guarantee you'll not be able to find a snidey post of mine on here today.

I didnt see the original thread, or, the second one that has apparently been deleted. I've no idea what's been said elsewhere - I've barely been on the last week or so, except to post directly about myself. All I've seen is whta hunker has posted today, and, knowing what she's like in RL, I feel able to reassure you that she's not how you seemed to be posting about her earlier. I'm happy to say that because she IS my friend, and I dont make friends with just anyone, i'm quite choosy .

And, FWIW, I've been at the forefront of a few OP's minds a few times. I even had my own MN stalker at one point, whose sole purpose seemed to be to follow me around and post nasty, derogatory, argumentative or snidey comments directly at me. They got banned for it in the end. I've got a few folk who seem to like to take cheap shots at me here and there too atm. That's their look out and it makes them look sad, i'm not bothered, but, I cant deny it's put me off the place recently - hence my lack of presence.

I think I'll stick to my WW and fanjo threads!!!!!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 23:30

I wasnt snidey at all . I've not been particularly serious, tis true, but not snidey. And see, this is what makes me think you are just being arsey. Coz i'll guarantee you'll not be able to find a snidey post of mine on here today.

I didnt see the original thread, or, the second one that has apparently been deleted. I've no idea what's been said elsewhere - I've barely been on the last week or so, except to post directly about myself. All I've seen is whta hunker has posted today, and, knowing what she's like in RL, I feel able to reassure you that she's not how you seemed to be posting about her earlier. I'm happy to say that because she IS my friend, and I dont make friends with just anyone, i'm quite choosy .

And, FWIW, I've been at the forefront of a few OP's minds a few times. I even had my own MN stalker at one point, whose sole purpose seemed to be to follow me around and post nasty, derogatory, argumentative or snidey comments directly at me. They got banned for it in the end. I've got a few folk who seem to like to take cheap shots at me here and there too atm. That's their look out and it makes them look sad, i'm not bothered, but, I cant deny it's put me off the place recently - hence my lack of presence.

I think I'll stick to my WW and fanjo threads!!!!!

hunkermunker · 25/02/2008 23:31

I'll leave it, Desi.

Shake?

VVV I remember your stalker - she was a mad cow, wasn't she?!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 23:33

cowmad indeed.

Desiderata · 25/02/2008 23:40

Yes, I'll shake, hunker. We agree on the things that matter.

But do the link to the offensive posts as well, please. I've been sober for months, and it freaks me out when people say that I've been weird, for obvious reasons (or at least obvious if you're battling an addition and you think you're beating it).

VeniVidiVickiQV · 25/02/2008 23:42

Well, I'd accuse you of being pre-menstrual if I didnt know you were already post-menopause......