am I going mad? Has that nanny thread being deleted or did I dream it?

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Oooh what did you say on the mythical thread hunker?

I still think arsebiscuits is the answer

Everyone is SO angry today! There is so much attitude flying around here at the mo!

I'll have to have a look at what exactly I said.

I have a copy of the thread about my person

so this is a thread about a thread about a thread. surreal.

Lol TotalChaos...I said exactly the same thing on the previous thread.....

TC - check out the latest thread

pmsl karen and VVQV. I'm impressed by the stamina of anyone that can still be arsed to continue arguing!

I have been on the receiving end of much flak all day, thanks.

Now I know what you think of me, we shall agree to steer clear of each other in future.

I post my opinions. If people don't like them, they're entitled to say so. I'm still entitled to post them.

But I don't start threads about other people, or contribute negatively to them, and I am personally always uncomfortable when other people do, whether they're about me or someone else.

I'd like to start a thread about debate, followed by sarcasm, abuse, back-pedalling, snappiness, breath-taking pomposity, and arsebiscuits. With a cigarette break in the middle.

I understand now why people were banging on about class earlier - it's because a lot of people on here have class confused with money.

It's all becoming clear now.

Shame, I think we have similar views about raising children in some respects, Desi.

But your (related to this subject) comment the other day was beyond the pale. Truly. Yes, you were entitled to post it. I am entitled to curl my lip when I see your name.

lol Bang- still hammering away at it

As Father Jack would say. 'Drink, Feck, Arse'!

My comments were no more beyond the pale than twenty others you can read on MN every day.

It's not like I said, anyone with a nanny is a total cunt, is it? I said I don't understand why anyone would want one. I rarely post on issues to do with childcare of any shade, but 'Is my Nanny being superior?' seemed too good an opportunity to pass up.

I don't think my comments were overwhelmingly rude ... they just stuck up some people's nose, that's all. I read shitloads of stuff on here everyday that I disagree with, but I'm not always inclined to enter through stage door left with a flaming pitchfork.

It would seem that it's desi-bashing/greeny-bashing day today. Hey ho! I'm sure we'll cope.

I don't really think there are any victims on this thread,except maybe choosy (who was actually on the last thread, not this one) because she felt she unintetionally might have started it -- which she didn't.

Both Greeny and Desi did their share of provoking. And so did I (by starting the thread). But, really it's time to move on...

And is anyone going to tell me the bloody policy is that I am alleged to have violated?????? Please!

ask on the other thread
the one that's started about this thread
am too scared to post as it will pop up every time for days and days and days

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Eleusis, really the policy is simple common sense, if you have a disagreement with a work colleague, for example do you a) take work colleague aside and tell them quietly that you didn't like what they said, or b) do you loudly proclaim all over the office, how they've pissed you off so that they and everyone else can hear.
I know you've said you were wrong but, next time it might be wise to think before you press post.

I'm not one to arse lick...but I've met Desi - and she's just as straight up with what she thinks in RL! She called me a sop on a thread for wanting a designer mummy bag but I just laughed as there is an element of truth in that and I like that she was honest enough to say so!

There are always comments being made about other people's choices - some people get jumped on for them more than others. If a certain veteran mnetter came on a thread making comments about nannies in the way Desi did, I doubt people would be jumping down her throat in the same way!

Am also with what The Armadillo said - there is far too much sniping over other people's choices here - at the end of the day all we are trying to do is the best job we can, to the best of our ability - apart from the bitch that doesn't change her DD's nappy....am quite happy to snipe, judge and bitch her choice in that instance!!!

Peace people....

PJC!I have a thread we can do!
I saw, get this, a new tin of fake pretend made-up infant formula in Tanya's kitchen yesterday!!
They did listen!!

I suppose it depends whether the work colleague made his/her comments in a public forum.

But, I really think it's time to move on.

I just want to read the actual policy so I can understand what not to do in the future. I don't wish to upset MNtowers. So, best to srt out what my boundariesare.

Thank you, Puss

VS - I noticed that!!! I said to DH ooooh they removed the SMA and DH said huh?? wtf???

ha ha!!

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People just have different views. I can't understand how anyone who could afford a nanny would not have one even if they were a housewife and plenty of housewives do have them. It can mean if you've 5 children like me say that you're with 3 and the nanny is with 2 or the nanny is driving one to a party miles away and the others don't have to tag along. Childcare whether you work or don't or relief from a husband or granny means you can be a better mother when you do have the children too because you're had that break, that long bath or whatever and you're happier than had you had the children form 5am when the baby woke until 9pm when the husband at last showed up from work.

I can't believe that Desi's remark has started all this fuss.
Seemed quite tame to me but then I always seem to be involved in rows on here so maybe I hardened