am I going mad? Has that nanny thread being deleted or did I dream it?

[Chequers]

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It has yeah,

oh wow, i have never seen a thread deleted before!

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Can anyone give me a brief synopsis of what was said in the last 8 pages or so? I was in mid-read when it disappeared....

d@mn - but it was like watching a movie only for the electrics to go out midway....

Oooh, what is someone gives a summary and then that gets deleted - we could go on all day with this. Poo, I missed it meself!

and I was getting into a conversation with Xenia which was interesting

thanks MNHQ

If someone asks for a whole thread to go, mnhq will consider the request.

Quite often ime it's the OP who asks for threads to go (not saying that happened here, because I don't know)

so why wasn't the cminder one deleted, there was more fighting on that!

Was it the one where the OP was being a bit nasty about someone who wrote on a nanny thread that she couldn't understand why people used nanny's?

its soooo frustrating. I popped out and when I got back it had gone!!! Was at the point where I think we were discussing relatives doing the childcare.

I wish I knew at what point does a thread get deleted? I have seen worse tbh...

It's down to whether or not someone asks for it to be deleted and whether mnhq thinks they have a good reason to ask.

Presumably nobody asked for the childminder one to go.

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"outsourced their children's upbringing" actually.

Which I defined in very specific terms, which were not met by most people's definitions of childcare.

But it's much more fun to deliberately misinterpret someone's words, in order to procure a good old blustery indignant MN beanfeast.

A lot of the threads with loads of fighting on them will stand, because it's mn policy for the talkboards to be self-policing. So unless mners complain about posts or threads they don't take action.

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Sorry Chequers, I'm rattled about the thread, not your post on this one.

I dont see the point of complaining....if you dont like it then leave the thread.....its supposed to be a forum where you can feel free to express your views...

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Thank you!!!!

I go through active convos, click any threads I fancy into new tabs, and then go through and read. Couldn't bloody remember which thread I had opened in that tab, so had no idea what was deleted

What does outsourced their children's upbringing mean?

So was it deleted because it referred to one person's comment? It was quite tame I thought no swearing and fighting at all really just lots of rambling most of it not really in relation to OP

grouphug IMO (which is how I presented it - I actually said "those of us who feel uneasy with...."

the difference IMO is partly in extent (ten hours a day from the age of two weeks for example) and partly in nature of the childcare - IMO employing a nanny who does so many of the intimate and personal aspects of the child's care that she is in effect more of a parent to the child than the parent is. Nannies who do all of the child's washing/meal planning/playdates/remembering stuff for school/organising activities, while the parent sees the child for an hour or so around work.

I didn't single out mothers, and I didn't forbid anyone else their choices - I said I feel uneasy with it.

ditto grouphug.
I didn't see it.
and have the utmost respect for greeny, but greeny could you please explain, what it actually meant ?

and why is thst contentious then ?
Presumably, mis-read/misunderstood.